Trouble in Paradise
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Thursday Confessions
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I13J7ArHTkM
I'm daydreaming about going home "sick" today. I feel kind of blah and thought it was Friday for a minute.
Also the past few days I've been getting my work done WAY early so I'm bored to tears right after lunch and want to slit my wrists waiting for 3pm. So today I am intentionally slacking as much as possible in the morning in hopes that I wont be so bored later.
I have a giant zit on the back of my neck that showed up overnight. Its the really deeeeeep tender kind that won't pop unless I do 8 billion hot compresses on it first.
Can you tell her that it is not her but it is you with the problem?
You want her to "it's not you, it's me" her hair stylist? That's cold PPD.
See this is why you shouldnt live in small towns!!!
I am sitting here and could be finishing my last 2 assignments before spring break but instead i am listening to music and all "ooooh shiny object" distracted. not really a confession but whateves yo.
Tonight I'm going to tell H that I cheated on him once a year ago during the very rough patch we had. Long story with a lot of issues quite a few Nesties are aware of. But still....%##%#.
I accept your flames for I don't not fault anyone but myself. I am a coward and a liar and I don't deserve my H even though he does a lot of crazy stuff that sends me over the edge. I don't have a plan, I don't even know what to do after I tell him, all I know is, my search for a therapist got me nowhere and I can't wait anymore.
You have a long night ahead of you. Obviously, I don't condone what you did, but I think it shows real character that you are coming clean.
What do you want the result to be?
It's just everything has officially come to a head and I feel so overwhelmed when a lot of my stress is H. Perhaps it's the guilt or maybe he's done so many things that have irked me to my limit, I don't know.
I just want to come clean. I really don't know what result I want. Half of me hopes he forgives me and resume on but the other half (horribly) hopes that he'll kick me out, even though I have no where really to go.
Your H is not innocent in all this. You've been on the verge of divorce for a long time, haven't you? You should take control of this situation and leave of your own accord. Really.
Do you have a place to go?
Unfortunately I won't be fair to him because I'm letting all of my frustrations out. It's just when I try to talk to him about something he just won't listen anymore.
I may have a couple of places to stay. My parents live nearby but I will not be going there. Period.
I know he'll freak out but I don't know to what extent. I know for a fact he would not lay a hand on me in anger. When he gets angry to that point, he punches inanimate objects, which he may do. Most likely there will be 3 scenarios: kicking me out, he goes to his mom's, or he surprises me.
I have to quick post and run. I told him and he didn't get angry, he didn't start crying, he didn't start calling me names, he just went over to me, put his arms around me and told me he still loves me.
Which turned into a 5 hour conversation of EVERYTHING that's wrong with our relationship.
We're going to counseling. I never would've imagine it would turn out this way.
I'm glad that things went well and that you were able to talk about your relationship in depth.
Please remember that you don't have to settle and if he doesn't meet your needs, there is no shame in ending your relationship. Perhaps you should think of your individual goals in life and come up with a list of true and fast dealbreakers.
You forgot the and meet crabby part