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Re: I'm pregnant---not good
I am not sorry, I like who I am
I have two kids, been married 8 years.... and after having my 2nd child, I had nightmares about being PG again... since I knew I NEVER wanted to be! It was so bad that I was telling my DH, that I knew where babies come from and didn't ever want to have anymore, so unless we were sure we couldn't...I wasn't interested. He got an appt with a urologist within the week and had a vasectomy in a month... it took all of 15 minutes!!!! And even my GYN said that I had two vaginal non medicated births...so it was his turn!
Honestly, we were using condoms and I was on the pill, and I have PCOS and I was still crazy anxious... because I know that it can still happen!
Whatever you decide, I'm so sorry you are faced with any decision to make. I know that it isn't easy.
Nestie Bestie with the lovely RockABye
No one should base their happiness or gratitude on anyone else but themselves. If she is not happy, she does not have to feel grateful right now. Why would another person's inability to conceive have ANY bearing on how one woman is feeling about her own pregnancy right now? That's ridiculous. In general terms, that's like saying that someone should be grateful they're married when they have an abusive spouse.
this whole line of logic is highly entertaining!
::leaning back and heating up the popcorn::
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This! FFS, you do not need to have another child if you don't want to.
Give her a break -- as if she doesn't feel bad enough. WOW.
Your H does realize that having a vasectomy does not change his manliness, right? He can still have all the (ahem) same responses.... he just shoots blanks. It's also a heck of a lot cheaper and less invasive then what /you/ would need.
Insurance may cover a vasectomy because it's cheaper.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with the unplanned pregnancy. Good Luck!!
I agree with SMACE! Couldn't have said it better myself!
You are an idiot. There is so much to be said for your ability to prioritize life's serious situations. But PP's really have said everything else I could have said.
OP, do what is right for your family. It will be ok. Having your husbands support is crucial, so that's a great thing. GL in your decision, have strength.
oooof!