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Share how you lost your virginity
I was inspired by Kuus's awesome question in broc's post yesterday (or was it the day before?).
Regardless, share as many details as you want.
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Re: Share how you lost your virginity
HS boyfriend. I was 16, he was 18.
Funny visual: two teenage virgins on a waterbed
It was bad. And awkward.
ETA: I forgot. There was no music playing. All we had was the weird sloshy sound from the waterbed. OMG I'm laughing at myself.
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I lost it to my first boyfriend the morning after my 20th birthday. He was 25. It happened on a waterbed. The Doobie Brothers were playing on the radio. I did not orgasm.
Mine was to Mr. Kuus. We'd recently moved in together, and though he wanted to wait for marriage for some reason, I thought it was asinine to get all the side-eye from the older relatives for shacking up but with none of the lurid fun. He couldn't argue with that logic, so we did it. I made it extra easy and comfortable for him by making him go to our local grocery store with me beforehand, and buying lube, fragrance of love scented candles, and a disposable camera, and making sure we went to a checkout line with an actual cashier. He makes it so easy to have fun at his expense. But, I digress.
Anyway, we did the usual stuff for foreplay, and then tried to put it in, and... nothing. It must have taken us half a damn hour to find the hole (I swear to you, I knew where it was, but having a whole person in the way while I root around down there was not the way she was usually located) and then get it in. And we were SO excited when we succeeded that we didn't realize that we hadn't thought of how to move. Yeah, yeah, we all know the desired motion, but how to make your muscles get into that rhythm when you're all tangled up awkward-like was a little more than we could figure out, so we did various spastic motions until we got hungry and stopped and made something to eat instead.
We're much better at it now. And I'm pleased to say that Mr. Kuus is now of the mindset that no one should get married without having had sex on the regular with the person first, since you don't know what you're getting if you leave that a surprise (apparently my whole personality changes when I get laid on the regular).
At a Super 8 motel near Virginia Tech with my HS boyfriend - we kept dating into college and I drove up from TN for the weekend to visit him.
It wasn't great, but it wasn't traumatic or painful. We broke up a few months later.
I was 19. I'm embarrassed to say how long we went out for before we actually did the deed.
We went to a cottage up north for the weekend. We took it very slow. It hurt like a b!tch. But after that, sex together was awesome, and I ended up really wishing we'd done it sooner.
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HS boyfriend, we were both 17 (I think). We had been playing "everything but" for a few months, had recently graduated to "just the tip" and finally we couldn't stand it anymore. I remember it being pretty hot. He had wanted to remain a virgin until marriage, and wore a virginity ring to symbolize this commitment, but, well, hormones won out. As he was laying on top of me, he took the ring off and pressed it into my hand.
Looking back, I see how corny and vomit-inducing that whole scene was, but at the time I was very touched. I remember getting a little choked up.
Mine was pretty awful. I was 18 and it was in an motel down the street from my college. I had all these ideas it was going to be romantic and sweet, but I had a complete d!ckbag BF who wouldn't stop when I was crying and in pain. After it was over, I cried in the bathroom for hours in the tub. He told me it was my fault I was in pain and was pist at me for days afterwards.
So yeah... awful. I reserve the right to DD this.
*hugs*
I was just talking about this with one of my friends the other day.
I was 20, it was 2 days after the Gore v. Bush presidential election. My boyfriend had a party at his place for everyone who'd participated in GOTV efforts and for his friends (we met through the college democrat club). I think we'd been together about 1 1/2 - 2 months at the time, but I'd just found out that week that he considered me to be his girlfriend. I had a couple beers at the party and after everyone left we were messing around in his room. I think I asked him if he had anything, he asked if I was sure, and then voila! condom!
I remember that it hurt a bit, but felt good too. I don't remember much else, except that we either did it more than once that night or it went on for a long time, because I have memory flashes of different positions. It was pretty late at night, so I think I was just tired. There was a little spotting afterwards, but not bad. We only had sex one other time after that night, even though we were together about 2 1/2 more months.
Aww doglove. (((hugs)))
I had just turned 16, he was almost 19, we were both virgins. It was St. Patrick's Day, a night of romance. There had been a little drinking but nothing crazy. The hot love nest was a mattress on the floor where we were sleeping over in his friend's basement - super classy. It was awesome and we dated for a couple years after that.
Long after we broke up (and I had seen A LOT more peen) I realized that he had a tiny weiner, so I got broken in gently, lol.
Haha!
Dated a guy for 2 years in HS and wouldn't give it up for him...and he was frigging gorgeous hot! We broke up and I started to date a Palestinian transfer student freshman year...i think we we hung out maybe 3 times and he just had this sexy sexy way about him. I remember wanting to jump his bones. We had sex in his bed...and i bled a bit...he was very shocked to find out he was my first. we dated for about a year, he was a super intelligent guy who works for the UN as a translator. He speaks 5 languages fluently. We kept in touch for a few years. I always thought it was a great first time.
I got back together with guy #1 for about a year during my jr. year of college....had sex with him which wasnt that great....got engaged....called it off after i caught him cheating the night of the engagement party!!!! called it off shortly after that. he stayed friends with my family and i for many years. he showed up at my mothers wake 20 something years later.
I feel sorry for your husband.
This is funny because I kind of had the opposite experience. #1 was ginormaous. #2 not so much.
Another just the tip girl here.
For a whole semester in college I wouldn't let him, then one night things got real hot and heavy. I was ready to throw caution to the wind, but my rational side demanded protection. So, I made BF drive to Walmart (the only place open 24 hours in this rinkydink town) at like 3 in the morning to get condoms. When he came back we completed the act.
We told each other we loved each other. He transfered at semester break.
I was 17... he was 20. We had been dating for about 2 months and I finally decided that I was going to rock his world. We waited til his parents went to church and did it in his bed like civilized people. ;o)
ETA: I know most of you know this... but in case we have newbs or lurkers- it was with mr. imoan.
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I thought we were doing it right all these years, but apparently we were using the wrong hole!!!