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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Non Clicky Poll s/o being off the hook.
Thanks Brandy,
Could I ask you a favor? Could you delete my part that was quoted? Just cause of personal info... Thank you!
Haha, nice! Me three
Done.
Sorry about that. I am a moron!
Most people know we plan to have kids, but most of them only know that we plan to adopt. For a few reasons we haven't told anyone we're ttc, but a few very close friends know that we might at some point. Other than random people whose noses are everywhere they shouldn't be, only two of my older sisters talk about it -- one to advise that earlier is better b/c pregnancy/recovery/chasing around a toddler is easier when you are younger and the other b/c she just thinks we should. My mom has started to ask about it, too, but all of them are fairly respectful and non-pushy about it.
I'm sorry so many of you are having trouble dealing w/others' cares about your family choices
Best sound ever: baby's heartbeat! (Heard @ 10w1d)
both families and most of my friends/coworkers know kids aren't in the plan for us. I feel like getting married really caused everyone to start asking about our plans. rude? yes. We also have 9 pregnant women on our team (yes, 9) so the topic of kids on our mostly female team comes up quite a bit.
the only time I mind is when I get the 'but you HAVE to have kids, you'd be such a great mom"
Maybe that's true, but I don't think so, I don't want them (at least right now) so back off!
One of my bffs checks in pretty regularly to see if I've changed my mind, but it's in a pretty supportive way so I don't mind. My mom is having an extremely hard time dealing with it, but has been mostly respectful. While i'm still young (25) if 30 or 35 roll around and I haven't "come to my senses" in her mind, I think she will start giving me a much harder time about it.
Agreed!
Totally this. What crap! I'd be livid.
For us, no one in either family is/was nagging us except DH's little sister (who's just 19 now, lol; she started 'nagging' us about it when we got married a couple years ago)... Seriously -- one of his aunts asked us once, a year before we started TTC, if we were planning to have kids, and before I could answer, immediately apologised for being "nosy". I love my ILs.
But, yeah, with no one pestering us about it, we felt comfortable sharing a general timeline (i.e.: "First kid to be born sometime in 2012, and ~3yr gap before the next one; option on a third, but no guarantees") with everyone once we'd decided on one, haha. We didn't tell anyone we were actually PG before the end of the 1st trimester, though.
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No you rock! Thanks