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Re: Does anyone here find that their single friends just don't "get it"?
I dont get what is wrong with her saying that she can relate more to her married friends vs single ones? Maybe the married ones are acting more mature rather than going out partying all night and actually try to work with her and her hubby with reasonable times. I get up at 5am so there's no way in hell I would ever stay out till two anyways. Not that she does, but maybe being married now, her priorities have shifted. Instead of people saying that they can relate or no not so much, everyone jumps down her throat and says shes being snotty. Honestly, I dont see that from her post. So some single friends are less mature than her married ones. Did she say that ALL single people are less mature? No. She just said she doesnt want to party as much and it seems like all her single friends do. Just because your single and mature doesnt mean that you need to get all butthurt about it. The responses to this post makes me laugh.
To OP, honestly I've never noticed a difference between married and single friends. I know that two of my friends, who were my best friends before I moved, were way less mature than I remembered when I met up with them two years later. It just made me realize that we didn't have as much in common anymore and we drifted apart. On the other hand, I have single friends who are all very mature and I feel like I can relate to them. I think if your finding that what use to connect you has changed, then maybe your just drifting apart. Sometimes it just happens. Not all friends stay with you through your whole life. Just stick to the ones you do like/relate well with and become closer with them.
And btw if someone said this to me: But one of our other friends actually had the nerve to suggest to my husband that he put me in a cab once when we were all out together and he wanted my hubby to stay out late when we were trying to leave to go home because we had work the next morning. Then I would probably punch them. I'm not an item that when the group wants to stay out later then they suggest to my husband to 'put me in a cab' and send me home. What are you 5? He can ask your husband do you want to stay out later and then you guys could've talked about it and you could've decided for yourself if you wanted to go home or not. Lol your friend sounds like a real winner.
I agree
I am right there with you!!!! A lot of my friends (who just happen to be single) ((don't get all defensive single people, we're referring to OUR SINGLE FRIENDS not all single people)) are very insensitive to the fact that I have a significant other, who I live with and share a life with. They say to me, "you've changed" when I tell them I don't want to go out or if I have a more "adult" opinion about something. I wish they could just adapt with me/accept how my life has changed based on the choices I've made. Then I realize that they could say the same thing to me about their life, then I realize if we both accept how eachothers lives are, in the end I think we realize that we don't "fit" in eachothers lives anymore. The saddest part is that even my older sister is like this
It's hard letting go of people who have been in your life for a while but at some point if you cannot enjoy things together and one of you puts more time and effort into the relationship than the other then it is simply not worth it.
In the end you and I have matured and some of our friends have not yet and we can either choose to kill ourselves going out with them all the time and them not doing what we want to do EVER. Or we can look at the facts and say I think we've outgrown eachother and are going in different directions.
I also wish these friends would be more open to doing things that I want to do since I do A LOT of what they invite me to do. Whatever, you gave it your best shot and the relationship was good while it lasted but "its not you, its me"
You dont need to apologize to these rude ass people girl. Its obvious what you were thinking and feeling when you wrote this and I totally get you. I say "I'm married" too when people are like, "but just come out for a little bit". I felt it was a "nicer" way of saying, "I'm a grown up, I have a job, I have a significant other who I share a life with, you party too much, etc..."
these people on here are just picking on you for whatever reasons they may have and thats just how its going to be, but know that there are others out there who feel like you do, and i know thats what you were searching for when you wrote that comment on here, thats what I was searching for too when I googled "my single girlfriends dont understand that im married"
by "im married" you actually mean im "in a different place" which makes total sense because, "im single" and "im married" are two different things! Your not saying I GOT MARRIED and so now im different. Had you said "i got married" then I could see how people could read it wrong, but you didnt say that so everyone on here who gave u flack is just an idiot. A single person cannot possibly be in the same place as you because they are not married. it is different when you SHARE A LIFESTYLE with someone. SOOOO all these assholes telling you not to say "im married" n that u think ur better cuz ur married, are stupid and dont understand people because i knew instantly what you MEANT!
literal bastards.
I understand. I'm actually having a hard time with this right now and it's how I stumbled onto your post. Most of my friends are single, I don't have many friends that are married or just in a relationship so it's hard to find someone who understands other than my husband! I don't have a problem going out for a drink, or having a get together with them, it's the clubbing and partying over the weekend that I can't get on board with. 99% of people who go to the clubs are single! I feel like I'm putting myself out there as a single girl when I go out with them which is disrespectful to my hubby. I want my friends to know that I still like them of course! I just can't go out to the club! But when that's the only thing your single friends want to do.. it seems like you don't want to be their friend anymore...