Starting Over
People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
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FFFC
Aaaaannnd GO!
I'm seeing (and sleeping with) C and also talking to three guys back home and have every intention of staying active on both of my dating profiles and seeing one of the guys back home within the next 3 or so weeks. And it's exciting to have so much attention right now.
C has three major deal breakers for me and I don't know quite how to tell him, but he's fun for now and in town so I get to stay busy. And they're not "changeable" deal breakers.
People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
Re: FFFC
nyg&p--I hung out with someone who had some dealbreakers. It was fun while it lasted and the sex was great.
I think not liking country music might be a dealbreaker for me. I know this is stupid but right now I'm dead set on this.
I wouldn't be upset if my boss fired me. They're such jerks who are screwing me out of my commissions and giving the lucrative searches to their daughter over me and she only works part time. I have another job lined up for the summer so it wouldn't be a big issue in terms of future employment.
I started talking to a 25 yr old on POF because a girl friend told me younger men try harder. I doubt it, but I've got nothing to lose, even though I'd never get into a relationship with a younger man.
J was over to my house last night (MY house, that I pay the mortgage on, got it?) and my roommate texted me from the other room, "Is he staying the night?" I said no, and her response was, "Just letting you know I have to be at work at 7am so I'll be going to bed soon." As in, don't have sex and keep me up. That's what that meant.
I turned to him and said, "If I weren't so tired right now, I'd be dragging you into the hallway right in front of her bedroom door and screwing your brains out.."
MY.HOUSE. But yet she seems to feel like she can tell me what to do.
Glad she'll be gone in a month at most.
How old are you, MCC? I ask b/c I never dated younger until my current relationship. He's 29 and I'm 33. It's a minimal gap, and things are going very, very well. I don't necessarily think that's because of the age difference -- but the age difference really doesn't matter. If you like talking to this guy, it can't hurt to give it a whirl.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I'm really excited about having some time to myself next week while my son is visiting his dad. I haven't had an extended break since December!
I'm going to have a glass of wine at lunch today with a co-worker and then I think I'm going to leave after a meeting at 3:30 since my boss is out today.
I'm starting to get burnt out on dating. I'm taking a break from meeting anyone new after Sunday.
I've decided to let go of my boy toy...I'm burnt out on meaningless sex
It seems like there are NO guys in my area that like country music. Many of them even say in their online profiles how much they hate it. It's my favorite, and I miss being able to go to concerts with my guys. I was really looking for someone who liked it or at least tolerated it enough to go with me, but then I met J. He hates it, and his idea of good music is "house" stuff (techno dance international type isht). He listens to it all the time, and I hate it, so we're incompatible as far as music goes, but I think it's a small price to pay for how fabulous everything else is.
Does C know that you are doing this? Maybe I am naive but if I were C, I would assume we were exclusive.
I want Liubot to pm me to tell me if she is PG or not.
I'm super excited about meeting D tomorrow (trying to reign myself in ladies, I promise), but I'm also planning a rendez-vous with a long-time FWB (S) when I'm back in Ohio next month for my brother's wedding because, well...the sex is just that good. I'm also (please, slap me know) considering at least talking to a friend turned FWB turned i don't know what turned stay the f away from me ***, again because, well, I don't know why. Because I'm attracted to trainwrecks?
Also (warning: looooong major snarky/bitchy vent forthcoming)
Dear brother: I am entirely NOT pleased about your upcoming nuptials. Setting aside my issues with your entirely lazy-ass sketchtastic self, I've tried my best to befriend your just turned 21 year old fiance (whom you've already had two children with - on purpose! While you were both unemployed!), but have rec'd nothing but scorn in return. Neither of you can be bothered to thank me for any of the gifts I've sent you for bdays, xmas, other holidays over the past four years. You refuse to send me pics of my niece and nephew, even when and explicitly ask you for them, AND I paid for the professional photographer to take them???? Oh hells no.
In re: the wedding, you asked if it would be okay if she looked at my gown because she'd asked if she might be able to wear it, and then I find out that you wanted me to send it to you so you could sell it? Yeah, f that noise. Andplusalso, I JUST got the invitation for the 4/21 date on Monday. It was apparently mailed on the 28th, but had an RSVP date of the 29th. WTF? And no stamp or address on the the RSVP envelope? C'mon.* Oh, and you want me to be the photographer at your marriage to your baby mama, but you can't be bothered to ask me yourself? You have our mother do it? Um...yeah. No bueno, baby bro. No bueno. Man up, or gtfo.
* I'm fully aware that this is petty, especially this line. I'm just DONE with his sh!te.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Oh. I like a guy.
::giggles::
When the stylist was finished cutting my hair yesterday, I neglected to look at the back or run my fingers through it before I left, my fault. When I got home and really looked at it, I wanted to cry (probably just due to hormones, but I was peeved nevertheless).
I've got that hair style with longer layers in front with it stacked in the back. She left it too long in the back, and one side is thicker than the other. Not to mention that she chopped my bangs way too short, immediately after we just established that I didn't want my bangs trimmed much, but I'm trying not to be upset about that because there's nothing that can be done other than to let them grow out.
