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i'm going to talk about myself.
i'm up by myself and don't feel like cleaning. well, to be fair, i never feel like cleaning. its the only upside to when i finally do go back to work, i have promised myself that i will hire people to come and clean my house.
i'm 32. i have two kids. i had my oldest three months after i turned 19, second son a month after i turned 28. i would like one or two more babies, but the husband has turned me down.
i have two sisters. i am the middle child and always thought that my older sister's name was cooler than mine. though i have always been thankful that i don't have an h on my name. well, not always. probably since i was about 10.
i like the cold but live in florida. i would like to move out of this state, but probably never will. my husband loves it here.
speaking of my husband, he and i met on napster. we dated for two years long distance until he moved down here from baltimore. actually, he lived in a town called cockeysville. so, yeah. good times.
my parents are divorced and my stepmom is a gaping cuuuuunt. i love my stepdad to death so maybe that makes up for it?
i have a degree in accounting, plus about half of a masters because i wanted to sit for the cpa exam. then i thought it was a dumb job so i taught middle school math for four years. i've been home with e since july 2007 and now i'm back in school taking pre-reqs to get into the nursing program.
i'm not a very serious person, but i tend to be sensitive.
i also think farts are funny.
Re: i'm going to talk about myself.
nobody here really knows me too well.
well, maybe just one or two people. but not even well...just more than everyone else.
i am pretty much an open book, but ask me anythings aren't ever that fun for the people that ask the questions.
I am! I've had Internet withdraws from being in a place with no cell reception for the last few days all day at work.
I am an engineer and I work on some pretty cool defense stuff, but I feel like I can't really post details on a public website for security reasons. I've moved around a bit (Seattle, southern California), but I've been back in Oklahoma since 2007.
I have a four year old little boy who is the coolest, funniest, and sweetest kid I know from my first marriage. I've been on the boards since 2006 and I just can't quit this place. I am getting married again in November and have never been happier with my life. I think I'd like to go back to school and next year I'm going to apply for a program that would let me do that full time and still get paid my full salary to get a masters in (probably) electrical engineering.
My childhood was a mess, complete with foster homes, abuse, and a drug addict mom. Both of my parents died in my early 20s (I'm 29 now). I have two sisters (one identical twjin) and a half brother who I became foster parent/guardian for after our mom died.
I like to run and read for fun, though I haven't read anything lately. I've recently signed up to volunteer with a local political campaign so that should be cool. We are planning to build a house this fall and I'm super excited and super scared about that.
ooooh, your job sounds like it could be interesting.
i always imagine places like oklahoma to be desolate with not much to do. though, i live in florida so its not like i am used to big city living or something.
blech. i had one bad childhood thing happen, i can't imagine how difficult yours must have been. i'm sorry that both of your parent have passed.
i wish i liked to run. i mean, i enjoy it when i do it, but i'm not passionate about it.
what kind of house are you building? two story? one story? big? small?
plans for any more kids?
It's going to be about 2700 sq ft and kind of 3 story (top story being just a bonus room with rooftop patio).
I do plan to have another kiddo in a couple years. The timing may depend on the school thing. Kevin is going to be a great dad. He's so amazing with Connor. I wish all parents got a chance to see what kind of parent their spouse would be before committing.
oh, that third story sounds awesome.
How long have you been married? Are you from Florida or are you a transplant? We're planning a Disney vacation in 2013. Riight now I'm lobbying for Disneyland for GTG purposes, but if we end up at disneyworld you could come meet me and Coley. I haven't exactly propositioned her yet, but I bet she'd be up for it!
