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Discharged
DH is being discharged for being overweight. He failed his weigh in today, which was his last chance, and the paperwork is already getting started. He isn't a big guy and just barely failed it... now his pride is hurt and nothing I say seems to help. I hate seeing him so down 
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Re: Discharged
That sucks. But it will be an honorable discharge.
They are at least putting him through ACAP?
Let him stew for a bit. When I got out, by choice, I was an emotional mess. Just be there for him.
I'm sorry you guys are going through this; although as a former ops desk operator (not my real job) I can tell you that sometimes paperwork just doesn't go through the way it's supposed to. So he may have more time to look at his options for work outside of the military.
And because of that slow as shiiiit process, he may still have time to bust his azz and get off of the overweight program; it takes a lot of signatures.
A guy in H's unit actually got a 4 week appeal process (I know nothing officially so this is going to be vague and perhaps only marginally helpful) after failing weight and getting the discharge paperwork started. Their CO knew of the appeal process and got it started for him. In the interim, he has since been passed over for promotion a second time, so he's out anyway, but he's sort of a cluster . Maybe there is something like that your H can look into?
So the Shirt thinks he wasn't telling the truth or she thinks you're his keeper?
H failed his waist size (by one effing inch) and is put on the 'fat boy program' and the lady that does the classes was insisting on me going with him. She honestly didn't understand that I have to go to work everyday.
But ya.. I've never heard of the wife being called to the shirts office for this..
ETA: The max waist for an AF male under the age of 30 is 39". 41 is big.
I agree completely. And at least for Navy the "inches" are already being generous because you failed on the weight portion. So technically you are overweight and over inches.
I do feel bad that you're dealing with your H getting discharged, but at the same time I don't have a lot of sympathy for people who fail the weigh-ins repeatedly. You are fully aware of them coming up, and have had to be at that weight/measurements before, so it's a matter of maintaining them.
Meh. H has actually tried really hard and has been doing really good, but he's always had a problem with his waist. He can just about max out everything else and then the tape test kills him. He's just under 6'4" and has some love handles on him that no matter how many side crunches, cutting calories or cardio he does he cannot get rid of them. Even when he got out of BMT or when he passed the test for Pararescue he still had some big love handles (gah I hope he doesn't read this) with a flat 'front' stomach. It's crazy.
Look, I'm not trying making excuses for him and him and I both know that "only one inch is still failing", but it's hard seeing him try so hard and fail by an inch.
And in all reality, I'd rather have someone who is a good Airman (or whatever branch) that is an inch or two over the limit by my side in combat rather than some skinny person who couldn't pull my ass out of a ditch if the time arose. But that's my opinion and it's usually the unpopular one.
I agree. If you can pass the APFT (or whatever) and have more than 2 brain cells to rub together (which is a shocking rarity) but fail tape by an inch...put them on remedial PT. I don't know how to formulate my opinion coherently, so fluck it.
Being able to pass the tape test and being a weak skinny person are not synonymous.
I didn't mean it like every person that passes the tape test is weak and skinny, but there definitely are people that are. There are a couple people in H's shop that can pass the tape test with flying colors and barely pass the sit ups & push ups or don't at all and (at least here in his shop) they don't get into as much trouble. It's a doubled edged sword.
It's just super frustrating to see H (or anyone for that matter) who has never had paperwork/got into trouble, gets multiple awards everytime he deploys/TDYs, volunteers a lot, got the highest score of CDCs in his shop and overall is a good Airman get in more trouble (and threatened to be kicked out) for failing a tape test than the homeboy in his shop who has multiple LOR's and LOC's under his belt, doesn't get along with anyone and just doesn't care about his job, his future or the Air Force. It just doesn't seem right to me. (And I know it probably isn't like this everywhere)
What kind of dinners are you having? Do you guys do any exercising at all or together? Those are everyday changes that can have huge benefits.
Agreed. A few months after having my daughter, H started walking with me (I pushed the little one in the stroller) almost every night after dinner to help me lose weight. With that and eating semi-healthy, I lost my pregnancy weight plus some in about 4 months.
Anyone who has multiple failures in any aspect (including behavioral) should be separated. One or two chances is fair. It certainly is inappropriate if they're only harping on the tape test.
You're right. You can't make him do it, which is why I was curious why you were in the Shirt's office.
I think this is my biggest thing. I know H failed regardless of 1 inch or 10, he failed and he should have done better and I agree with that. His shop isn't consistant with 'punishments' and that's what everyone (here anyway) is upset about.
I think it's great that you are being so supportive.
Why do you think it's a bad idea?