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I think freespirit is totally right
f.k.a.= Derniermot
Re: I think freespirit is totally right
That's actually not totally unreasonable for the cost of a wedding. I think the average wedding these days is $28k.
I'm hard pressed to believe a beebee 20 year old has over 20k to throw around for a wedding.
Meh, it's usually mom and dad's money.
Yep - my thoughts exactly.
The $20k budget doesn't really surprise me. I'm sure she has family members helping her out, and some people are willing to take out loans if they don't have family paying.
What gets me is that her fiance was instantly agreeing to go to therapy. Someone getting nostalgic over their first high school relationship is not something that requires therapy! They both sound incredibly immature and insecure.
Oh, come the hell on! There's nothing insecure or immature about being upset when your SO tells you he still has feelings for an ex. What is WRONG with you?!
And also, what in the hell is wrong with those of you who think that telling your SO about any twinge of nostalgia for an ex is a good and mature thing to do?!
I didn't get the impression that that was their conversation. I guess I assumed it was something more like, "We had some good times. I remember being really in love with her back in high school." Which, if my DH said that to me, would NOT upset me because it doesn't mean he's dying to run back in to her arms. It means he remembers his puppy love.
I really don't get why he told her. I also think it's incredibly weird that he immediately started talking about therapy. You can look on the past with rose-tinted glasses as long as you know that's what you're doing. It sounds like neither of them grasps that the warm fuzzies you might get remembering the cute girl on the playground isn't a burning desire to cheat.
Given how I imagine things going in this conversation, I think they both massively over reacted.
"We had some good times. I remember being really in love with her back in high school."
Okay, that right there is TOTALLY inappropriate to say to a current SO. Don't people know how to shut the piehole any more?!
Oh ffs.
I'm not saying he should have brought it up since she's clearly sensitive to the subject. I'm saying that I personally would not care. I also don't think MH would say something like that.
My point is that she is marrying a guy who has had previous relationships. Obviously at some point he had feelings for that woman. They are gone now, that is why he is marrying her. I'm not saying he needed to blurt it out (which I also put in my post) just that if it had come up in a conversation there was no reason to flip the f out. People are too damn sensitive.