Trouble in Paradise
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Re: Thoughts on this TIP-worthy C&P?
She only confessed the first time because she would be exposed as they applied for home loans.
Five years later, they're STILL paying on her last lie (which we later find out is 37K!). Now, she pops up with 8k more debt and once again, is only confessing because they're refinancing their home to *drum roll* pay it off quicker.
Are you kidding me?! I'd flip my lid. Initially, I felt that his reaction was way over the top, but I'm also in a relationship where we don't say extremely nasty things to each other -- even angry.
Hearing that she's rang up 45k in total debt in five years, I'd be divorcing her as well.
She should have been getting help after the first instance. And she's only confessed both times when he would have caught her. Just awful.
I think this is just as serious as sexual infidelity. If my H had an affair I'd probably say something like, "And did you think of your family, your children? You threw it all away.. for what?"
That said, I don't know what he said to her and what he heard. I would barely be able to form a coherent sentence. I also think if I tricked my H out of nearly 50k and financially ruined our family, I wouldn't care so much about his words. There are no words.
For real. We have $500 on our credit card and that is the extent of our debt and I hate it. If DH dropped $8k of hidden det I'd be livid, $45k and I'd be in jail.
I ment you are more of a screamer and I am not (or at least I try not to be. Not saying I've never yelled when I've been upset. Just saying I try really hard not to).
Doesn't mean I think I'm better for it. Just two different types of people and personalities.
I'm surprised at the number of people who thought repeatedly overspending, hiding debt, and only revealing it when she was about to get caught would result in a calm, carrying, productive discussion. How would that even go? "When you repeatedly betray my trust and threaten the security of our family, I feel hurt because I realize our entire life together is a sham and I feel worried because I don't think you have the appropriate moral code to be raising our children." This reminds me of someone I know who had an affair and thought the deal breaker was her husband calling her a slut.
Kudos to those who could turn such a confession into a loving discussion.