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Re: i'm going to talk about myself.
I'm Cali. I'm 34 AND A HALF (I can't believe none of you wished me a happy half birthday last Friday). I was born and raised in Portland, Oregon and I absolutely love it here. I couldn't imagine living anywhere else.
I'm also a middle child (I have two sisters) and am the decidedly normal one by comparison. I'm not one of those people who believes strongly in tolerating family members who suck -- I am more likely to cut you out of my life if the only way you earned your position is by being related to me somehow than if you gained my friendship with your awesome bowhunting or computer hacking skillz.
I married a hermit. He doesn't like people and going places and doing things. This frees up my time to go places and do things without someone else's input. But it also means that I'm his one social outlet, so I have to hear about his day in excrutiatingly boring detail. At least his biggest joy in life is when he makes me laugh, and sometimes I wake up to discover he bought me a ham Croissanwich from BK. This is why we've been married for 5 1/2 years.
We own a dog, Maggie, who is perfect and old. She never fails to make us laugh. And she loves to talk to us, mostly about bacon.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Oh, hi! What the heck. I'll share, too.
I was 33 and a half in early February, and no one cared about that, either. Happy belated half birthday, Cali.
I am the only child, but I'm not a brat, I swear. My parents were really good about attention and affection, but I was not showered with monetary goods, and I like to think I don't have a crappy sense of entitlement. I liked being an only, except that there was no one to take the heat off of me when I screwed up. My parents are nice people, though they're often mildly horrified by me. They're cool and openminded and liberal and stuff, but I'm their only kid, and they have that I have tattoos and drink beer and hobnob with an eccentric cast of characters. And they have no idea about the photography thing. It would kill them dead.
My divorce was final in early October, but I've been out of the house since May 2010. He and I got together in July 2000. We were not good at being married, but we are kickass friends, and he is absolutely one of my favorite people. I'm really glad that we're on such good terms. We hang out a lot, and it's not weird at all. I am so grateful. He even gets along really well with the boyfriend. The three of us have hung out.
Speaking of the boyfriend, he makes me really happy, and I'm quite enjoying this relationship. What's weird, though, is that after being really ambivalent about it for my whole life, I'm starting to think that I do want to have a kid. And, um. I have no idea how to mention that, without sounding like some crazy, ultimatum-issuing shrew. I mean, we've not even discussed co-habitating. I love the heck out of him, and he's great with kids, which is a plus. But logistically, with him working nights, it would be hard to manage. Plus, he's not yet 30, and this is definitely not a pressing issue on his mind. I have no idea how to manage this. Frankly, I'm surprised that I'm leaning towards having a baby. It was never really a priority for me.
Job-wise, I'm feeling meh. I love my boss, but I'm feeling stagnant in my actual job. I'm also scared to death about something new or working for someone else. All I know is, I was an English major who fell into public relations, and I've never really loved it. I'm also too much of a lazy jerk to go back to school for something. Sometimes I think I wanna be a funeral director, but that's a lot of money and science classes. I'm bad at the science. I think I officially watched too much Six Feet Under!
So, yeah. I'm in limbo! It's really weird!!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I'll A/S/L it up for the noobs.
32 year old almost-divorced hag, no kids from that mess, thank god. I live in the Midwest and do internet things for work. I'd call it marketing, but that's being generous. I mostly fix things that other people break (typically by pasting in things with Microsoft Office code or adding superscript formatting 3 billion times so text ends up looking like this. edited because I forgot to add the [sups.]
I don't mind my job, really. It could be a lot worse, and has been.
I am part boy and like things like video games and sci fi. I am not good at fashion at all, particularly shoes. I do wear makeup every day, though, so I'm kind of an enigma.
I have very minimal feelings. The ones I do have, I don't admit to publicly. Although there is probably nothing that anyone could say on this internet board to me (about me) that would truly bother me.
It takes me about 45 minutes to orgasm clitorally.
I like the colors gray and green.