I'm going back today to let her fix it, and I tipped her well yesterday, but I probably won't go back to her after this. It's hard for me to trust my hair to someone after they give me a bad taste in my mouth.
Oh, and also I ate half a pint of ice cream for breakfast yesterday.
Then I ate pizza for dinner.
And then I ate more ice cream after that.
And at the same time, I bought another pint of ice cream to take home.
And I just ate some of it after I ate my leftover pizza for breakfast.
ITA, GOZF. I will be 33 next month and BF is 29. He is more mature than my XH who turned 40 this year.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
These are FLAME FREE confessions honey, but if you must know - he is aware we're not exclusive and very much wants to continue seeing me. El fin.
GOZF--I'm 27 so it's not a huge age difference but it is in my head. XH is 38 and I feel like I can't date anyone under 35--it's just this mental block I have. I just am more attracted to older men. Working on it.
House/techno music is a huge dealbreaker for me. It reminds me too much of XH and drugs. Aside from the fact that I hate that music, the flashbacks and feeling I get from that music make me sick. I associate that music with glowsticks and lines (no, not the ones filled with people).
I'm glad you can accept him for his music taste though.
One of my good friends called last night in tears because someone suggested that her 3YO may have autism. I told her I would recommend she call the pedi and set up a time to get an autism screening done. Honestly, the thought has crossed my mind before that he may be autistic or has some tendencies I'm not sure are "normal" for a child that's his age.
He's barely talking, one word here and there and it's pretty difficult to understand him.
I've rarely if ever seen him smile. He makes a lot of noises but his brow seems to be furrowed all the time like he's angry.
He hits himself when he gets frustrated.
She showed me some of his books that he's been eating. He's literally eaten chunks out of the cardboard pages.
His dad has been diagnosed bi-polar (they are no longer together).
I'm worried for her but glad that she's going to get the screening done and isn't just pretending like everything is fine.
My other FFFC is my date on Sunday is with someone I dated several times a few months back but didn't think I was interested. Since then I've been comparing everyone else to him and no one measures up and I thought "why not just hang out and, if anything, we'll at least be friends". Plus I'm really, really attracted to him so at least I know there's physical chemistry going for us. I told him I'm so busy with studying and work that I cannot really contemplate a relationship right now, but I would be interested in being friends/dating and seeing if something happens later on.
Nooooooooooooo! And here I thought we were twins.
My last younger relationship did NOT work out, but there were five years and A LOT of issues there. That being said, I think I've typically done half and half (half older, half younger) for my dating relationships. My exH was actually almost two years younger than me, and we lated for 6 years, so....
D is also younger (but only by a year, and at least he's hit the 30 threshold) so I'm hopeful.
All of that being said, however, the absolute best sex I've ever had has been with the over 35 crowd. ::shrug::
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
27--Yes, I have age issues for sure.
My heart hurt and I just got really sad reading this, achase. Your friend and her son have my sincere thoughts and prayers. I hope they're able to diagnose and move forward with the extra TLC he may need.
I dont like being called honey.
I know, I was trying to put myself in her shoes last night when I was talking to her and it was so heartbreaking. That would be my worst fear: that something would be wrong with my child that I could not control. The good thing is that she's being proactive about it and if he is autistic I think that it's likely mild and not severe. I think she got really worried because the other night she watched DS for me while I got my hair done. She said it was the longest she'd been around DS and really was paying attention to what he was doing versus her son. It bothered her that DS was talking more and being more social and her son wouldn't play with DS. I told her she really cannot compare two completely different children but I know it's sometimes hard not to.
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Touchy! Don't be so defensive. I don't think that was a flame; I think it was an honest question.
And before you snap at me too, I'd like to state that, as long as you're comfortable with your situation, being safe and honest with all parties involved (which sounds like is that case), then good for you!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
That wasn't a snap; it was an honest answer. The use of acronyms on this thing is astounding and I didn't want to breeze through the responses and see others being flamed for their confessions. It defeats the purpose of getting them out here in a fun "I just crop dusted my annoying co-worker and I want you to laugh with me" way.
I'm single and know what I want in a partner and haven't found it yet. I'm just having fun and meeting people until I do and if I can get a little action on that journey I plan on taking advantage of it. Albeit, in a safe and open and honest way. I don't want to hurt anyone on my adventures.
For the first time in my life, I have a FWB. The sex is good and he's got a body to die for!!! I've been single for well over a year now, and I'm dating but haven't found anyone I want to date long term yet. My FWB can service my needs until I find the real deal
After Therapy appointment last night, I decided I am going to demote my relationship with my BFF. I actually feel really good about it knowing that I am more in control of how I live my life and the choices I can make. I am just on a different path than of her and just the fact that I know the kind of path I want to be on is thrilling.
My experiences with BFF were a great way to learn "relationships" skills and standing up for myself. She met my needs in the past several months and now I am growing, moving forward, I acknowledge my needs have changed and for the better.
LOL, it's The Nest! Nothing is ever really flame-free -- and I really don't think Premier's response was veering into that territory.
This board tends not to jump all over people very much anyway. You have to be a real nightmare in order to get flamed in these parts.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.