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Re: How do you feel about Friday weddings?
How rude! she has no plans on feeding the kids???
Sheesh....order pizza for them from some outside pizza place --- or order a family sized speghetti and meatballs dinner sent in, with enough for each kid.
I think Friday weddings are inconvenient. You have to ask for the afternoon off and usually there is traffic at 5ish when the ceremony starts. Then it's a rush to get to the venue.
Or it's a huge gap between 4pmish and the 7pm reception start. You have to find something to do.
i dont know wtf they are thinking. i think her parents are worried about money and shes trying to convince them that the kids wont eat and therefore they should be invited to the wedding.
i honestly try not to think about it.
The one thing I really like about a Friday wedding is that the bride and groom have made it clear from the get-go that they care more about having their picture-perfect pretty pretty princess day than having guests show up. So I don't, unless I think it will be fun and generally worth my time and expense to get there.
Devoting two days to your wedding instead of one was less stressful on everyone? Think again. Your guests may not have complained to your face, but trust me, they complained.
A former coworker friend of mine was married on a Friday. Her decision was more based on the fact that we lived in a hot destination wedding locale, and places often booked up 18-24 months in advance. She wasn't waiting that long.
The ceremony was on the small side and rather informal, but that fit the personalities of the bride and groom. The reception was your typical wedding reception and more people showed up as the night went on. I remember dancing and drinking a lot at hers. It was one of the best ones I've been to, if I'm being honest.
If I'd had to travel for it though, I doubt I would have gone. The fact that I had an excuse to leave work early that day didn't bother me any.
We did a friday wedding. About 60% of the guest were local and the another 25% were retired. We did ask the wedding party how they felt about it as it impacted them the most. My husbands parents have thursday and friday nights off so it worked for them, my parents didn't care, my sister's husband has to work saturday night, and my friend's husband leaves for his work sunday morning so for them it seemed to work. Another reason we went for it is DH wanted an evening reception and I find it a pain to have a wedding at 2 and a reception not start till 5. In the church we can't have a saturday wedding ending after 3 so we did a friday 5:30 wedding over by 6, reception was 5 miles from the church and there were hot appitizers and drinks waiting for the guest. The size was only 100 guests (about 84 came, due to weather issues (hurricane at the time). Everyone stayed till about 10pm and we were all out of there by 11:30.
We provided sitters onsite for guests, a buffet for the kids, entertainment for the kids and comfy place for them to lay down if mom and dad wanted to come bring them and party.
I hate sunday weddings the most though. and i cna't stand giving up my 3 day weekends for weddings.
I don't mind them. I have a lot of vacation time, so it's not a big deal for me to take a day off. I take off most Fridays in summer as it is.
I went to a Friday wedding about 2 yrs ago. It was a 4 hr drive and we drove to and from the same day. That was brutal, but at least we still had 2 more days to recover. If it were on a Saturday I would have felt cheated out of my weekend.
lol
my wedding was fun as shiit and the party went on for like a full 72 hours.
I must have fun friends and family, too. I've not been to lots of weddings but mostly they are a blast.
It was definitely not caring more about my pretty princess day (nice generalization) than my guests.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I believe this.
I have a friend who got married on a Monday. Now THAT was a fun wedding. Brad was not a fan and I heard about it for months, but it was at a resort and we had to stay a minimum of 3 nights, so we had to take 2 days off no matter how you looked at it. We had a fabulous time and were so happy that we went.
That will not be the case with the wedding I am referring to. So so sad. I am hoping that there will be beer and wine. Fingers crossed. Otherwise, I will be that klassy broad that brings in my own. Oh yes, I will.
In general, I think that people do have weddings on Fridays to save money- which they either then put into something fun like the bar or they keep in their pockets. Either way, I understand it, but it doesn't mean that I have to like it. It's their day and they can do what they want.
FTR, I would never NEVER complain to the bride about how her wedding date is totally inconvenient for me, so it doesn't surprise me one bit that all of you Friday people say that you got no complaints (not aimed at you, LTP). You invited your friends and family. They presumably love you and would not try to make you feel badly.
We got married 1,600 miles from where I'm from, so there were no guests from my side of the family except immediate family. We got married in an LDS temple, so it was only close family (who were already there for the wedding anyway) at the ceremony and after. Actually, there were only 8 people in the Temple with us for the ceremony. 99% of our guests were only there for the reception.
It's just how its usually done here in Utah as somepeople can't go into the Temple for the ceremony and usually people are only invited to the reception (that is VERY common here).
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fcking right on.
True. I've had friends who got married on a Sunday night, and I was so annoyed. But I also never said a word to them about it.
We knew it wasn't as convenient as a Saturday wedding for everyone, but we also kept the guest list small enough that it wasn't people we don't see regularly. And we didn't do any of the pre-wedding parties, (including a rehearsal/dinner or bachelor/ette parties), so that cut down on the time off people needed to request.
My brother is also getting married on a Friday. His FFIL is footing the bill for their reception, and he had buyer's remorse about three seconds after they signed the contract. So he made my brother call to find out about a Saturday, and there's an extra $1500 minimum. Yeah, they'll be sticking with Friday. It's crazy how much more they can charge for the exact same thing.
F*ck that noise. I got married on a Friday because it allowed me to provide an open bar all night with wine, beer and hard liquor, great food at a dedicated location for my guests, and a room full of stuff for the kids to play with for literally HALF of what it would have cost me on a Saturday. Are you going to give me the money for it? Yeah, didn't think so. Do you think they would have preferred less quality food, a busy ass location and a cash bar along with nothing for the kids to do? Didn't think so.