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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Re: Monday confessions/vents/rants
I was really hoping I was pg, but I'm not. We agreed last February that we'd only ttc for another year, otherwise the age gap between Bean and the newborn would be too much. We talked about it the other day, and K said that he wants to stick to what we said last year and be done. I kind of agree, but I'm also mad about it. And sad. And confused.
I'm kind of nervous because the company I work for is downsizing and people are getting let go left and right. I wouldn't be too worried if I had one doctor I worked for all the time. But I have 2, who also have their own nurses as well. My job could easily be gone in an instant.
The most beautiful place on earth to me: Glacier NP
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Acyclovir at 800mg every 4 hours. Its been about 3 hours since E got home and he says it doesn't look much different. Will be putting a call into the Dr in the AM if it looks any different then.
Confession: I have made a new friend on base, whose company I thoroughly enjoy, our babies are weeks apart in age, and we have a lot, value wise, in common. That said, I am very envious of her life; they have a beautiful home, filled with all high end quality furnishings, and beautiful and classy decor. I know it's because they are older, more established and up until about a year ago, they had two professional level incomes, not just one. Still, I can't help but look around at our hand-me-down and mismatched furnishings and my pathetic excuse for decor and wonder if I'll ever feel comfortable having her over here.
I think there a billion new posters here that I have zero idea about. But I've been gone for a while too.
My rant is that I went bar hopping two nights in a row (home visiting family/friends) and the next day felt reaaally old. Like, struggling to bend over to give DD a bath. Terrible stuff, finding out you're too old to party like a rockstar anymore.
So, at the halfway night party during H's deployment I met 2 women who also didn't have kids. I have since hung out with chick # 1 alone, and both of them together. I wasn't a huge fan of chick #1, but I wanted friends who also had spouses on H's ship so I went along whenever they invited me to do stuff with them.
I recently hung out with chick #2 for the first time one on one, and I felt a real connection. Now I feel kinda b!tchy because I'd rather just hang out with her and not chick #1. Chick #2 is more soft-spoken and chick #1 is constantly interrupting and talking over her (and me, too). I kinda get the impression that chick #2 hangs out with chick #1 because she doesn't know anyone else around here.
Problem is, I'm going to feel like a friend stealer if I just start inviting chick #2 to hang out and not the other (since they were hanging out together first)
I also have the feeling I'm making this more complicated than it needs to be.
67/200
I was in this exact same situation as you last deployment. We got to the command after the ship was already gone, so we didn't have a chance to meet anyone before H left to meet the ship. I met one wife through the FRG Facebook group and at a meeting, and it turned out she lived across the street from me. So I hung out with her sometimes since she was literally the only person in the state that I knew at that point, but I really didn't like her. She was really negative, and was a complete Debbie Downer to hang out with.
One night we were out walking our dogs together in our complex and met another wife walking her dog. I kinda instantly clicked with this girl and got realy close with her. We would hang out the 3 of us, but new girl and I both realized we didn't really like the other friend, but didn't want to ditch her without at least her H home. So we begrudgingly would hang out with her sometimes, but as soon as the ship came back we pretty much ended all communication. I honestly don't regret it for a second because she was such an negative person in my life, and the other girl is one of my closest friends now.
Sorry, that got long. Basically, do what you gotta do for you. Don't force yourself to hang out with someone you can't stand. Part of this lifestyle is having to wade through people at each command finding out how you really want to be friends with.
For what its worth, I'm with LL. There's 4 yrs, 7 yrs, and 14yrs between me & my siblings. And we all get along really well, especially now that were older.
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We're moving to a bigger house soon, if we don't get a townhouse ( as opposed to a midrise) I'm going to throw an all out temper beebee tantrum while Screaming "It's not FAIR!" for a whole month.
I know how I sound. I apologize.
Oh, I have a rant. I sell my books on amazon. Well, I had a book that had been returned. Then, it was sold again. I shipped it the next day and it needed to arrive between the 9th-16th. I sent it out and it arrived on the 11th. Well, on the 9th, the girl says she needs to cancel the order because I couldn't ship it out on time. Um, I shipped your order, you_bitch. And you have a tracking number. How the eff can I cancel your order when it is half way to your house?
