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What words do you find offensive?
What words or terms make you cringe? I mean real words or terms that are often used, not something like "pink unicorns". The exception is when the word is being used in intelligent discourse, prayer, etc. I think it will be interesting to see that what is offensive to some may not be offensive to others. I'm NOT saying we should stop using these words here or IRL. We are all free to do as we wish.
For me:
- N word. No matter who says it.
- Faggot. My gay friend says this all the time. It bugs me
- Queer. Same as above.
- Jesus F Christ
- God damn it
- Retarded.
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Re: What words do you find offensive?
1. N word
2. Faggot/fag or gay. Queer has a lot more actual uses so that depends on context. "Queer eye for the straight guy" definitely did not offend me though, so I think someone has to be using it with real vitriol for it to bug me, and if they wanted to be jerks, they'd probably just say fag.
3. Retarded (this one especially gets me personally as my niece is both physically and mentally disabled)
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completely depends on context for me, but in a nutshell:
N word
Fag
Retarded
Gay (as in stupid)
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Retarded only bothers me when directed at people. Like calling someone retarded. Calling something, like a shitty policy retarded bothers me none at all.
I can't deal with the word faggot. Even typing it out pains me. If it wasn't for the fact that the f word phrase is owned by fuuk, I wouldn't even type out the word.
Fee Fie Foe figgah, I hate that word to the core of my being despite finding Chris Rock's sketch on the difference hilarious. And no, I make no distinction between the n word and the bastardized "taking it back" form of it. People who use it just sound ignorant which is amusing given that's what the word means.
I also don't like any of the similar terms for people of different ethnicities. If I hear someone utter the word wetback, k*ke, ch*nk, etc, I just assume you're a bigot.
So yeah, basically the bigot words. Everything else, whatevs.
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The N word
F*g
C*nt (I don't find offensive as much as the word makes my ears bleed because it's just so incredibly distasteful to me)
I guess that's it. I don't find "gay" or "retarded" offensive, but I do find them distasteful personally and so I don't use them. But I guess I don't get offended when other people use them.
Dude, everytime my brother calls somebody his "nigg*a" on FB I want to punch him in the face. GOD it pisses me off so bad. SO BAD.
Not many words offend me but once I was out with a friend and she said something about a tw*at and I clutched my pearls because that just hurt my ears and good Southern breeding.
Like others it will depend on context and truth be told if the joke is good the word probably won't offend me
1. N word
2. Fag
3. Gay - obviously only when used negatively
4. Retard
Yeah, that's probably it. C*nt doesn't bother me as it isn't about the core of who someone is - like skin color, mental capacity, and sexuality.
My brother does the same thing. He even takes pictures of himself throwing up gang signs and wearing blue bandanas. He's such an idiot and it makes me want to stab him in his face. Lord I hope he never finds himself somewhere other than whitey mcwhiteville. He'll be dead.
I guess he thinks being black will save him from his own stupidity.
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You know... I think this might be part of the problem in the other thread with how people were viewing offensive terms. You can use offensive and distasteful interchangeably in the fact they both can mean something unpleasant or displeasing. Offensive doesn't only mean attacking.
To me when someone says JayEffCee it's not that I think they're attacking me for being a christian... it's unpleasant for me to hear. KWIM?
I'm seriously trying to come up with any...
I don't cringe, but I "tsk" at the use of:
- retard
- faggot
- n-gger
I tend to favor Trey Parker & Matt Stone though, so there's that. I just would rather waste my energies on taller mountains.
Why do you find queer offensive? I guess for me I rarely if ever hear it in a derogatory manner. I feel like elementary school was the last time I heard it used in a derogatory manner. The vast majority of GLBT people I know self identify as queer and that is their preferred term.
But like I said before, the words that I find offensive and those I find distasteful are different. I can find something distasteful, and kind of roll my eyes and "whatevs" it. But when I get offended I'm going to react differently. If someone said "that's so gay" I'd think they were probably immature and roll my eyes. If someone was like "only n*ggers do that" I'd probably punch them square in their f*cking mouth.
I'm not asking about others. I'm asking what words YOU find offensive.
When I was growing up, queer was as offensive as faggot. My GLBT friends use it to describe themselves in a nice way, sometimes other GLBTs in a negative manner. It's just one of those words that makes me cringe. I still hear people use it in a derogatory manner, usually preceeded by the word f-ing.
I get the distinction you're making. I'm saying there could have been confusion in that thread based on terminology... as in I'm now saying JayEffCee is just distasteful to me not offensive... well unless it was used purposefully and maliciously towards someone. Like JayEffCee you're an idiot.
And FTR I was never equating it to the n word I do in fact see the difference between the two.
The n word, any sort of homosexual or transsexual slur (esp. used as a slur).
Add to that list a lot of sexist towards women slurs. I don't care when women use them, especially in a lighthearted context but even more "seriously", but I really hate when men use them against women and will usually tell a guy to STFU if I hear him using a gendered slur. Lol I know, it's hypocritical but oh well.
I just had to snicker at following up reading the words "my good Southern breeding" and then scrolling directly down to see a GIF of a shirtless dude buckling his pants. I'm not mocking, I swear, I just found it hilariously funny.
This has been discussed here a few times. Queer is one of those words that might offend some in the LGBT community and not others. Personally I think it's a generational thing.
So I should add the word homosexual to my original list. Not offensive all of the time but can be used that way. I prefer queer and gay over homosexual.
That makes sense. It's one of those words I hear all the time, but never in a derogatory manner, so I was surprised by it.
The usual - n-word, r-word, f*gg*t, gay as an insult.
Also, any words relating to degrading women or slut-shaming - c*nt, p*ssy, whipped, slut, wh0re, biitch, twat. I've been guilty of using some of them in the past, but I'm really working on stopping because I have a better understanding of the power behind them.
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Well then what the hella re you supposed to call them???
Hobo calls to mind a Depression-era homeless dude who hops trains. I would never call a homeless person a "hobo." Not because I'm offended by it, but because it would just seem kind of arcane, I guess. I don't think I've heard someone described as a hobo recently.
Weird story, though, my brother used to call people hobos when he was in high school, maybe? Like, "Really, you're wearing that out of the house? You look like a hobo." And we would make fun of him for comparing everything to a "hobo." Anyway, my parents and I went on a trip to visit colleges and my brother was away at camp. We had to stop at a hotel in the middle of nowhere off I-90 in Ohio, and the only restaurant was the hotel restaurant, which, for some reason, was called the Hobo Cafe. Their menu actually had a picture of a Depression-era train hopper. My dad, embarassingly, asked the hostess if he could take one of the menus because, and his exact words were, "My son is fascinated by hobos."
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What I was trying to say is that I don't cringe at queer, gay, or homosexual when used in context. My original list, to which I was adding homosexual, had to do with context. Like when the very far religious right uses the term homoSEXual and emphasizes the SEX to make it all dramatic and scary. That irks me. Homo irks me. Homosexual, appropriately does not. There are other gays though that will disagree and hate all use of the word homosexual since it has a negative past.
Ditto. Its all about context.
I wouldn't get riled up over JFC, but I do realize that other people find it offensive so I try not to use it personally.