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Selfie's "Reflections on Birth Experience"
http://prebabyblog.com/2012/03/reflections-on-birth-experience/
Cliffs Notes: Hypnobabies doesn't work, she packed a lot, but will TOTALLY pack the EXACT SAME THINGS next time, epidurals are heaven, nurses are nice, and recovery is a breeze if you use her magic lotion.
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Re: Selfie's "Reflections on Birth Experience"
Funny, I also read a section where she acknowledged which things were useless (blow up mattress for her H) and where her expectations were offbase (nurses were way more flexible and friendly than anticipated).
I'm getting sick of PCE's commentary on her. Starting to agree with an opinion previously shared (I think it was NB?), that the cray cray she posted ages ago was just a marketing strategy for page hits. Smart.
" Conclusion: The second time I do this (if I do), I will pack the exact same stuff. "
^ what I was referring to with my all-caps in the summary. I haven't offered any commentary otherwise (at least in this post).
Yes, crazy for coco puffs = blog hits analysis was me.
Anyway, re. the epidural. The only reason I wanted to go natural was because I heard the following:
- You won't be able to move your legs.
- You won't be able to feel the urge to push.
- You won't be able to bond with your baby.
- You won't be able to breastfeed.
- Your baby won't be alert.
- You will need a c-section.
After a measly 5 hours of pit and back labor, I needed the damn epidural. And it was heaven. And everything above was not true AT. ALL. for me. I loved it so much I feel like wearing a badge of honor "I had an epi and I loved it" in my sig. So I agree with her w/ respect to the epi. I think I will try natural again (assuming I don't need to be induced and I don't have back labor) but I certainly am not going to feel all guilty about it or scared or whatever if I need help.
Also, that movie, The Business of Being Born, yeah, that unnecessarily scared the *** out of me about pitocin and epis. They actually featured a doctor saying "you won't love your baby if you have pit." What a load of bull sh*t. Natural birthing is great but having medical intervention is not the devil it's made out to be. At least it so totally wasn't in my case.
Sorry for the tangent.
I read it more as hypnobabies didn't work for her--she even said she thinks it was her lack of focus.
I'll be the first to say everything prebaby was ridiculous, but she does seem to have mellowed. Now, if she decides to keep her daughter in a bubble to save her from catching the gays, I'll be back on the ridicule train, but for now...
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I agree with the bolded. The natural labor books paint the worst possible scenario about having an epi, pit and an MD. I got the pitocin before my epi (labor was stalling), and it was a b!tch. I'll definitely get an epi next time before they start pitocin.
I'm really glad I didn't watch the Business of Being Born. DH's CW recommended it, but she was an idiot and the type who knows how pregnancy and birth are for everyone because she was having her third, so I didn't bother.
I know I mellowed after Bean was born. I had so many grand ideas and plans when I was pregnant, and then I learned about a concept called "reality." She just seemed to be a little bit more out there than most expectant moms.
That German doctor at the end who said that just made me so angry I wanted to scream.
I nothing selfie now. I used to loathe her. Now I don't care. Although I still think she's a weirdo for packing the pretty pushers labor gown BUT we already went down that road.
I think she was just too perky and unaware. I think a lot of level headed FTMs will still get swept up in their grand notions, but still be grounded in a bit of reality. I don't think Selfie was grounded at all, but it was really entertaining.
I think hypnobabies pretty much only work for a very small amount of people. My midwives told me not to use it if I wanted a natural birth because it sets up unrealistic expectations. Plus, (from what I read) it seems to only really take you through one form of relaxation whereas my Bradley class taught me multiple methods and really stressed that what works for one person might not work for you.
Also, I may be guilty of using "we' when I talked about the birth story, I blame Bradley for that as well since they really focus on your husband being your partner
The finger drop thing sounds ridic. Do real people do that or did she find that somewhere random?
I'm waiting for the whole family jumping selfie.
I find her boring now. She was much more entertaining when she was hiding from the gayz and bringing a tarp and air mattress.
I did Bradley with my first and did a homestudy of Hypnobabies for the 2nd (or at least attempted). During the practices I struggled to stay awake and then could never really get the hang of it. I didn't use it at all during labor and delivery. I'm glad I learned some of the concepts though and continue to use them in difficult situations like dental procedures and manipulations during physical therapy on m knee, but I never got into the groove for labor "gametime". It was a bit too woo for me...
I hope I can talk about my delivery as a partnership with my husband. I don't see what's so bad about this.. we got pregnant together, we've been going through this crazy experience together, he wants to be involved and as much as we're both aware I'm the one getting this baby out, I still need and value him as my partner and advocate in all of it. I suppose you could take her gushing over her hubby as a bit sickening, but it's her blog and her life to share as she pleases. I dunno.. the backlash seems oddly and unnecessarily bitter to me.
The hypnobirthing techniques must have worked well for me since I had so much experience tuning my mother out when I was younger
I never felt "hypnotized." It was more of a deep inward focus and I didn't give a shiit about what was going on around me. I didn't want any music, talking, touching, movement, etc. Maybe that's why it wasn't that good for pushing. There was too much interesting conversation at that point. I could see how this lady got distracted and then it didn't work.
imo, the basic set of techniques are great tools for any labor, whether they end up working or not. Heck, it could be good even in the event of a c-section. Practicing relaxation and clearing your head certainly doesn't hurt. I had a positive outlook on birth in general, but I don't think you necessarily have to believe that you will be pain-free or follow anything in the book blindly for this stuff to be effective. I almost wish there was a hypnobirthing edition for people who side-eye some of the goofier stuff in the book so the good stuff doesn't get dismissed completely.
Word, I feel you there.