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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Bad day
Finding out the news my dh or I should say stbxh is going to jail for awhile from violating the order of protection was upsetting enough. But then being blamed for it by him and his family makes it even worse. All they can point out is the mistakes I made. Yes, I made mistakes and I admit to them, but I never tried to hurt or kill dh. No I don't think jail is best for him, I think serious anger management program and rehab is best, but there is nothing I can do. I really hate everything he has done to me, but I still don't want him to feel hurt. Thatis just the type of person I am. I did turn my phone off so I don't have to read anymore text blaming me and telling me how much of a horrible person I am. This whole process just sucks.
Re: Bad day
(((hugs)))
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I actually know how you are feeling.
You say you don't want him to hurt. But you know what? He is responsible for his own actions. He violate the order of protection, so now he must pay the consequences. It's not like he didn't know what would happen.
And even if you don't think jail is best for him, that's not for you to decide. There are laws in place for a reason, and our tax money goes to pay police officers, attorneys, and judges to make sure that these abusers are not our problems.
The sooner you can accept that you are not responsible for any of this, that his behavior and his family's behavior is not acceptable, that you deserve to be happy, the sooner you can move on and start living for you and your LO. F*ck everyone else.
This and more ((hugs)). I completely understand how you feel as I was being blamed by his parents for XH threats of suicide - however it is/was his actions and decisions - not yours!!!! There are people that are there for you, I know there are!
The people here are here for you too though!!!