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Re: Discharged
That's a _whole_ lot of calories being eaten... Possibly more than in the lunch she packs for him. If he's trying to lose weight, he'll need a caloric deficit somewhere. From the description of the other meals, there isn't much to cut there.
The banana would be about 100 calories, the power bar (depending on brand/type) would probably run about 250 calories, and the powerade (depending on size) is likely another 150-200 calories. That's a whole lot of calories in one go, and depending on the type of protein bar, might be a lot of empty sugar without much nutrition.
IlovemyAirman - is this his breakfast? Or is it in addition to his breakfast? If the former, there are ways to adjust it to give him more nutrition, if the latter, this is contributing to a large caloric intake.
DH has failed multiple times, I'm not sure how many though. He was doing so good during deployment with diet and exercise, he wasn't at his goal weight but he was able to pass tapes with no problems. When he got back (Germany... I'm in Texas) he stopped going to the gym regularly and completely blew off his diet. He had an unofficial weigh in to see where he was at and was 2% over so he hit the gym pretty hard and changed his diet. But when he weighed in yesterday he was 4% over... not sure how that happened.
His NCO talked to him and told him to keep trying on not give up yet because he still has a chance (I found that out after the post) but he has to lose the weight. I talked to him and tried to give him some motivation to keep trying. I even told him I would go to the gym any diet with him... I cant really afford to lose weight (I have a fast metabolism and just barely over my minimum weight) but I'm willing to tone and burn of body fat percentage. He doesnt seem to care anymore and just got mad at me for trying to help. If he still gets discharged its his own fault.
Have him drink Powerade Zero. I drinks it and I loves it.
Everyone in the Army drinks Gatorade or Powerade. (hyperbole alert)
I never drank it before getting to my first unit and then bam! Addiction.
So it sounds like the post-workout food is a meal, from what you have written there.
(DH is army, I'm used to his schedule, starting with PT at 6 or 6:30am)
In that case, the amount of calories he's taking in for that "meal" aren't crazy. But, they also aren't providing much sustenance. And I bet they don't keep him full until his next meal.
If you can convince him to track his calories, it might help him. Losing weight isn't easy, and it helps to use all the tools you can...
Also, like the pp suggested - see if he'll try the "zero" version of the powerade. It would be a big help, if he isn't willing to give up the drink. (I can understand that - I am working on losing weight, and drink diet soda, even though I know there are better things out there...)
I have to say that reading this has been so helpful to me. Not that I would've wanted this to happen to anyone to have this conversation, but this is one of my worst fears about FI and his job.
He commissioned out of ROTC, so he went to PT pretty much every day by his senior year of college and continued to go work out with them before he went to ASBC the following fall. He was in great shape. He also didn't own a car and walked everywhere, in addition to his family not ever having a fully functioning kitchen (long story), so diet was easier for him. After ASBC he reported for what was supposed to be his training in FL and then he bought a car. Between when he left ASBC at Thanksgiving and when I saw him that New Years, he'd probably gained 20 lbs, which didn't look bad, but it was so fast. I figured it was mostly the first time he'd really lived on his own and had a car (not had to walk everywhere) and had the money to kind of do what he wanted. Then he got put on medical because of his rotator cuff (side effect from when he had West Nile in his teens that suddenly showed up).
He steadily gained weight over the course of the next few months, every time I saw him he weighed a little more. He started having to buy new clothes because his old ones wouldn't fit him. By the time I moved in with him, last September, he had put on a lot of weight, and he carries it most all in his belly. It got pretty big. I tried to help him and keep healthy food in the house, but, because of my own issues with disordered eating, it's hard for me to constantly play food police or hide food.
He doesn't get that just doing the odd run or hour on the elliptical isn't how you lose a good deal of weight. I also get a little annoyed because I can afford to take time to get in shape, but it's not part of my job, it is part of his, and he's given loads of opportunities and programs (as well as a free gym) to help him. He hasn't failed anything, but that's always feels like there's a big "yet" after that statement. I actually know a lot about losing weight, and not always healthfully, thanks to my teenage years, and sometimes it's a real fight not to go back to those behaviors.
We made a pact that we were both going to try to lose weight in the 3.5 months of his TDY, and when I saw pictures of him last week (they went on a day trip to DC), I was actually kind of pissed. He looks pretty much the same, it's been 3 months, and I can still see that his belly is really big. It's not about not being attracted to him, I am, but I don't know how to bring it up with him anymore without him thinking it's about me liking how he looks. I'll admit, he did look better when he was more fit. Most people do. I've lost some weight, but look pretty much the same as the day he met me. He looks like a different person. But besides that, I worry about his job. So much. He's always able to push through the PT stuff, but I know that his tapes are going to trip him up and I wish he'd used this time to work on it. His roommate there is a marathoner and fitness nut, and if living with that guy can't help, I'm worried about him coming home.
I realize I just rambled like a mofo, but any advice is welcome. Sorry about the length, but it is something I think about a lot.
OP, does your H work swing shift? I know J had a lot of issues getting weight off even eating perfectly while on swing shift. He worked out every day, but the lack of sleep was killing him.
Now, he doesn't care cause he is out. I'm trying to get him on a diet again. He just is exhausted most of the time.
Hes not. He works during the day and will get off usually between 1500 and 1700... He goes to the gym after but doesn't really know how to work out and thinks spending time in the sauna is going to help burn fat. His mom never taught him how to eat rite either (the whole family eats ALOT of junk food), he hates most veggies and over eats on fatty foods.
Honestly I think he looks sexy the way he is, but I've always been a chubby chaser. He just has low self esteem and is lazy... if he loses the weight I think he will feel better about himself and be happier too.
Oddly enough, J's parents are overly skinny. Like his mom orders off the kid's menu and asks FIL for permission to get certain foods. BIL is a gymaholic since his divorce. It is to the point it is not really healthy. J kinda falls toward the other end. He doesn't work shift, but his commute sucks.