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Re: Ex mother in law asking for a gift back
It's not from a beloved family member that passed away and left it to her, it's from her ex-husband. She didn't want it. I think, if you really like it and wear it, keep it.
I know in my own experience when I was asked for a ring that was purchased FOR ME and I didn't give it back, I couldn't wear it anymore without getting mad everytime I looked at it.
I ended up sending it back to him in the mail. Then a few days letter I received a letter of apology and the ring. After I was engaged to me now husband I pawned it.
Totally agree with: sapphirebl...Legally no ground to stand on. she had no attachment to it. just being petty.
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And with: FMIL&MOB - I wouldn't want it regardless of how much I liked it
If the logic were to ?Give it back...it was a gift to a daughter in law, which you no longer are?, then it would obligate the former MIL to give back anything she received prior to requesting the same.But, actually, here?s what I wanted to say:
First of all, I love that you told your ex that it?s between you and her ? ?if she wants it, she needs to contact me directly.? I think that?s p e r f e c t. There is no question that she needs to contact you. You don?t need to send a note through your ex, or send her a note, etc. It?s on her, plain and simple, if she has some business to conduct. I?m guessing the reason she went through her son was because she was ashamed to demand this directly, but knew her son wouldn?t be too embarrassed to do it ? (he probably enjoyed it!) Son tells you what's up, and you act on it (one way or the other). This way, her hands are relatively clean. See how tidy?
But, if you decide to cede the item to her, so be it. It?s your choice. Let her drive over to your place to retrieve a gift once given. Meet her on your porch, let her put her hand out, and place your item back in her hand. This makes her physically demonstrate her treatment toward you. Absolutely no masking it now. You?ll know, and she?ll know, just who she is, that her priorities out of place, and she comes off looking badly. And that puts you in the driver?s seat from here on out.Why wouldn't you give it back? It was not something she purchased for you, it was something passed on from her family. The right thing to do is give it back I don't care if it was from an ex. She wants it, give it to her and move on. You can buy yourself something you like. It is not because you have to give it back but because it is less of a hassle to do so. Give it back and move on.
thanks for all of the opinions!! I left it as if she wants to contact me then so be it, otherwise I ejoyed wearing it the other day