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Dear Prudence anyone?

Today's first letter: Gross x infinity.

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/02/incestuous_twin_brothers_wonder_if_they_should_reveal_their_secret_relationship_.html 

I didn't even think this sort of shiit happened anywhere but in fiction (ie Game of Thrones). Ick.

 

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Re: Dear Prudence anyone?

  • Whoa dude.  I wonder if they've ever tried therapy? 
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  • That is very ick.  I can't imagine being one of their family members being sat down for the "intervention". 
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  • I wonder if the family knows on some level or if that is just so bizarre that it never crosses your mind.
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  • I'm having a hard time wrapping my mind around this.

    I wondered the same thing Buddha did.

  • Also, the letter reminded me of this story I heard on The Moth podcast a few years ago.

     http://youtu.be/xlnkfS5jboA

  • I think the latter, Buddha. If you suspected on any level, I don't think you'd hound them about finding partners and settling down. I do feel bad passing judgment, but this is kinda beyond the pale weird.
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    I feel like this would never cross my mind. I know/know of a few sets of twins of both genders that wind up just being roommate spinsters/bachelors because it works for them. Until this moment, I never imagined they were getting freaky.

    And now my life will never be the same.

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  • Yup, that is a new one for me.  And I thought I had seen/heard it all.
  • I heard a story on This American Life about an older set of female twins who did absolutely everything the same.  They dressed the same, they ate the same meals, had the same stuffed animals (I shuddered at that) on their beds.  As odd as I thought they were, it never occurred to me that they might have a sexual relationship.  So I doubt these guys' family are in the know.

    As weird and off-putting this is, they're not hurting anybody.


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  • It's super weird and gross, but I guess since they don't have to worry about creating some inbred children it's potentially more acceptable than if they were straight siblings. 
    I don't think I'd ever suspect that twin brothers were lovers. 
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  • imageCaliopeSpidrman:

    I don't think I'd ever suspect that twin brothers were lovers. 

    I know. I'm still trying to wrap my head around how this happens. I guess being a gay teen is a very confusing time, but I cannot fathom wanting to do things with my brother.

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  • Welllll...http://vimeo.com/12558920

    NSFW. Obvs. 

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  • imageEssBe:

    I heard a story on This American Life about an older set of female twins who did absolutely everything the same.  They dressed the same, they ate the same meals, had the same stuffed animals (I shuddered at that) on their beds.  As odd as I thought they were, it never occurred to me that they might have a sexual relationship.  So I doubt these guys' family are in the know.

    As weird and off-putting this is, they're not hurting anybody.

    This is true, they're not hurting anyone, but I can't imagine being a mother and my sons telling me they're in love.

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  • I recalled that TAL story as well, SB.  I couldn't remember if they were twins, though.
  • I can see why it might upset the family. I think I'd quietly tell the family, but not the close local friends.

    Other than that, it's two consenting adults, ya know? I can't get too riled up.

  • No, they're not hurting anyone. I don't think they should be punished or jailed or anything like the article referenced. I don't think there is any denying that it's just plain not normal and an icky level of weird though. It's not something I would want to hear from my son.
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  • Dead Ringers, anyone?
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  • If this were a brother and sister I would be appalled. And while I don't think it's ideal, I am not as appalled with it being 2 brothers. What does that say about me?

    Also, it reminds me of the awkward sex scene from TTW.

  • As a twin, I am especially disgusted at this.

    Don't get me wrong, I love my sister, but.. GAH. SICK

    eta: I do want to add, that I'm kind with Winged on it being two guys - because even though  I find it pretty darn gross, I don't think it's hurting anyone, since they can't produce children or anything. So if they are happy living the rest of their lives together, I think they should. 

  • my son had a twin but I killed him to prevent this very situation. 
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  • imagewingedbride:

    If this were a brother and sister I would be appalled. And while I don't think it's ideal, I am not as appalled with it being 2 brothers. What does that say about me?

    Also, it reminds me of the awkward sex scene from TTW.

    I would think your reaction is because the physical power balance is gone for same sex situation.

    And guys, I'm not saying it's normal and not gross or anything.  I'm certain I would be upset as a parent.  But if this is what works for them, as a total stranger, I don't feel a huge objection to it.


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  • imageEssBe:
    imagewingedbride:

    If this were a brother and sister I would be appalled. And while I don't think it's ideal, I am not as appalled with it being 2 brothers. What does that say about me?

    Also, it reminds me of the awkward sex scene from TTW.

    I would think your reaction is because the physical power balance is gone for same sex situation.

    And guys, I'm not saying it's normal and not gross or anything.  I'm certain I would be upset as a parent.  But if this is what works for them, as a total stranger, I don't feel a huge objection to it.

    yeah, the power balance is probably a big part. And then I realize that in that situation I would blame the male. And that seems sexist.

  • Flowers In The Attic always gave me the heebie jeebies. This story does too. Yeesh.
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  • This story makes me Indifferent but I don't see anything punishable going on.  I don't envy the conversation with their family if that ever occurs.

    If it was a boy/girl twin combo I would be IndifferentIndifferentIndifferentIndifferentIndifferentIndifferent because of the risk that a pregnancy could occur which would blow the lid off the top of the creepy charts.

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  • Has anyone here read Josie and Jack?  They just hinted at an incestuous relationship in that, and it was uncomfortable.
  • That's just messed up.  Now, if they were hot identical twins, I would be down with that.  But fraternal twins?  Not right at all.
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  • Identical twins would be super creepy. That would be like doing yourself.
  • imagewingedbride:
    Identical twins would be super creepy. That would be like doing yourself.

    I've been doing myself since I was thirteen. 

     

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    3 out of 4 dead babies agree! pepsi is better than coke! - EdithBouvierBeale
    Lordy. Grow some balls and stop lurking. It's like stealing from the internet. Jesuschrist. -- AudreyHorne
    I hate love and marriage. I got married so I could destroy these things from the inside. - NoisyPenguin
    It's a good thing my circle of trust is as giant as my vagina. That only leaves a couple people out. - Cali
  • imageGroomzMcFinehiney:

    imagewingedbride:
    Identical twins would be super creepy. That would be like doing yourself.

    I've been doing myself since I was thirteen. 

     

    Touche. Me too. But you know what i mean. You would be there, in traditional doggy style thinking "Gosh, do MY love handles jiggle like that?"

  • That's why it would only be okay if it were super hot twins.  In that case, you'd just be like 'Damn, my ass is supah fine, and my spunk tastes like butter!"
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    3 out of 4 dead babies agree! pepsi is better than coke! - EdithBouvierBeale
    Lordy. Grow some balls and stop lurking. It's like stealing from the internet. Jesuschrist. -- AudreyHorne
    I hate love and marriage. I got married so I could destroy these things from the inside. - NoisyPenguin
    It's a good thing my circle of trust is as giant as my vagina. That only leaves a couple people out. - Cali
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