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Reactive Attachment Disorder?
My niece was recently diagnosed with this. I was pointed towards your board for help. Can you recommend books, support groups, activities, etc.? Really anything to help my sister would be much appreciated.
Thanks!
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Re: Reactive Attachment Disorder?
Above Us Only Sky
She is adopted.
I posted on the Adoption Boards also, so hopefully someone will chime in.
Thanks!
Good suggestion, I just contacted her and asked if she would take a peek here.
To the op----my husband and I know about RAD through our failed attempt at foster care adoption of an older child.
Nancy Thomas is an authority. Check out this page or any others that she authors. http://www.nancythomasparenting.com/
You should also join the Yahoo Older Children Adoption board(I can't remember the exact name, but the acronym was A_Ok). You can ask questions about it. If you do a search on www.adoption.com, you can find many, many, many posts about Reactive Attachment Disorder.
With RAD, the concern is that children cannot form meaningful attachments, only superficial ones. Other hallmarks are manipulation, superficiality, lack of empathy, and "splitting" of one parent against the other. PM me if you would like additional information. Good luck to you! :-)
I found this reading list on Nancy Thomas. I have not read many of the books but can vouch for the Keck "Hurt Child" one.
Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families With Special-Needs Kids : A Guide for Parents and Professionals - by Gregory C. Keck & Regina M. KupeckyBuilding the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children - by Daniel A. Hughes
Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, and Impulsiveness - by Daniel G. Amen
The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family - by Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross & Wendy Lyons Sunshine
Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath - by Nancy L. Thomas, Beth Thomas & Terena Thomas
Don?t Touch My Heart - by Linda Gianforte Mansfield
Facilitating Developmental Attachment: The Road to Emotional Recovery and Behavioral Change in Foster and Adopted Children - by Daniel A. Hughes
The Family Virtues Guide: Simple Ways to Bring Out the Best in Our Children and Ourselves - by Linda Kavelin Popov, Dan Popov & John Kavelin
Ghosts from the Nursery: Tracing the Roots of Violence - by Robin Karr-Morse, Meredith S. Wiley & Dr. T. Berry Brazelton (Introduction)
The Happiest Toddler on the Block - by Harvey Karp, MD
Healing the Hardware of the Soul: How Making the Brain-Soul Connection Can Optimize Your Life, Love, and Spiritual Growth - by Daniel Amen
High Risk: Children Without A Conscience - by Ken Magid
Holding Time - by Martha G. Welch & Mary Ellen Mark
Little Bunny Says Goodbye to Birth Mom - by Sherri Malloy, PhD
The Miracle Worker - by William Gibson
99 Ways To Drive Your Child Sane - by Brita St. Clair
The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child - by Nancy Verrier
The Secret Life of the Unborn Child: How You Can Prepare Your Baby for a Happy, Healthy Life - by Thomas Verny & John Kelly
Sink Reflections: Overwhelmed? Disorganized? Living in Chaos? The FlyLady's Simple FLYing Lessons Will Show You How to Get Your Home and Your Life in Order--and It All Starts with Shining Your Sink! - by Marla Cilley
So You Want to Be a Prince? - by Deborah Hage, MSW
So You Want to Be a Princess? - by Deborah Hage, MSW
Therapeutic Parenting It's a Matter of Attitude! - by Deborah Hage, MSW
Touching: The Human Significance of the Skin - by Ashley Montagu
Understanding and Treating the Severely Disturbed Child - by Foster W. Cline
When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD - by Nancy L. Thomas
I think that you can also support your sister by believing what she tells you about your niece's behavior at home. From what I have read, children can be charming at school and in other people's homes, but in their own home it is a different story, esp. toward the mother. It's a shame...