I stay in shape by hate running (going really fast, motivated by sheer disgust at your own body).
I like to argue. I will debate sh!t into the ground, even if I don't feel strongly about it. I think it's fun.
I like beer and cheese a lot.
I was pretty late to this texting fad.
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
Surprise, surprise. I'm late. But dammit, I'm trying.
I just turned 30, married for 2 1/2 years (together for almost 10), and live in San Diego. I've got 1 kid who I think is pretty rad. I stay at home with him despite my ridiculous student loan debt that is hanging over my head like an anvil, ready to drop like in a cartoon.
I grew up in MD, went to FL for undergrad and TX for grad school. I hated the extreme humidity in FL and being 10 inches from the sun in TX sucked balls. I very much love the weather here.
We are currently stuck - can't decide if moving to a cheaper COL area is worth not living in such an awesome place. Also, starting a business was hard and starting all over again will be even worse. I want a big house with a yard...but you have to make bajillions of dollars to have that here. Or live in east county, which isn't gonna happen.
I'm currently dealing with some nastiness called perioral dermatitis. I thought my usually clear skin was just hosed after having a kid & it was acne. It's not. It's not going away. And it looks bad and makes me sad. My life is hard.
I love dark beer. LOVE.
I have an irrational fear of talking on the phone to anyone but my parents or husband. I can break out into a full-on flop sweat from being forced to make a stupid call. But, I feel all William-Wallace-victorious after I do it, like it's some big deal.
I'll spill now that the nest has released the internet from its kung foo grip.
I'm realized the other night that I'm actually 34 and not 33 like I thought, it was a hard realization for me. I've been with my husband for 13 years, married for 7 this fall. We have two kids, Alex and LoLo, who challenge my sanity every single day. I'm a sahm, and for the most part, it's a pretty great gig unless one of them shares their bodily fluids in ways that are inappropriate, then it's not much fun. I have a three-legged dog who beat cancer and recently won your hearts to be crowned March Madness 2012 Ultimate Grand Supreme Winner. Thank you for that, we're still celebrating over here...
When I lived in NC, all I wanted in life was to move back home to Boston. Now that I'm here, every single day I dream about moving back to Raleigh. I miss everything about the south except NASCAR, I hate NASCAR.
I love a lot of things like:
paper and paper related crafts
music, but not the Decemberists
photography
traveling
long walks on the wild side
costumes
GTGs
burritos and mashed potatoes
ANTM, no matter how terrible the season
when my kids go to bed
movies, and the ability to work in relevant quotes no matter what the situation
I didn't have the greatest childhood, nor the most typical, and I don't/haven't really talked about it a lot on the boards. Serious is not really my style for the most part. But, the times when I have opened up about what's going on (Alex's PDD_NOS, for example) I have been so blown away by the outpouring of support and love that I truly consider 'you people' friends.
I'm currently experiencing the worst time of existence in my household, dinner time. We're going on an hour and a half now. Getting this kid to eat a ravioli is going to kill me. My husband is minutes away from walking in the door after being gone all week and I'm counting down the nano seconds.
I hate things like:
Nickelback
Pepsi
motorcycles
guns
Rush
cantaloupe
curry farts
vaganus-es
and the Yankees
I would love to take a Letterpress class.
I'm going to Greece in a few weeks, look for me in National Geographic.
So, that's me in a nutshell. Help! I'm in a nutshell! What kind of shell has a nut like this? AndTHANKTHELORD, Pete is home!!
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
I love you guys.
SB, I don't think you shared before what the new diagnosis is. I want to give you a hug. I know I've talked a lot about how I struggled to deal with J's illness and I hope that you don't think it has to be that way. (I know you don't, since you're dedicated to getting the help). I hope this doesn't sound assholeish, because that's not my intention.
I'll add to this. I'm 38, I thinkl just mod is older, maybe TSD? I have an 18 yeart old who I adore, I only disliked him when he was 3 and 5. my H and I have been together since 2002 when my friend told me she thought she met my future husband and wanted to give him my #. I said no at first but she talked me into it and we married in 2006.