ANYWHO, I sent her an emailing saying I shipped the book and it arrived on time. I will not refund her anything and she needs to take it up with amazon. I'm already out 20 dollars on shipping on this damn_book because of the first buyer. I know this makes me a witch but I fullfilled my order and on time.
Good. Her attitude in the message pissed me the eff off. I understood the other woman's return because she ordered the wrong book and told me to just refund her the book cost minus shipping (I refunded the whole thing). This girl is just being a pissy witch who apparently doesn't know what standard shipping is. If she doesn't want the book, she can sell it.
I'm not sure if this exists everywhere but DH is at Ft Hood and he has a calendar that shows all of their long weekends. He brought one home for the first time this week. Would have been nice to have them years ago!
Photo bomb, yeah!
Oh, they have them at his unit (not on paper, but it is written down and know months in advance). He just never tells me about them until it's too late for me to do anything about getting time off work.
I know this because our last FRG meeting was held in the room with the big whiteboard that had the calendar posted on it, showing every one of those long weekends for the next four months. I wrote them all down, and now have those ones, but many of them already line up with work travel for one or the other of us.
Hopefully, he'll someday realize he needs to give me the information if he wants me to make arrangements...
::::::::HUGS::::::::
Thanks.
We're having a girls night tonight so I'm sure that will help. I will say that I'm proud I kicked my own butt out of bed and came to work. Sitting around moping won't help anything.
Hugs sweetie.
Thanks.
How are YOU feeling?
Meh. I itch and with as sensitive as my skin is every time I use the cortisone or benedryl cream I make the itching worse. I've just decided to suffer in silence( well to everyone but E, poor E has heard how crappy I feel and how itchy I am about a million times since Friday). I was hoping that the meds with decrease the itching but it doesn't seem to be. I think if things don't seem to improve by next Wednesday( that will be when I'm done with the meds) I'll go back to the doctor. Thank you for asking!
Hugs to you girl. Mine was last Thursday, so I went shopping, ate like crap, and drank a bit. Hang in there
I have a rant/vent.
My HS BF and I remained friendly for many years after we broke up. In between relationships he would always try to hit on me, but I would just say no and it never affected anything and didn't really bother me when I was single. Around the same time I met DH, he met a really nice girl. I distanced myself a little because DH wasn't 100% comfortable with the idea of my still being friends with an ex, but we would occasionally comment on each other's FB and we'd meet up for coffee or dinner, usually with other friends, when one of us was in the other's town. He and the GF came to our wedding,
Now they're engaged. All of a sudden I get a FB PM the other night saying "Hey... no weirdness but I was just listening to some old music from the late 1990s/early 2000s and it reminded me of high school and I thought about you. When can I call you so we can catch up?"
We haven't spoken on the phone in about 3-4 years. It just felt off. It didn't seem like our normal kind of communication and the fact that he felt the need to say "no weirdness" made it even weirder. I'm happily married and I have a child. You're about to get married. We're too old for this crap.
Hugs to you as well. I don't think I'll do any shopping mostly b/c I'm working but that sounds like a good day.
I understand. Here's to funny puppies!!
My Tuesday rant--
Facebook is NOT a diary. I'm guilty occasionally of putting up things about how long I have left until I leave for graduation, although those are excited posts, not bitchy ones. And I did *** once about how my spring break starts the day AFTER H leaves for MCT. But holy hell, do the people who whine constantly on Facebook get on my nerves. And now, my stepsister, who totally screwed my mother over after she let her live in her house, paid for her cheerleading her junior year of high school, etc. is calling my mother a *** on Facebook for all to see.
The top of my head almost blew off. I seriously want to find her and slap her silly.
Hugs to both of you! I've been there.
BLT, call me if you need someone to commiserate with later!
Missed M/C 11/5/2010 @ 5 weeks, 3 days* D&C 12/3/2010 at 9 weeks, 3 days