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Does anyone else think their votes should be kept secret?
My mom and dad are big believers that the way you vote should be kept secret. They refuse to discuss who they will vote for. They won't even tell me who they voted for in the last election. I think somewhere along the line someone told them that a voting booth was like a confessional.
Re: Does anyone else think their votes should be kept secret?
Absolutely they should be kept secret with respect to the process.
If your parents believe that carries out of there I respect that as well.
I grew up hearing there were 3 things you didn't discuss, politics, religion and I forget the 3rd LOL! Maybe it's just a generational thing.
Many people I work with are my parents generation and think it's rude to discuss politics in mixed company.
Hence why I love this board.
This. It's fine if an individual wants to keep their vote secret, but weird if you think *everyone* should keep their vote secret.
The dreaded "ditto."
Forcing anyone to share their vote is wrong, but I think telling people they CAN'T share their vote is just as wrong.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
The third thing is money.
Personally I believe in all three to an extent, although I will discuss politics and religion with certain folks if it's a safe situation where I trust no one will get upset. I do tend to temper my comments, however. I also would rather die than discuss money IRL. I will discuss generalities, but all of my friends and most of my family are completely in the dark about our finances. We have nothing to hide per se but I'm very, very secretive about money. Even my father, the King of Paranoia, thinks I'm extreme. Heh.
I have no problem sharing my vote, but don't take offense when other people don't. I do avoid political discussion IRL in general, just because it's pointless and most people cannot discuss it with any degree of civility.
I did tell DH, who is R, that if he voted for Rick Santorum, he'd better take it to his grave. I don't think I could ever forgive him or look at him the same way again. He assures me he won't.
I said something like that to DH.
I think that you absolutely have the right to keep your vote secret, or you can share if you wish. If you do share, you need to be prepared that others may disagree and an argument may result
My political leanings are quite well-known but I am still careful, particularly with clients, not to discuss politics. Thats why I love this board - although I'd realllly love a Canadian politics board!
I don't ask people who they voted for - I think its rude.
People like to throw those type of things in your face when things are bad - it just creates grudge-holding, imo. I honestly can't imagine the good that comes out of disclosing who voted what way when it comes to your IRL friends and family. Its one thing to say who you are for or against, or what are the pros and cons of a certain person/party, but I think the actual vote in the end needs to stay private unless a person wants to reveal it w/o being asked.
I'm an uptight Protestant so it's possible that others are told it's sex. ;-)
I think it's everyone's right to do whatever they want with their vote- take it to their grave or shout it from the rooftops. I always have a political bumper sticker on my car, so it's usually no secret how I cast my ballot.
I guess I am the minority when it comes to talking about politics. Conversation always comes back to politics for me in social situations-- not like work events or something like that, but parties or out to dinner with other couples. My political persuasion is a large part of who I am and I don't want to get to know someone (like another couple) and be friends for 4 years, then at election time find out they are racist/fundamentalists/war-on-womeners. I've found that the friends I have who are on the opposite side of the fence from me can have rational conversations, where we both respect one another and have valid reasons for their beliefs, not just hate or fear. If people get too crazy about it, I know we're probably not meant to hang out socially...
they have every right to keep their voting secret. That's why we all vote by secret ballot. Secret meaning, no one knows who anyone else voted for. Do you seriously think you have any right to know how they vote.
Plus, it's an oldfashioned social rule, not to discuss politics. Maybe they follow that.
I think this is not about asking someone else or knowing who someone else voted for but whether it's OK to tell other people who *you* voted for.
I don't think who someone else voted for is any of my business, but I don't think there's anything at all wrong with me telling someone else who I voted for, if I want to.