I always wanted only two kids, but Kevin has mentioned one or two more. On one hand I'm warmig to the idea, but the thought of 3 scares me and it feels like two close in age would be unfair sibling-bond wise to Connor since he'll be at least 6-7 years older than number 2. Is that weird?
we've been married for seven years.
i am from florida. i live about 20 minutes from where i was born and raised. i moved away to orlando for freshman year of college but hated it. knew i had to stick it out for the second semester, then ended up pregnant so i had an extra reason to move home.
i would love to meet you all! i have never been to disneyland, but i love disney world. my sister has been to both and she likes the world better.
i know what you mean about the age difference. there are almost 9 years between my two boys. and while i get the unfair part that you're talking about, i don't necessarily agree with it. i sort of felt guilty when i had e, but noah loves him so much and likes being so much older. he actually still tells me that he wants another sibling.
i figure that, while he may not have the sibling-bond that you or i would like as parents, he will still get to bond to them in a way that he knows. noah and evan are really close and i love it. it is really sweet to see how much e looks up to him. and noah really likes to do things for his brother. in fact, he gets annoyed at him sometimes for wanting me to do something for him instead of letting noah do it.
i guess what i'm trying to say is that it will all work itself out.
I do get that.
My half brother is 9 years older, and while I love him, I'm clearly MUCH closer to my sisters who are four minutes / 2.5 years different than me in age respectively. Maybe part of that is because I didn't live with my brother from the time he was 4 until when he was 17, but I feel like a big piece of it is age related and the pseudo parental role I have/had with him.
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I played in band at the Cockeysville high school and flirted with their conductor for 2 hours.
He was a senior, I a lowly freshman. He wanted to show me his Cockeysville. I don't think flirting means what he thinks the word flirting means.
He was thinking of a different f-word.
I started an "about me" post in another window, but I'm also working, so I don't know if I'll finish it. I also tend to ramble a lot, so it'll be far more than you'll ever want to know about me. If I finish it.
Also, hearing how happy Wendy is right now gives me the warm fuzzies. You deserve it, lady.
Aw, thanks you! I've had some rough times, but I'm finally at a place where I can be happy with who I am and everything else just seems to be falling into place.
I like to talk about myself.
I've been married for 4 years (next week!). I met my H in 1997, my senior year in HS. He was a junior. We met at a keg party and made out on a couch. We dated for 3 years before he broke my heart. Then 5 years later we started talking again. I was in grad school in Buffalo (our hometown) and when I finished I moved to Phoenix to be with him. That was in 2006.
Phoenix sucked, so 3.5 years ago I got a job in Massachusetts and we've been here since. I'm a librarian. My job is ok, but I get paid peanuts and I work in the middle of nowhere. I'd really like to get into a public library, but it's not easy.
I have a younger sister (Sarah with an H!) and an older half-brother. My sister and I weren't close until probably 3 years ago. We're completely different people.
We have no kids. I can't make up my damn mind. That and childcare in Boston is so effing expensive we can't afford it anyway. So we have a dog.
I like Boston, but I'd move home in a hot minute if I got a job. I want a cheap house and I miss my friends.
My MIL is a nutjob. She's obsessed (and I mean OBSESSED) with New Orleans and Mardi Gras. She wasn't always like this. But they go to NOLA at least twice a year, then she bitcches that she never sees us. Ooook. Their entire house is decorated in beads and fleur-de-lis shiit and pictures of NOLA. I've shared pictures before. It's so tacky.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Can we still talk about ourselves?
I wish that we could afford to hire someone to come in and clean our house, because we always find excuses to not get the cleaning done. I'm almost completely sure that H would never go for that, though. He'd be convinced that we get around to cleaning so it's all good and a waste of money.
I have a brother and a sister, as well as three stepbrothers I grew up with and a stepbrother and stepsister that I didn't grow up with. My parents are (obviously) both remarried, and both of my stepparents are actually really great people. It's really nice to see my parents both so happy. H also comes from a big family (three sisters and one brother) and combined we have five nephews and ten nieces.
I hate rain, and I've lived in Oregon for twenty years with no plans of ever leaving. I've spent a good portion of my life wishing that my parents had decided to settle down somewhere warmer.
H and I grew up in the same small town and spent our whole lives going to the same small school with a lot of the same friends, but never really met or talked until after high school. We bumped into each other in a completely different city two hours away from our hometown thanks to mutual friends. We started dating four+ years ago, and we've been married for two years in June. No kids yet, but we do have a dog. He's a beagle/basset mix, seven years old, and we've had him for two years next month. He's snuggly and wonderful.
