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Your weekend. How was it?
Other than too short, mine was good!
Stated in on Friday night, consuming too much wine and too many fig newtons.
Saturday, I had a photo shoot in the afternoon, which was awesome. This photog is one of my closest friends, and while I've worked with him several times, this set that we did is far and away my favorite collaboration to date. Saturday evening, I attended a going-away party for on of BF's friends who is moving to Alaska for 6 months, and it was a lot of fun.
Sunday morning was rough, as I had to wake up early for a brunch and roast of a good friend, who is also very politically involved, so it was also a fundraiser. It was hysterical. My friend was really good-natured about everything, and the roast-master (another friend who is a wickedly funny stand-up comedian) nailed it. The event raised over $8,000 for a gay rights organization. After that, I came back to my place, where BF was just waking up, and we hit a bunch of flea markets and antique sales before heading to a diner and gorging. Then we took a 2 hour nap, because we're lazy.
And, despite my need for clean clothes, I did not do a single piece of laundry. I suck at practical things.
What about you? Tell me things. Tell me everything.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Re: Your weekend. How was it?
Friday I spent 3 hours at the dentist getting a teeth cleaning and a tooth pulled. I need to go back in a few weeks for a "deep cleaning".
Saturday I was really looking forward to my friend coming over, but he never replied to my texts or call. I was not a happy lady. Though another friend did stop by earlier in the day so I had some girl time at least.
Sunday was spent just me and DS and some grocery shopping.
Your Saturday sounds awesome!
My Friday night sucked. I stayed in, and I had been looking forward to just hanging out and watching a movie, but my mother was in a horrid mood and I ended up just hiding out in my room and falling asleep at 9:30.
Saturday morning I opened my new bank account and then went to see my bff. We went to dinner and then met up with one of her friends for drinks and dancing, and I spent the night.
Yesterday just had dinner with the family.
I'm still trying to decide what to do about paying the mortgage and it's really starting to suck the life out of me. I'm so, so, so torn.
I'm sorry your friday was bad, but the rest of the weekend sounds great!
As far as the mortgage thing goes, I understand, and I wish I knew what to tell you! Can you consult with a financial adviser or something, to go over your options and the implications of whatever course of action you decide to take?
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Great beginning, crappy ending.
Friday night I went out to dinner and drinks with a close friend that I used to work with.
Saturday I went to brunch with BF's family as it was his sister's bday. Then went to Barnes and Noble for books, got an oil change, fixed my tire and ran some errands. Then to BF's parents house for birthday dinner.
Sunday was brunch with a close friend and then went shopping. Bought a cute pair of sandals and a bathing suit. Then dinner with mom. BF called Sunday night (he is OOT for military training). He tells me that he wants to talk when he gets home because he has been thinking about going active with his service which includes a 6 month deployment. This does not make me a happy camper and quite frankly, may be a deal breaker.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
About your mortgage, I know it sucks to pay when you're not there but I'd keep paying. I wouldn't wreck my credit over it. However, why are you not doing something via your divorce in court to rectify the situation? I understand that the court system is slower than molasses, so maybe you are and it's just taking forever. Regardless, that situation would be so frustrating! I'm sorry.
My FWB cancelled with me on Friday so I stayed in. I ended up hearing from a guy I went on a date with a while back and I decided to give him a second chance.
Saturday I went to kickboxing class and then out on the date with the second chance guy and had an awesome time.
Yesterday I had lunch with girl friends and did laundry. Still have loads of laundry though!
My weekend was pretty uneventful and too short...and it would have been much better if I won the lotto, but I didn't.
I've decided to try to get back into shape, so I went to a fun class yesterday and I'm really sore today. I'm going to another class tonight, so I may not be able to get out of bed tomorrow.
Last night we went to a friend's house for a BBQ and my DD was the center of attention. I love having a little kid that's a show stealer...it's so much fun. Although her gig is about to be up because my friend whose house we were at is pregnant and due this week.