We have an awesome dog Riley, who did not do well in MM much to my chagrin.
I'm a tech writer and like my job, but worry about what would happen if my company went out of business. I've thought about going back to school but I'm lazy. I also drink too much wine.
my childhood was pretty messed up, I have an older brother and sister and older ex-step-brother and ex-step-sister. my sister is crazy and ended up in foster care at 12/13ish. my mother kidnapped me (sort of) when I was 4 and my dad rescued me when I was 5. my mother then pretty much abandoned me and I called my step-mother mom. of course when my dad divorced her she abandoned me tto, so now I have mommy issues.
I guess that's about it, now I;ll have another glass of wine.
I will jump in...
I am 30, will be 31 in 2 weeks from today. H is bad at keeping secrets, so he already told me he's taking me to the Capital Grille to celebrate, because they "called him and offered free dessert." We have been married for 5 and a half years, together for a little over 8. We met online, which I'm still embarrassed to admit to this day (ironic seeing that I am posting my pseudo bio here). He used to tell people we met in a museum because that was where we had our first date, but I made him stop doing that.
I am originally from MI, now live in MD. I have also lived in WI, TX, and VA. I think I have wanderlust, to quote a Judy Blume Book ("Summer Sisters"). I'd like to move elsewhere, maybe out west, but DH probably doesn't. Also it is probably difficult to find jobs in my field outside of certain geographic areas. (I'm a tech lawyer).
No kids or pets right now. I actually got lyme disease in 2009 (bit by a tick) and I've had to take lots of meds as treatment for the past three years. I had an IV picc line for 4 months and I still have some of the symptoms. I'm scared that if I carry a child, I will pass it to him/her in my blood - I have heard that can happen. DH and I are starting to look into an adoption plan in the near future, once we've saved up some more money. We just sold our house, so hopefully that will help with that goal.
Ummmm...that's it...Oh, I like watching Dance Moms and I am really excited to see the Hunger Games.
Mashed - I've got a few years on you (and probably mod and tsd) so I bet I take the RE old lady prize. I don't feel like an old lady, though, so that's good.
I live in Atlanta and work as a contractor for a federal agency. My official title right now is executive assistant (I support a division director), but I'm hoping to move more into program work eventually. I have two masters degrees I'm not fully utilizing right now (MBA and MA in arts administration). I also have a part-time photography business, but I'm not putting a lot of effort into it right now.
I had a pretty nice childhood - no major complaints. I'm the oldest of 3 girls. My middle sister lives with me (she's dealing with some chronic health issues and major life events) and my youngest sister (she's 8 years younger than me) also lives in the Atlanta area - she's married and has two absolutely adorable kids, my 5 year old niece and almost 3 year old nephew. My mom passed away in 2006 and my dad is a retired college math professor and current county commissioner in east Texas.
I'm a few years out of a 10 year relationship - we never made it official but I considered it a marriage. He was diagnosed with schizoaffecive disorder and kept going on and off his meds and choosing not to see his doctors for long periods of time, so eventually it just was too much. I hate dating and have been procrastinating about getting out there again, though I know I will eventually. Right now I'm kind of just focusing on me and getting myself in better shape physically and mentally.
I'm 30. My husband is 37. My husband and I were really good friends that evacuated together for Katrina and then hooked up because we had nothing better to do when there was no power for a week. We knew within a month of that first kiss that we were getting married. We celebrated our fifth anniversary in January.
We have an almost 2yo son, a rotten dog that had heart surgery, and will start production on kid2.0 in the fall.
I'm a graphic designer living in the deep south and teach web design as an adjunct for the art dept. I'm contemplating quitting because the hours are wearing me out and trying to beef up my freelance business, especially when there are two kids in the picture.
At this exact moment, my life is pretty sucktastic, but overall I'm content.
