September 2009 Weddings
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FFC
Come on ladies! We need to get this board moving! Let it all out.
Re: FFC
This came up on mu birth month bump board - "Will you still letyour pets sleep in bed with you after baby arrives?" I was in a minority stating that we did not let out cat sleep in our room while Alex was little (dog and other cat have never been allowed to sleep in out bedroom. Cat is obnoxious and dog was kicked out as a rememdy for her separation anxiety which dif help some). I also stated that We co-slept with Alex, which of course numerous posters stated they would never do, mostly first timers who may change their mind once baby arrives as I did.
Anyways, I do judge the few posters who stated they would have baby and animals all in the bed together eapecially the one who has two 90lb labs.... This seems dangerous to me, even if they "always stay at the foot of the bed" I feel like you're just asking for trouble.
Flame Free right? lol
Some times DHs personality can come off as being a little flirty (well I feel like it does), lately when we've been hanging out with another couple (the guy is an old friend of DH, since middle school) I've been getting jealous DH & the GF of his friend. We all get along great, DH & DHs friends GF have a lot in common and similar personalities. Once we've been drinking, he spends a lot of time talking with her and almost ignoring me, I've mentioned it to him about how it makes me feel before and he said that I was overreacting that they are just talking/hanging out. Which it probably is, but you know how drinking can make things worse. I've gotten to the point where I don't really like hanging out with them, but the only reason is because I dislike feeling jealous for no reason. I am not a jealous person, usually. But I'm trying to suck it up since they are moving to FL in 2 weeks and this weekend is the last time we'll see them for a long time.
I sleep with my dog but won't sleep with my baby because our kids will be at very high risk for SIDS (Kirk has a brother who died of SIDS and I had sleep apnea as a baby).
My flameful confession: MIL and SIL are having an all out war. I'm staying out of it but know that the things they're fighting about will never be issues in our lives for one reason or another, so I'm smugly gloating to myself that I am clearly not only the better DIL but the better person.
Stand up for something you believe in.
The plans for Vegas are just getting more and more obnoxious. The initial plan was to go Tuesday to Sunday since our friends 'wedding is that Thursday... it would give us a few days to see the sites and enjoy ourselves while we're there. Well, now because the bride's MOH is an "attention whore" (friend's words, not mine) and our friend wants to have his bachelor party before his BBF leaves, the guys want to go out Wed, and the chicks Friday. This irks me in a number of ways, but mainly because it will be 2 of the 5 nights there that I won't be spending them with Chris. I'm discussing with my other friend going (since she's turning 30 the same week we're there as well), and we're THIS close to saying screw the b-party, let's just go out with our guys and celebrate! Honestly? With the last of information we've been given about this wedding vs. the amount of money we're dishing out for this trip, I'm about ready to blow off the wedding all together and just enjoy Vegas!
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Do it! Her wedding is Thursday but she wants a bach party Friday? That makes zero sense. Bday party it up.
Stand up for something you believe in.
Ditto this. That doesn't make sense at all and I say your commitment ends once the recwption ends which is Thuraday night, no?
That's pretty much how we're leaning. Plus, I really have no need to go to Sapphires... I'm sure I can find plenty of better places on the Strip to waste my time!
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Don't hate me...
*grammar
ETA: c'mon... it's a post about spelling. The irony is awesome! ;p
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Ahhahahahhaha I sooo deserve that! I'd love to blame it on mu iPhone since I totally suck at typing on it but I can't, that is one word that I can never remember how to spell! Priceless!
I was hoping for an excuse to go home early today but now its raining. I want to get some time to finish hunger games and half tempted to keep reading it from my desk.
Stand up for something you believe in.
LOL. Mary I
you. Nft.
Dude. Math sucks.
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This.
Even the smartest of people (read: me) can fail a math test.
I'm a horrible person for thinking this, but I think my brother is kind of a deadbeat and needs to get his sh!t together.
He's 40 years old, single, has 2 kids with 2 different women (potentially a 3rd that's he's "hiding" from us) and he's unemployed for most of the year.