Dmarie. Wow. I don't know what I'd do in your shoes. Yikes. For your sake, I hope he decides not to go. I would be really anxious. If you need anything, you have my email address. I'm here for you.
Rak. I'm glad you're meeting with someone. I can't imagine the extent to which this is weighing on you. Please keep me posted.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
my weekend was alright, nothing special.
friday - picked up a few things at the grocery store, rented "dirty dancing", "just wright" and "saturday night fever" because i hadn't seen them before. i was sleep by 9 - lame!
saturday - cleaned up, watched "dirty dancing", "just wright" and "along came polly". went to applebees with a friend, then came home and resumed laying on my couch. i stayed up till 1 am reading a cute book called "save as draft"
sunday - church and hung out at my parents house.
rak - so sorry you're in this position. i know it's tough.
Thanks, GOZF. I guess we have to talk when he gets back. I feel like such a biatch saying that I might break up with him over this but I honestly don't know if I am cut out for active duty military life.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
You're not a biatch. I know for a fact I couldn't do it -- but then again, I'm a conscientious objector, sooooo....
It's hard. It'd be a huge lifestyle change. It's not something you'd been previously aware was a possibility, so you're feeling blindsided. It's a rough spot. I'm sure that your conversation will help a lot.
(((dmarie)))
And I mean it. I know you've got a lot of good people surrounding you, but if you ever need to vent to someone more removed from your life and your situation, I'm here.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Friday - was able to secure a loan so I can finally get the house (and mortgage) in my name alone! (this makes me feel like a grown-up!) Went out to Hairball and got stupid druink and danced my arse off with one of my BFFs.
Saturday - felt like death most of the day because of the "stupid drunk". Laid around in bed most of the day.
Sunday - church, Kids Expo then to an Easter egg hunt at an assisted living facility. Good family day!
I don't know that I could do it either. I hope you guys can figure something out!
Thanks, I *really* mean that. And I might take you up on it. I am feeling kind of blindsided. When we first started dating I knew it was a possibility that he could get deployed because he is in the reserves. But being forced to be deployed and volunteering to be deployed are two very, very different things IMHO.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
How did the second chance date go, are you glad you gave him another shot?
My weekend was kind of whatever....stayed home on Friday night, ran both Sat. and Sunday (my time for my run yesterday was a personal best which is good). Saturday night I ate way too much at the Olive Garden with a few friends and then had a couple of drinks at a nearby bar after. Yesterday went out for brunch which turned into Sunday Funday, we ended up in about 7 different bars before I finally called it a night around 9. Which led to....waking up at 3am because I never sleep well after drinking. Never really fell back to sleep, mind was going and thinking of ex-bf a lot more than I have been lately. Now of course I'm having a suck day - I'm exhausted, my water bottle opened in my purse and spilled everywhere, I screwed up something at work and feel crappy about that. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day....
TBH, I am way lamer than everyone on this board. I took it easy, still recovering from surgery. We went to lunch with close friends, went to a home show, the mall, and cleaned. We also rented a movie or two.
Flameful - I enjoy doing this stuff every weekend, even without a medical excuse.
Friday night I just went for a run at the gym
Saturday was an Easter egg hunt then I took my son to Target to get some new legos. Saturday night I had an awesome first date!
Sunday we went to the zoo but my son got sick and he's been sick ever since. We're home today. Poor kid
There are weekends where I barely leave the house. Some of my favorites involve cooking, baking and watching movies in a little heap with the BF. Down time is awesome.
I didn't realize you were having surgery. I hope it went well, and that you're feeling better!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Hi! I'm not in the military, but I work for the military (for almost 8 years now). I love it...I love being around the culture, the people, the way of life, blah, blah, blah. My SO is ex military, my brother is considering it, and a lot of my friends are active duty, or have been. My Uncle is ex-Special Forces. It is not for everyone and that is ok!
My SO recently told me he was considering Reserves and I was 100% supportive, but I also know what I would get myself into. He is too old now, and it kinda bummed me out.