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like cali, i recently turned 34.5 and I'm having a really hard time believing I'm actually going to be 35 at some point this year. inconceivable! i'm originally from WA and have lived here, there, and everywhere since then (VA, CA, IL, NY, NJ). i met my husband in business school, so we've known each other going on 7 years, been together romantically for 5.5, and will celebrate our 4th anniversary next month with two weeks in Spain...without our 2 year old. I'm starting to have anticipatory twinges of mommy guilt for abandoning her, but I'm sure I'll get over it when I'm drunk on Rioja.
Marissa aka Mucho Caliente is the most interesting person I've ever met and I wake up each morning wondering how I'll be surprised by her that day. She's awesome and we hope to make her a sibling soon.
I'm in marketing for a financial services company. Government regulators (MOUNT UP) are the bane of my existence, but I can't say the industry doesn't need a little policing. Otherwise I like the job pretty well, even though the bureaucracy of Corporate America can be very frustrating. I alternate between being a super ambitious gunning for that SVP brass ring corporate climber, and wanting to say eff this and start my own small business. I daydream about starting a photography business, but I don't want to be just another mediocre momtographer who thinks she's got talent because of a DSLR and Photoshop, you know? There's already too many of those out there.
Oh, and I got shiksappeal.
Mucho likes purple nails and purple cupcakes
I'm not even going to pretend this sentence makes sense.
ME TOO!
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Thanks Wendy
Buddha, I was wondering about that. I was also wondering if there was an announcement I missed at some point?
Mucho likes purple nails and purple cupcakes
Ha, no. We're going to start in the fall. I was just delirious and not making sense.
I am 31, and work in the web development section in global marketing for a European company. Bethie thinks I am a spy, because I get sent randomly abroad for work. That would be cooler.
don't much love my job, but I don't really hate it which is why I am still here. Previously I was a bartender, then an event planner, then a boat builder/furniture builder. I used to live in Australia. The boat building/Australia is pretty much my "One time, at band camp...."
I am what happens when you sleep with your roommate and the house doesn't actually implode. You marry and then have a baby. My husbands name is Kevin, and he is too sexy for his hat. One time he accidentally Dutch ovened himself with my fart. He can build pretty much anything. And he gardens. More than half of our lot is gardens, and we have a greenhouse. I make fun, but I reap the benefits. We have a dog named Linus who has both a penis and a vagina, and a daughter named Charlotte who spends her days plotting my demise, walking around the house saying "poop". We don't call her Charlie, although she is kind of butch and I have a feeling eventually she will go by that. She will be an only.
I am a non discusser of anything real, so my family life will stay short. The only thing that may come up from time to time is I have a wildly inappropriate brother, I was super close to my now dead father, I am afraid of the cancer.
I like cheese, brown liquor, warm weather paired with ice coffee, Jeff Buckley, eating outside, salt water, Harry Potter, dogs, picking my nose, pedicures, Mr. T and naps.
I dislike most children and most project managers, mouth breathing, stretch marks, dandruff, getting sand in my mouth and clowns.
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
I just turned 31 a few weeks ago. I have always lived in New England and cannot imagine living anywhere else. I have 1 older sister who lives in Virginia but is moving to New York soon for her H's job. She has three boys who are my world and I am so excited they are moving closer. My parents divorced when I was 14, good times. I lived with my dad from there on.
I work as an account manager for a communications company and love my job most days. I have been with my H for over 9 years and June will be our 3rd wedding anniversary. We are TTC. I promised myself I would be relaxed about it for the first year but that is not my nature so I pee on ovulation sticks instead.
I like the ocean, hiking, horseback riding, awful television, baking, cooking, and reading. I am obsessed with anything related to the Fall.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
This means a lot.
But actually, I've always identified with J a lot and it meant so much to me to see you work so hard to keep your family together and work on things with him, even though he wasn't dedicated to getting help in the end. It means so much to me to have a dedicated partner, but it's also good for me to remember that it's hard on him too so it's really a good thing to have your POV if that makes sense.
