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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
losing momentum
I feel like I am, once again, at a point where I don't feel like dating.
I was in a dating-like-crazy period a couple months ago. I just feel really discouraged and like I don't even want to try anymore. Do you go through this? I am starting to think that I just can't find a guy that I am really into, maybe I should give up and become a crazy cat lady? lol 
It just seems a lot easier for most of the women I know.
Re: losing momentum
Thanks. I've been dating ona nd off for about 4 1/2 years, so it does get old sometimes, but I try not to stay out of the game for too long.
I definitely get to this point sometimes, especially after a series of let down's or really bad dates. Dating is supposed to be fun and not a chore. I think taking a break sometimes is a good idea.
I don't have time to actively pursue dating right now because I'm studying and slammed at work. Therefore I'm taking my online dating profile down so I don't encourage it. I'm keeping so busy that I don't have the time to look. If someone finds me and wants to go out, I will make time for that but I'm not doing anything to encourage it, such as my online match profile.
I think it's a natural cycle if you're not having much luck. How many first dates can you go on without getting discouraged? I find that I'll go on a bunch of dates and then take a little break from it for a while.
If you don't feel like dating anymore, take a break for a few months. That's not to say if Mr. Wonderful comes along you can't go out with him. Just don't actively pursue anything and use the time to regroup.
That sounds like a good plan, Mint!
I have been keeping very busy and enjoying my life a ton without dating, I just really want to have my cake and eat it too. lol
What do you mean, Mr.Right can't just show up on my doorstep while I am enjoying my non-dating life? That is just not fair! haha