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Re: Does anyone else's husband or guy do this?
So if she makes a decision and decides to sue the board because she chose what majority says is it okay with the board then!! Really I know you have to be be being sarcastic. I may ask for your advice but I am an adult it and it is my decision to take it or not! I was speaking on how quick everyone says you need to leave when in reality....regardless of what we say we would do, we are not in her shoes. Not to mention if it were us...we say what we will do but when the situation actually arises..things change. Wasn't trying to be funny...just saying!
well i guess since i need to anwer her question per someone else....NO my boyfriend doesn't do that because I would not allow it. I won't allow it because unlike some people I can admit that I've been there before and I would never want anyone else to feel like I did. That is why I said what I said!!
And to the people that have a problem with what I said. I saw that everyone was being so harsh and telling her to leave. Sometimes people want you to just answer the question. She probably already feels bad, but to continue to throw salt on the wound doesn't help. She already knows she needs to address it but as someone else said maybe just maybe she wanted to see if anyone else had that problem and how they would handle it. Not tell her she needs to get out of that situation. We don't know her personal history or whether she CAN get out of the situation to be telling her that. And you're right if she had some self respect maybe she wouldn't still be there, but the reality of it is she has to get there and it won't be by everyone being negative!!!! She has to realize that for herself.
I dont know if you will read this, as its been over a month since you posted, but i figured i'd try. Here it goes...
My Ex-H did this. it wasnt golf it was fishing. and he ignores you when hes out because he is under the influence. Im not gonna sit here and tell you what you should do because its ultimately your choice and you are gonna do what you believe is right. Here is what i know... my ex was an alcoholic and a drug abuser, it was in his blood. your FI might be a really great guy when he isnt partying, and some guys just cant handle the stresses of life. He may have it in his blood as many people do. As much as it hurt, i had to leave my H because he was lying and stealing from me and my family because of his addictions (this doesnt happen in every case). I tried for two years to make him get help, and YES i did try to force him and also offered to go for support. didnt work. I finally left even though i was still completely in love, determined that i deserved better for myself than an addicted abusive partner. In the year we were seperated i helped him get better by meetings and hospitals because he knew that was the only way i would ever have contact with him. I stayed by his side through the treatment and hes been sober for two years now. He told me after he had gotten sober that HE NEVER WOULD HAVE CHANGED IF I HADNT LEFT. sometimes, leaving can be beneficial. if you have the money, you should go see a therapist for yourself, to make yourself better after the things you're going through because they can scar you for life. you can give him an ultimatum or you can offer your support to get help or you can leave to find something better and maybe he'll come around and see that you and the kids are the most important thing in his life. Anyway it goes, you dont have to stay stuck in this rut and be miserable. The choices you make determine your happiness, and you are never stuck. Good Luck and best wishes.