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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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FFFC
Got any?
Re: FFFC
I got new sheets that are 350 thread count and they're heavenly. It would be fun to break them in with someone but, alas, I have no one in mind!
I enjoy reading the pre-baby blog (selfie posts) sometimes just for the sheer crazy of it. But she really pisssed me off when she referred to caring for a newborn as "not that hard, unless of course you have some sort of WRINKLE". Some of the wrinkles were: having twins, being a single mom, and not having the luxury of being a SAHM. Guess I had two "wrinkles" to deal with, hence why it was more difficult for me to care for a newborn.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
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5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Let's see...I have a couple...although I'm at work and probably can't get away with writing some of them! HA
I'd say my biggest FFFC right now is that when J and I went out Monday night and both got 12 sheets to the wind and drank a bunch of truth serum, lol, I remember bits and pieces of conversations that revolved around us one day living together in the future, and how he was falling in love with me, and was almost ready to say "the words" soon. And I'm pretty sure I accepted and agreed to everything that was said!
I know that neither one of us is ready to take any more steps right now, as it's so new and the staying overnight step literally *just* happened, so we need to chill for a while before going one step further, but it's good to know inside that we're on the same general page as far as where we're going and what we feel, as of right now. And I can see right now that if it does keep going this way, as good as it is and getting better, that those things will happen down the line. (So no shaking your finger at me just yet, JM!)
I am still dating the guy you all said was misleading me. I agree with you all but I just cannot stop hanging out with him. I really enjoy his company and we have a great not-real relationship. In fact, I find what we have better than some past relationships I have been in.
We respect each other and do whatever it takes to make each other happy. I know I am a priority in his life without a doubt. We have great conversations from silly to serious. We value each other's opinions and he is so supportive, thoughtful and caring toward me.
We go on dates, we cook dinner and we do boring errands together. We're together most nights. I'm friends with his friends and he finally met mine (and actually worried about what they thought of him). He wants to meet my brother too.
But he still refers and introduces me as his friend. I don't need a gf label and I don't know what else he could call me, but when I hear "friend," it just stupidly hurts. I know he doesn't want a relationship, he has said that from the start so I am not mad nor do I actually feel misled...but I guess, stupidly, I am hoping he changes his mind just because we obviously have somethin here!
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5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
what's the back story?
Really, what I posted is kind of the whole story (with a guy who is like a bf but he doesn't want to commit). But some additional details: We were great friends and then I made a move for more, which obviously changed the dynamics. At first I thought we'd up FWB but he didn't want that either. So we have ended up in a dating/friends semi relationship. We can date other people (and I am) but he isn't.
His life is in major transition right now (he just got back from traveling and is unemployed) and he has tons to figure out so I don't blame him for not wanting a commitment. Heck I don't think I even want one...but sometimes it's just hard being referred to as a friend for whatever reason.
I am also afraid somehow I am going to end up hurt even though I really am keeping myself in check and being honest about it all.
Bhawahaha! Don't worry JM. There aren't any plans for this in the near future.
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5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Thank gawd!! I dont want to come on here someday and see a post from you saying that he got scared off when you mentioned marriage too soon. Bhahahahahahahahaha
If you must know.....he was actually the one that brought up marriage. So there.
:::walks away in a huff:::
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5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Well you did give him the best orgasm of his life, so I guess I shouldnt be surprised. See what you did!!??
You're fooling yourself if you think you're ready to date soon after you left your marriage. Even if you checked out of your marriage long before, you're not emotionally ready to date. It doesn't matter if you're the leaver or leavee, it's a big life change and the best opportunity to focus on yourself.
To go along with that, I don't understand why anyone would want to jump into a relationship, casual or serious, so soon. It is OK in 2012 for people to be single. No, you don't have to be in a relationship or be married to be a worthy person. I am pretty sure this is a cultural thing though.
Who is this directed to?
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5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
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No one in particular and everyone dating too soon.
Maybe I am feeling defensive right now but I have been divorced for 4 years. Don't think this is too soon. Or maybe this wasn't directed at me.
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5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I'm curious like a cat, too.
ETA: nevermind, question's been answered...
i think land o biscuit is saying this to no one in particular, just in general.
there are a lot of people on this board that seem to jump into relationships fast, so i'm sure that's what she's referring to.
and dmarie, 4 yrs? i think you're good! haha.
i know everyone says you can't put a timeline on it, and i think for the most part, that's true. it's a case by case basis.
LOL. I wasn't sure LoB was mixing me up with someone else. Sorry LoB. Got a lil defensive....
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04