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well, people suck
I run, but I am slow. I know I'm slow. But I don't quit. I don't have any desire to really run much faster. I usually average about 6 miles a week. I finish close to last in races or tri sprints. I'm proud of my efforts. It beats sitting on the couch.
I was making an appointment with my chiropractor and he said he saw me running and at first he thought "I was really tired" and then he realized I was running and "not winning any races."
I hung up and cried. And then I called him back and told him it wasn't nice to say that and it hurt my feelings. And that I wasn't tired -- that's my pace and I'm sticking to it.
He apologized. I told him I'd see him tomorrow.
I hung up again and cried. For the first time in my life, I'm so embarrased to run outside. People f'ing suck. Worse, I am in the midst of some heavy grief because I recently lost my mom to cancer. Coupled together, it ain't good.
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Dude, people suck. Ignore him, keep your chin up and keep going!
That dude is an asshat, I would find a new chiro.
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oh no! that wasn't very nice. Be proud of your efforts and you are doing a heck of alot more than most people! Keep up the good work
Also, sorry about the loss of your mom ((hugs))
haha, that is so true!
He sounds like a major jerk, & I wouldn't patronize his business anymore. Maybe that makes me bitter or vindictive or whatever, but I wouldn't. Who needs to be reminded of that kind of irritation?
And, FWIW, I'm also a slow runner. I've gotten a few smirks on trail runs or whatever, & I ignore it. I'm healthier than I've ever been, & feel amazing. Running is my stress relief, & I adore it. Why would I let some fool make me feel bad about something that I love?
I've had people say stuff to me too. Usually I just glare, though that would not have worked over the phone. I say screw 'em. If you're slow, you're slow. My stepfather (3h marathoner) always said that he had no idea how my mom did it (5h marathoner) since she was out there for so much longer than he was. It's a different game.
Just keep running. You do it for you, don't let ignorant people take it away.
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I am very sorry for the loss of your mother.
He was being jerky and you should be proud of yourself for running - no matter how fast you were going.
And you know what the ironic thing? The people smirking at you probably are not that fast themselves. I have never met a professional or elite runner that was smug like that. NEVER.
well, there is one d-bag triathlete that lives here...he is such a d-bag that he is actually known for it even outside of the state. ha.
So sorry for the loss of your mother.
Also, that guy is a jerk and what he said was totally uncalled for! I would cancel my appointment and look for a new chiro. Running is running.
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People do suck. I am slow too and I do not care what other people think (ok, easier said than done). I also get the "oh you do not have a runner's body look too". So I call them out on it and they feel like cr@p...makes me feel a little better.
Like you said, it beats sitting on the couch and that is all that matters!
While what he said certainly could come across as insensitive, you recognize that he's not saying anything that isn't apparent, so I sincerely doubt that he was trying to be mean so much as make conversation/ inquire into your well-being (i.e. are you in pain, is this pace typical for you, &c). It is easy to ascribe jerky tendencies to people where there are none when our sensitivities are up.
I am sorry that you are grieving. Keep focusing on your achievements and be gentle on yourself and others. And definitely keep going out of doors!
People do suck. I lost my husband a year and half ago- this month would have been my Godson's 8th birthday (he died before 2 months). The last two days I've been a total disaster mentally. If someone said ANYTHING about my running I would probably completely lose it. What I'm trying to say is: I kinda get what you are going through- and while it seems small- its huge to you. You rock for running. Period- fast, slow, crawling- you rock for getting out there. F that guy. Is it possible to get a different chiro?
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First off, I'm so sorry about the loss of your mom.
I'm a slow runner, too. I always think to myself, "At least I'm out here doing this and not home being a couch potato." You're doing a lot more than a lot of people are and you should be proud of that.
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I would call him back again, cancel my appt and find a new chiro asap.
Yes, people do suck. Good for you for calling him back and maybe helping him to be a little more sensitive with someone else. I agree with pp that I probably wouldn't go back to him, but you may be a bigger person than I am in that respect.
I'm a slow runner too, and I'm sure I give people a good laugh when they see me running outside. Whatever, my self-worth doesn't depend on the approval of others--unless I let it. I keep telling myself, I don't run to look good while I'm running, I run to look good the rest of the time!
Totally understandable to be bummed out, but don't give him the power to ruin the rest of your day--and certainly don't let him influence your running! You are awesome!
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I'm so sorry about your mother
That guy is a total shiithead. Post his number and I'll call and tell him so myself 
(I'm totally kidding). I wouldn't go back to him ever again.
I'm really slow too if that makes you feel any better. I run outside and got passed by a 70 year old a few weeks ago. She was fast for an older lady though. lol.
I'm so sorry
Go to your appointment tomorrow and tell that d-bag that it will be your last one with him. Jerk.
Um, then he can say EXACTLY this. Instead of being a snarky douchnozzle. Whose bed, er, tableside manner sucks. What he said, as a professional, was dickish and in his mind probably was funny or made him have a better day for putting someone else down. That's unfortunately how a lot of orthos/chiros that I've ever known roll.
Look, some people are going to judge no matter what. And they do suck. They should be grateful that no one in their lives judges them as harshly to their faces. They don't know where you're coming from, especially in a time of serious loss. One of my favorite sayings/mantras ever is from Plato, who said "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle". And the people who don't think that way especially before they say something don't deserve your time or money.
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*shrug* Not everyone is well-polished in every manner of communications, and, frequently, men less so. Some occupations just draw more candid types.
I find it difficult to believe that you don't see how your "Plato" quote doesn't go both ways.
I'm SO sorry about your mom and everything else. Good for you for calling him back.
I would find a new chiro, but not until *after* your appointment tomorrow. Make him face you...it will be far worse for him than for you and will hopefully teach him some humility.
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I'm so sorry. I'm a slow runner as well. And like others said, we are lapping those on the couch.
And I'm sorry for your loss.
And I'm finding it difficult to believe that you're standing up for this guy who insulted his client.