Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: why oh why do so many "men" live at home with mommy and daddy?
Understandable.
You're apartment shopping, and your situation is not the kind of thing I am talking about at all. Hell, you do OWN a house!
I agree with you. If you're an able bodied and employed adult who can afford it, you should be living on your own. I moved home with only a small cash settlement and student loans to my name. I have spent the past year saving so that I can GTFO because to me, being independent is an important part of being an adult. I've been there so I can understand a temporary arrangement, but living at home just to save money and not "throw it away on rent" is absurd to me.
I have a friend who has been divorced and living at home for 10 years. She thinks I'm crazy to move out when I "have things so good at home". Maybe I should introduce her to some of your rejects!
I wouldn't date someone who didn't agree with this statement, that's for damn sure. And yeah, yeah, maybe the guy is broke and can't afford it, but hell, wouldn't being broke and unable to afford housing be a dealbreaker, too?
That's how I see it. It's not just the current financial status that's the issues, it's an entire outlook on money and how it relates to life. I want someone who loves his (current) life, not just his money. lol
The economy has sucked at various points in time - I know it did when I graduated college - but I didn't move back home and I know none of my friends did. We hustled to be independent adults because that's what was important, not the size of our houses or whether we rented or bought. We cut the apron strings because that's what was expected of us. My father even said something to that effect when he gave his toast at my wedding - that his proudest moment as a father was knowing that he had raised an independent woman.
So, yeah, I can't abide the boomerang children phenomenon if there isn't a good reason for it. (And, no, rak, this doesn't apply to you.) You live independently, you become an adult, and you save for the house over time just like your parents and your parents' parents did.