But anyway, do some research, talk to people about the lifestyle, especially if you can get service specific. My cousin married a Navy guy, which is totally different from Army, Air Force, etc. A lot of the branches are cutting back and being more selective over who they let in too, so he may not even get what he wants out of if (my brother is dealing with this now himself).
GL
It was really good! It was the perfect amount of hanging out and getting stuff done.
Friday BF grilled some lamb, and then we watched The Muppets (I cried because I'm a sentimental fool). I was so wiped from the week that I fell asleep before 10 pm. I'm old y'all.
Saturday we drove to a winery and had a boozy lunch, then hit the outlet mall for a while. For dinner, we had leftovers and watched Crazy Stupid Love. BF HATES movies where the protaganist is a womanizing azzhole, so he mentally checked out and played Angry Birds about halfway through. I still don't get the Ryan Gosling love, because I spent the two hours wanting to punch him in the face.
Sunday we ran errands, ate some pho, did some yardwork and housework, and then grilled some salmon/shrimp. We then attempted to watch Love & Other Drugs, but there was another womanizing azzhole for the protaganist, so we just gave up about a third of the way through. The story was too weak for me to keep going.
Next weekend, I hope the weather is better on Saturday so we can go to Busch Gardens or do something outside like golf or take the dogs on a picnic. Supposedly my friend is having a housewarming party, so we actually might be social too.
HUGS, Dmarie! Good luck with your decision.
Carrots, hope your recovery is going well!
BF and I had a supremely lazy weekend filled with movie watching, cooking, cuddling, and ahem, other activities. It was lovely. Got together with friends Saturday night for a movie, then brought breakfast to BF's neighbors Sunday morning, but that was pretty much the only 2 times we left the house.
Getting divorced is screwed up and horrible...and even slower than molasses. It was one of the worst experiences ever...mostly because the way the system is set up in MD.
I am living proof, ha ha.
Thanks, Carrots! He is already a 1st Lt in the AF reserves. I am pretty sure that he would be accepted for active duty because he is still young and has an extensive medical background (he is a RN). So...yeah.
I guess I just don't know if I want this because I am ready for my life to be settled. I will be 33 in a 10 days and I am ready to get married, have a baby, and live a "normal" life. Military doesn't seem "normal" in my world.
Anyway, you are NOT lame, lol. I like doing that stuff too! The highlight of my weekend was finding books on clearance at B&N!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Mine sucked. I really need to quit my second job, since i do nothing but bish about it, but I need the $$. I worked right after work friday til 5 am Sat, then slept for 3 hours and was up and at it again til 5 am Sunday. Then slept alll day (waking up intermittently to eat pizza and frosting) til this morning. And I'm still out of it.
I feel like I'm stuck in limbo because I'm at point A now, and I know point B is living down south with some degree, working 1 normal job, but i'm lost as to how to get there or what my degree will be. Sigh.
Oh thanks! I had my gallbladder taken out almost 2 weeks ago...it was a much slower recovery than I originally anticipated, but I am happy it is over. I go back to work in a couple days.
Now my body needs to adjust and figure out what I can and can not eat...that part is no bueno
Oh, I completely understand how slow, horrible and screwed up the system is. I'm not even getting a divorce - we're just fighting over custody and visitation. We've been fighting for over a year already and there's no end in sight. I can only imagine how much worse it'd be if we had more issues to fight over!
Oh, I completely understand how slow, horrible and screwed up the system is. I'm not even getting a divorce - we're just fighting over custody and visitation. We've been fighting for over a year already and there's no end in sight. I can only imagine how much worse it'd be if we had more issues to fight over!
Sorry to hear about your predicament, Dmarie. That's rough. You're not a biatch for not wanting that lifestyle though. It takes a certain person to be able to deal with it and it's definitely not for everyone. I don't think I'd be able to handle it.
Went furniture shopping, spent time with LO and kept slowly organizing my condo.
All and all it was a fine weekend. Nothing great, but fine!