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this whole thread is making me irrationally angry
They won't let men watch their kids. I understand being weirded out by finding an unfamiliar person as the caregiver, but I cannot understand being more weirded out by the fact that it is a man. Eta: not just at church, no male babysitters, etc.
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/1/64980366/ShowThread.aspx
Re: this whole thread is making me irrationally angry
That is just plain sad.
The one reason we liked our daycare/preschool so much was because both men and woman worked there. And from our experience, the men are hands down the more popular teachers with the kids. They are more lively, involved and carefree. They are more likely to actually play with the kids where the woman just supervise. Obviously having a boy I am grateful to have another example for my son of men being caregivers.
Clicky please? I'm on my phone.
This is one issue that really pisses me off, and I'm bored at work. Maybe I can get banned today!
Haven't read the thread, but I have a male friend who was forced to change seats on a plane b/c there was an unaccompanied minor next to him. Flight attendant said it was policy not to seat kids that were flying alone next to men. I forget what airline it was.
Found this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Airline_sex_discrimination_policy_controversy
Are you kidding me? Even if that's the policy move the kid, not the adult who has done nothing wrong.
a) I dropped off my infant daughter at the church daycare pretty much every week. On two occasions I dropped her off, skipped service and read/napped in my car because I just needed a break.
b) I like the girl who says that male caregivers creep her out. My husband is a nurse. WHAT A CREEP!
I think I've posted this before, but I know women who would not let their kids go to a friend's house for a play date if it was just the dad at home. Even if they knew the parents. This was especially frustrating when DH was a SAHD dad for a year. These moms would fall all over him telling him what a great dad he was, how nice it was to see a dad take such an interest in raising his kids, etc., but ask little Johnny over for a playdate? Nope. Not even if mom stayed (which apparently would open up a whole other can of rumor mill worms, 'cuz obviously a 2 people of the opposite sex can't have play-dates with their children).
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I like her excuse "well I didn't know he had any background checks/screening/education/was a father." NO? Hey even I asked that at my church. YOu get a little hand out, I introduced myself to the person in charge and asked what she was going to be playing with/doing during the hour and then said "thanks a bunch."
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I think the comment about more religious men harming children than non-religious men is a little better.
I have to fight my overprotective instincts a lot. Leaving my kiddo with a stranger, male or female, is a big issue. Leaving my kid with a trusted maled caregiver, not an issue.
This is unfounded, but why do I think this same type of person (OP) wouldn't want a son to have a doll? My youngest is proudly crashing his doll stroller about this moment. Real men change diapers. Truth.
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I'm more concerned with the one-on-one. Honestly, I work with kids, and I get concerned about being in a one-on-one situation, and I do whatever I can to minimize those situations. I don't care if it is a male caregiver or a female caregiver. Bad things can happen in both situations. Heck, most of our babysitters are family members, and even though I trust them 100%, I still know that bad things could happen.
And LOL at the mothers who aren't concerned because they have boys and not girls.
that is really sad, yet not surprising.
I know some churches screen the nursery workers (background checks and all that) and at others they don't. Some churches want all parents to volunteer in the nursery/sunday school as a way of giving back for using those programs for their childcare needs. So essentially, it's parents from the church volunteering to watch their own kid + others. Not usually single guys with no kids back there watching the kids. I wonder if that would make a difference to those ladies or not.
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Yeah, because religious men have NEVER harmed a child. You know, like priests and altar boys.
Religious or non-religious, I think it's totally idiotic to say you'll never leave your kid with a man. There are plenty of men who love kids and love caring for kids (in a non-creepy way!) that shouldn't be discriminated against.
You're right. That's totally not something I would ever do.
My husband teaches Spanish to preschoolers every week. He is obviously not to be trusted!!
Oh and as soon as I saw that post title I thought of you, Lanie.
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That's not unreasonable. My church has a policy that requires there to be three people present when a minor is involved, whether it's a minimum of 2 kids & 1 adult or 2 adults & 1 kid. One adult + one kid = not allowed.
::head desk::
Any position of trust (sunday school teacher, youth group leader, nursery worker, vbs volunteer) in our church you have to have a background check. I've probably signed the release half a dozen times in the time I've been at the church. There are some dads that are really active in the sunday school portion. I find it sad that there may be people who don't want to leave their children there because of the simple fact that they are male.
Our DCP often has her husband (valid substitute for her daycare) watch the kids while she goes to the doctor, etc. He's awesome. I can't imagine not trusting him to watch my kid. I can't imagine living with that level of paranoia.
Same here. I teach Sunday School, and it can be in PITA to find a second person for every week, but we have a strict "Two Adults" rule for any church related activity involving kids.
I actually sometimes do have to do it by myself (small congregation), but we make sure that we are never alone with a single student. So me + 5 students is OK, but me + 1 student is not. Two adults is preferable, but minimum of 3 people is required.
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