I'm a dental assistant, and I am miserable. Okay, I enjoy spending time with patients, interacting with them, and especially getting to work with kids, but everything else is pretty much awful. I feel that going to school for a specific certification rather than getting a regular degree is one of the biggest mistakes I've made because now I feel stuck.
I haven't told anyone but H yet, but I am currently enrolling in a local CC to work toward a degree in Hospitality Management. It's something that we've been talking about for months and I've finally decided to go for it. The longer I wait to take classes the longer it will be before I can move forward.
Lastly, the thought that's been going through my head in a loop all morning?
IT'S SPRING. WHY ARE THERE FOUR INCHES OF SNOW ON THE GROUND?
dude! i am on my third career move. i have an accounting degree, then i worked on an alternative education certification program while i was teaching and now i am going back to school to be a nurse. you are hardly stuck. its weird to go back to school or make a change after you've gotten into the "adult" mode of life and are used to decent money and not having to study and stuff. but it will be worth it.
This makes me feel a lot better. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in making it all the way to a career before realizing it's not where I want to be. How do you do it? Do you just suck it up and work full time while you're schooling full time? We absolutely cannot afford to live on just H's income, so not working is not an option for me, I'm just freaking out about the idea of adding to my current stress load. I have a scholarship that will pay for my full tuition through at least my AAS, so that's one less thing for me to worry about, but I just can't seem to wrap my head around how I'm going to juggle work and classes, even though I know other people do it all the time.
OMG yes. I sometimes think about going back to school but then my husband reminds me about not being able to buy things.
I really admire you for going back to school and making things happen for yourself.
we all fall down sometimes
brass and ballet flats
I'll share.
I'm 31 (almost 32) and live in San Diego. I've lived here my entire life except for the six months after birth that I lived in Orange County (I don't remember it but I'm told I liked it there) and the three years I lived in Malibu for college.
I grew up without any siblings, but I also grew up not knowing I was adopted. I found that out a couple of weeks before I walked in college graduation when I got in a fight with my mom about how I never stood up for her. She left (because that's what she does) and I told my dad how my BFFs mom had asked about whether I was adopted and I tried to defend mom. The world kind of stopped right then and he told me I actually was adopted. Anyway, about a year later I got an email that said "I think I'm your aunt" in the subject line. The next email after that was "I think I'm your mom." It was four days before my 22nd birthday. So, now I have two sisters and one brother. One sister is on the MN board, she's pretty rad. The other sister thinks we're both weird for being online friends, but she's pretty rad too. They both live in SD so I get to hang out with them but kind of suck at it because even though it's been ten years I'm not really used to the whole sister thing. The brother and his GF had an adorable baby girl back in October. They live in TX so I don't get to see them much.
I went to law school, but halfway through realized I didn't want to be a lawyer. I finished school because I didn't want to quit. After school I quit life for a year and volunteered full-time (we got a stipend for food plus housing). After that I realized I had student loans and stuff so I got a real job and now do HR for a fairly large company. I just got an email about a phone screen for a dream job in HR (it's really a dream company to work for) so I'm crossing my fingers for that.
I've been with my BF for four years, and we are trying to move out of our current abode so that we can pay less rent and save for a wedding.
No kids, no pets.
Um. That's all I think.
well, i haven't worked since june 2007 so that isn't really a factor for me. we are fortunate to be able to live on just my husband's income.
however, it definitely increases the stress load because its just another ball to juggle.
my suggestion would be not to go full time. think of the big picture and not of the short term. it may take twice as long, but your life is different now and full time school just may not work out for you.
and you will figure it out. i watch a lot less tv now and spend less time with my husband on the weekends because i'm doing school work. it takes a bit to balance it out, but you'll get there. and even then, its only temporary.
and essbe, thanks
To use my scholarship I have to be taking at least 12 credits per term, so we looked at our finances and we decided we could afford for me to go down to working three days a week if I can get my work to agree to it. I would be willing to compromise to four days, but that's what I did last time I was in school and I felt like it didn't leave me with enough time to study correctly. I ended up doing a lot more skimming and cramming than I should have.
