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Do you or DH have an overbearing parent?
My aunt, who is like my mom, just doesn't get it. It's her way or no way. That's it. She doesn't understand that just because a crib was safe thirty years ago, it's probably not now. She's set in her ways and NO ONE had better question her, or else. She will cut you out of her life yesterday if you DARE tell her you don't agree with anything she does. She once left the stove on at our house when babysitting...I said to my HUSBAND, wow, the stove is on...SHE FLIPPED. We didn't even say a word to her...she'll interrupt, butt in. When I was younger (teen years, she raised me...) she used to give away my belongings without asking me. When I got mad at her, she's SCREAM at me. This can't be normal, right?
I'm sorry to vent, but it's almost too much to handle...Have you every cut a family member out of your life?
Re: Do you or DH have an overbearing parent?
it sounds like she has some major issues. obviously i can't "diagnose" someone from a paragraph (or at all, i'm just saying maybe she has no issues and chooses to be that way), but no, normal people don't act like that. maybe tell her how much it effects you, that you love her, and want to see her be happier and not be so angry. my first instinct is to help someone, to offer them support.... but if they're unwilling to after a heartfelt, calm approach, well you have every right to cut that relationship out of your life. does she act like that with your kids? it sounds like she's overly defensive, maybe she would benefit from some therapy. I can be KINDA like that, i read into things being critical of me. It stems from my overly critical father, i have a hard time putting my guard down with anyone. Even though I know where it comes from, i also know it's my issue, and i can't expect anyone else to put up with it. I'm thankful they do when it does come out. Hopefully she'd be receptive of a private conversation about it and see it's coming from a place of love.