He lives in my Dads old house that he's renting from my Uncle. My uncle wants to kick him out because my brother is 10 MONTHS BEHIND on his freaking rent. On top of that, he doesn't keep up with his child support.
He never sees his son. He's such a pushover when it comes to his daughters mom though, he ends up not only taking his daughter, but his ex-gf's other 3 kids as well. It doesn't help him at all because he pays for everything for the kids that aren't his.
The way he lives his life p!sses me off because he does nothing to improve his situation.
I understand math sucked, it was my weakest subject too. However, failing a class 3 (on the verge of 4) times when you are being independently tutored 4 hours a week, being forced to go to office hours for your professor by your sibling/ parents but just not studying and not putting the work into it is unacceptable.
It is quite literally the end of her higher education if she can't pass it- the other classes she needs to graduate have this class as a pre-req. It makes no sense to me why a person would just throw up their hands and quit college rather than buckling down and studying.
Stand up for something you believe in.
You'd be amazed the effect social anxiety and personal pressures have on an individual while going to school...
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I agree. I am horrible at math, horrible. I dis not get a regents diploma in highschool because I failed my math regents. When I got to college I would have failed so I dropped my first math class because I did mot put in the edfort i needed to. The second time around I made sure my classes were scheduled so I would be able to get tutoring and I ended up with the third highest score in the class - unheard of for me. However, I went to tutoring two times a week and studying and did more than the required homework every.single.night that whole semester because I knew I wa the type of person who was going to have to put in a LOT of extra effort if I wanted to pass. You have to want to do it and want to not waste the money!
No, I wouldn't be. She won't study on her own, she won't do her homework if someone isn't sitting over her watching her. She's being lazy when everyone has given her the tools she needs to be successful. Therefore, I'm classifying this as "higher education isn't for everyone so you need to get a job and become a productive member of society".
She may gain some maturity and prospective at some point and want to go back, and I'd support that, but she's not working for it right now and it makes me sick that my parents have paid for this charade for 6 years.
ETA: She's 24. Still working on her Associate's.
Stand up for something you believe in.
I didn't get my Associates until I was 25, and I'm still working on my Bachelors at almost 30... probably won't complete that until I'm 32.
You could have the world handed to you and your road paved, but if you don't want it, you don't take it. And having it shoved down your throat makes the spite 100x's worse. Shame on your parents for letting this go one that long, indeed. I couldn't get through my first year of college before my parents pulled the plug.
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But you worked. You did other things. You did not take 12 hours a semester and complain it was hard. So, it's completely different.
The more I think about it the more I am mad at my parents- some people can't do whatever they want when they grow up, and it sucks to say that to you kid, but you should start steering them towards something they can be happy and successful in before the kid reaches the point of you actually aren't capable of doing what you wanted to do.
Stand up for something you believe in.
Here, maybe this'll get the board going. I don't know if this is more FFC or just an Unpopular Opinion, but I'll just let it out here:
I judge women who don't at least TRY to breastfeed their babies.
There, I said it.
I'm sorry. I even judge my sister-in-law, who I adore, because she didn't attempt to breastfeed either of her boys. She simply "didn't want to."
I just don't understand why a mother wouldn't even try. We all know breast milk is the superior form of nutrition. Why wouldn't you want to give that to your baby? If you give it a shot and it's too painful or it's just not working because it's stressing you out so much that it's interfering with your mothering abilities or ability to comfortably live day-to-day, then I understand. You tried. Or if something causes your supply to dip and you can't get it back up, then I get that too. I realize there are sometimes other circumstances (like in the rare woman where her milk just never comes in). But I'm not down with "I just don't want to." I'm sorry if that applies to anyone here. It's certainly your right to do or not do whatever you wish with your boobs, but I just don't get not even wanting to attempt it in your baby's best interest.
SIL still isn't talking to me. I mailed her a card (to thank her for my birthday gift, since she ignored my texts about it), so we'll see if she responds. At this point I'm happier not having to deal with her AWness. I'm really tempted to feud it out with her, but I don't want to do anything to hurt my peace-loving inlaws, so I'm taking the higher road, and it's not nearly as much fun.
I had birthday cake for breakfast this morning.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
WINNING.