Going back to school scares me. But I finally hit the point where continuing to do what I'm doing scares me more. I just want to make sure I do things right this time, you know? Ugh.
I tried to quote and it keeps giving me errors, but PixieChinchilla, you are definitely not alone. I haven't gone back to school, but my husband has, in his mid-thirties. We are living on my salary and although it is doable, it is not always a lot of fun, since we were used to being able to buy stuff, go on trips, etc.
He still has a couple of years to go, and sometimes we question things, but in the end, it will be so worth it. We spend a big chunk of our lives working - doing something you like is priceless.
Also, I will talk about myself, too. I've been a lurker/very occasional poster forever. My original join date was 2004, I think, for a relationship I thought was headed toward marriage
I have no idea what that login was. I was back by 2007 and changed my screen name after we got married - it will have been 4 years in July.
I live 2 hours north of Houston in a small town, where I teach English at a community college. I have lived in Houston, Boston, Charleston, SC and rural North Carolina at different points in my adult life. We just moved here in August, and in October we got custody of my now 2-year-old nephew. This is a big deal with a lot of drama involved, as some people here may remember. We are currently his foster parents, but the plan is to adopt when it becomes possible - maybe the end of this year. This is kind of a big deal, especially since I am 38 and we did not have any kids - it's been a major change.
As I mentioned in the other post, my husband has gone back to school. He wants to work in a museum. He worked construction when we met, so this is a big change, and it is certainly not the quick path to a job or great money, but he loves the field, and his excitement about it makes me happy.
If this works, here is a pic of "my boys."
I'll talk about myself since the nest will not allow me to do anything else.
I met my hoseband very young. He hung out with my brother playing Magic cards at one of those gaming places when they were young teens, and then he was just around. We starting hanging out in the same group when I was a little older, and then furiously made out one night at the tail end of his senior year. We kept dating while he went to kommunity kollege and I finished high school, and went long distance when I went to college. Then he followed me a year later and we moved in together. I'm going into a lot of detail here.
Anyway, I majored in chemical engineering, planned to get my doctorate in pharmacy and work in drug manufacturing. But my senior year I was just sick of school and decided to get out and start working. We moved to Baton Rouge, LA, and we hated it at first. We didn't know anyone, it seemed so small but there's so much traffic and crime, just had a hard time adjusting. We got through it though.
My husband works as a tv producer in local news. I'm a chemical engineer in preliminary process design. I like my job and I seem to be really excelling at it. I sometimes wish I was doing something more important, but we make a lot of shiit that makes life easier so I console myself with that. I love fashion and art and home design and just anything beautiful. I like to sew and I'm really excited about taking a pottery class right now that is super fun.
A couple of years ago I was having a really rough time, really really rough. I was barely functioning at work and that was the only place I was functioning. I've had a lot of help and we've worked on things so much over the last couple of years, and we're in a better place right now but still struggling. I'm diagnosed as bipolar 2 right now which sucks balls. And I eat paper. So there's that.
I'm also crazy about my cats. Like crazy.
we all fall down sometimes
brass and ballet flats
This is exactly what I keep telling myself. Future happiness is worth it. H is comfortable where he is for the time being, so we are furthering my career first, and once I get stable we will work on his, so we probably have quite a few years of this sort of thing ahead of us, and I just keep reminding myself that we are both young and in the end the time we will spend like this will be beyond worth it.
better to eat paper than be in a serious relationship with your car, i always say.
i don't know what a chemical engineer does, but it sounds like it could be interesting work. since you're sciency and shiiit, i think you should just go ahead and work on chemically engineering a cure for my kids disorder. so go ahead and get on that
I feel strange reading and not responding after MM so...
I'm a native Floridian. My job is in internet marketing. I love books and beer, especially together. I'm currently reading Inside Out and my latest favorite ale is Golden Monkey. My H was recently diagnosed as bipolar II so I feel a kinship toward you EssBee.