Anyway, hugs all around.
we all fall down sometimes
brass and ballet flats
I love this thread. I'm learning a lot about some, and am reminded at how awesome I find others (not that the new people aren't awesome...whatever).
I like talking about myself too! So, I am responding to the thread way late.
I live in Colorado. Born and raised with a short 2 year hiatus in DC, and an even shorter 4 month stint in KC. I love Colorado and never want to leave again.
I think I am 34. But, I could be wrong. I always forget.
I once pretended to be an artist - photographer pre-photoshop days. Majored in it in college...and now am a paralegal. Yeah.
My parents are both DEAD. They passed away in the same year (2004 pretty much sucked ass). My mom died of cancer (undiagnosed primary), and my dad of a massive heart attack. My husband's dad also passed away from cancer. They were all three in their early 50s. So, basically, my husband and I are pretty much two people who should NOT procreate...but did.
I knew my husband for about 10 years before we started "dating." And by dating, I mean, we went home together one night from a bar, and he ended up moving into my condo about a month later. He was/is my high school into college boyfriend's life long friend (follow that?). It was scandalous for about a minute, but now he and his wife are our bffs.
My H and I got married after a two month engagement. The wedding was in Las Vegas, my other favorite place, with 50 of our family and friends. I know people say it all the time, but our wedding really was the most awesomest event EVER. We had hoped to go back this year for our 5th year anni, and re-live the kick ass good time with all of our friends, but it is now looking like we will only have one other couple going. It will still rock.
We have one kid, Andy, 3.5. He too rocks. Even when he refuses to eat anything but crackers for four days straight, and nut punches my husband when H tries to put Andy's coat on instead of me. Andy will not be potty trained until he goes to college. All that aside, he makes me laugh, and tells great stories, and gives great hugs and kisses, and he seems to like me.
We have decided to be one and done. Life is pretty good, and we don't want to eff that up.
I love TV, the trashier, the better (new 90210, old 90210, Gossip Girl, Gilmore Girls, Real Housewives of Wherever), Diet Coke, wine, food (I'm not picky), our home, and all of the other things I have mentioned above.
ETA: and I really love talking about myself...obviously. Hey-sus, sorry for the novel.
Well, I don't have kids, but I think the nut punching makes him kind of awesome.
Oh look I can talk about myself! I'm 41- almost 42 and apparently am the bane of Lindsey's existence- sorry Lindsey. After 3 years in a miserable marriage I fIled for divorce, packed my bags and moved from the bay area to NYC/nj area.
I love kids but don't have any. I have a 14 year old cat who lost to a squirrel in the first round of MM and to be honest, if he wasn't my cat I would have voted for the squirrel too.
I am the youngest of three. I have 5 nephews and a niece who I love dearly. I grew up at the jersey shore in a fairly normal family. Im so happy to be home and around my family again.
I love wine, chocolate and cheese. I was a vegetarian for over ten years but recently started eating meat again. I love a good cheeseburger.
I'm bored and procrastinating so I'll do one too. I'm 29 and live in South Florida. I grew up in Cleveland and then after my best friend died my prom weekend, I decided to blow off college and made a promise to myself that everything I would do until I was 25 (random) would be a story to tell my grandchildren.
I moved to South Bend for a bit because I had some friends there, then I moved back to Ohio for a bit to get my bearings. I was a cocktail waitress and was getting out of control with the partying so I did what any sane person would do. I moved to Chicago, where I didn't know anyone, and became a live-in nanny.
I worked for the family for about a year and a half and then eventually moved out and starting bartending in the city. Briefly (like, 2 shifts) worked at Coyote Ugly. Had fun, made some great friends but got bored. A friend called me and said "Hey, you want to move to Boston?" so I did. We lived with 3 other guys that we met on Craigslist and lived in a kick-ass house.
A friend from middle school had moved to Florida and got engaged. She asked me to be a bridesmaid, so I flew down from Boston for the weekend. Met her fiance's brother, got drunk and his mom saw him coming out of my room the next morning. 5 months later, after flying down to FL every 2 weeks, we got engaged. I moved down here 2 months later and November 1 will be our 4 year anniversary.
