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Re: NER: When do you give up on your marriage??
PSS! I'm sorry you are having so much trouble. Please feel free to talk or vent or whatever here!!!
I can't add anything more than pp's have said. I think they've covered all angles.
I just want to say that I'm sorry that you are so unhappy. I really hope you are able to find the best solution as soon as possible. (((hugs)))
Gosh, I'm sorry I missed this.
I'm more sorry that you are going through such a tough time. The best advice I can give you is to be true to yourself. Listen to what's inside, and it will guide you. Best of luck.
Sorry to post and run on this one. I was a little upset when I originally posted. I guess a thread like this requires some back up info....but I warn...it is long.
I don't even know where to start. We don't like each other. It's a horrible thing to say, but we truly do not like the people we are married to. We did it only because we had a daughter together and we both know this. We haven't shared the same bed in months. We don't speak. At all. I got a promotion on Friday and when I called to tell him about it I got nothing.at.all out of him. He ignored me all night by hanging out with his friend in the basement, and we had a babysitter that night. Saturday he ignored me all day and fell asleep on the couch. Same on sunday and yesterday. I can't take this anymore. He makes fun of me for the things I am interested in, and he does it in front of Mikayla. He doesn't work. He got laid off exactly one year ago and has gone to three interviews. He isn't even trying.
I do everything around the house, involving Mikayla, and I am the only one that works so as far as I am concerned he is a drain on me in everyway. He has admitted to being a PITA on purpose to make my life more difficult. Who says that to someone??
We fight a lot. I just give up. I got to go but I just really needed to vent.
Thanks for now. And sorry for the drama. I don't have anyone IRL to vent to so sometimes y'all get stuck with my melt downs.
Girl, I would have melted down in that situation months ago. He's not respectful of you, your daughter, or your marriage.
I think this is a good time to give up. It sounds like you've tried, but you can't change him or make him want to make this successful. Time to take care of you and your daughter. Good luck to you, and vent here anytime!
Take care!
Yikes. Well, it kind of sounds like your H has given up already, ya know? If he's letting you carry the burden of holding your household together and taking care of your daughter, he's not really IN the marriage.
If he's making your life more difficult while you're trying to make your life better, your goals are definitely at odds.
I'm reluctant to tell you to just get out, but it sounds like it's time for a "come to jesus" talk at least. It could be that you're just stuck in this pattern, and your H thinks things will just go on like this forever and he can ride along, continuing to do whatever he likes, and there will be no consequences.
When you're at your breaking point, you'll know.
Again, feel free to PM or Facebook me if you need to chat.
Good luck working things out in whatever way is best for you and your daughter.
Everything you've said is disturbing, but I find this part particularly disturbing:
He makes fun of me for the things I am interested in, and he does it in front of Mikayla.
The fact that he can't support you is not healthy for you. The fact that he can't support you in front of your daughter and set a good example for what your daughter should expect from her significant other when she grows up is not healthy for her.
I realize there is a great deal of support out there for parents sticking together for the sake of children, but under certain circumstances, there is a point at which a healthier environment involves only one, supportive parent.
I wish you and your daughter the very best with your situation and hope that you find your way to a resolution that is positive for both of you.