I have one son, Emmett, who is a year old and cracks me up on the regular. We'll probably try for another one next year or so, but I'm having baby fever lately so it may be sooner.
I am finishing my BA in business and go to school full-time and also own a home-based baking business. I love wine, clean sheets, the color pink, 80's movies, Gone with the Wind (the book), fall (which we don't have in Florida) and fun pens. I hate when people chew ice, Operational Decision Making, snowbirds, slow drivers and humidity.
"Once I got a bath bomb that, once exploded, filled the tub with confetti. Little sharp metallic pieces of confetti. The product description said nothing about confetti. Oh look, there's a tiny, sharp metallic blue star stabbing me in the labia. HOW RELAXING. " - NoisyPenguin
Yay, I'm bored too and it has been quite fun reading about everyone and then felt bad I wasn't participating.
I'm 28 and live in Charlotte, NC. I grew up in Philadelphia but my parents moved us to Nowhere, KY when I was a teen (just outside of Louisville). Met my husband March of 2006 working in social services. We bonded over going through big break ups about the same time. November of that same year, we began dating. I moved myself into his place just 2 months after that. He just turned 40 this month and I am having a harder time dealing with it than him. We'll be married 4 years this June.
We have a 17 month old daughter (see photo below) who was a definite surprise baby that I originally didn't want. Now she's the coolest, craziest, stinkiest person ever and I love her. Especially considering whenever anyone asks her who her favorite is she always says Mama. As funtastic as she can be sometimes, we are most definitely one and done and we will hopefully do something more permanent about that decision sometime soon-ish.
I was in the Army for about 8 years and now I work in stock/logistics for a high end department store but hate it and want nothing more than to be a Pastry Chef (which drives me crazy because with all of the cupcake shows going on, everyone wants to be a pastry chef). I lament this decision as the only schools available to earn a BPA degree around here is a kommunity college that is not very great and Johnson and Wales which the soonest I could get in is Fall of 2014. So, even though I love Charlotte and just moved here in June, I want to move somewhere I can get my degree and then maybe move back. I assume this won't happen anytime soon and it makes me sad because I am dying to go to school and start a real career.
"If you wanna win then you shoulda put a hat on it. Don't be mad when you see a knit cap won it. If you wanna win then you shoulda put a hat on it."- Fenton
As always, I'm late, but want to join.
I came to the Knot about 7 1/2 years ago when my current husband and I got engaged. I mostly posted on the 2nd Weddings board, but was more entertained by NYE. JS and I will be married 6 years in July.
I got married for the first time at 20. Bad idea, but I got two amazing kids out of the deal. They are almost 14 and 11 1/2. Their dad and I now have a pretty amicable relationship. We live less than a mile away from each other, which makes coparenting great.
I went to college at TCU where I majored in social work. Through the years, I've done mostly in-homes work with families. Later (when we moved back to Iowa to be close to my family) I focused more on families where the kids were the primary patient. After a friend of mine was shot and killed in a client's home, JS had a freak out about safety and I needed a break. I worked in sales for two years, but it was eating my brain, so I went back to psychiatric social work in an inpatient setting. I love my job and can't imagine doing anything else.
Im a vegetarian. I love acoustic guitar, but can't play. I drive a green convertible Smart Car. I have two pugs and a lab mix. I have MDD and diabetes, and both are well controlled. My daughter and I volunteer together at the Animal Rescue League. I recently purchased a Sodastream and think it is the best thing ever.
Recently, my husband's best friend lived in our basement for 6 months. 10 days after he moved out, but brother in law moved in. I'm struggling, but JS is incredible.
I'll be 38 in July.
Not you personally! Sorry dude!
Mucho likes purple nails and purple cupcakes
Not you personally! Sorry dude!
Mucho likes purple nails and purple cupcakes