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Talk to me about FMLA

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Re: Talk to me about FMLA

  • imageMrsAJL:
    image2Vermont:
    imagemominatrix:

    As for the why... it's federal law. And it was passed because the government decided that it was better for other employees to be inconvenienced a little bit, or for employers to be inconvenienced a little bit, than it was to have people be fired because they got sick.

    And, in the long run, in an economic analysis, it makes sense not to fire people who are trained and invested in the company / business. 

    Absolutely makes sense, but employers do run the risk that other, well trained employees choose to quit because the FMLA employee gets special treatment.  It's probably a tough call for employers sometimes.

    So are you planning to quit your job because a co-worker is using leave under the FMLA?  It's not special treatment. It's a provision open to all employees in a qualified company.

    The only person who is getting hurt in this scenario is the person who quit. Seems like a silly move, imo.

    Nope, not me...I just started a new job. 

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • imageMrsAJL:
    image2Vermont:

    I know of someone who is looking to quit because the other employee has made things more difficult on her.  The "FMLA" employee continues to get extensions, doesn't work a full week, leaves work early because she doesn't feel well on the regular.

    The person quitting may be eligible for the same provisions, but doesn't use them.  I can most certainly get how this would get old after awhile.  At what point is the sick employee just not capable of doing the job?

    Interesting. I don't think this is a problem with FMLA. I think this is a problem with management and consistent HR policy.  

    Ditto. 

    Bridey, Momi and missussbee all raise good points about the misinformation on the internet (zomg especially the bump. it drives me bonkers) about FMLA so the DOL website is a great resource for starting.

     But in the situation you described - the sick person isn't capable of doing the job when their FMLA runs out, I guess. But the issue sounds more like poor management, not the federal law itself.

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  • imageMrsAJL:

    Interesting. I don't think this is a problem with FMLA. I think this is a problem with management and consistent HR policy.  

    Agreed.  One company's incompetent management does not convince me that FMLA protection is, on the whole, a bad thing.

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  • image2Vermont:
    imagemominatrix:

    As for the why... it's federal law. And it was passed because the government decided that it was better for other employees to be inconvenienced a little bit, or for employers to be inconvenienced a little bit, than it was to have people be fired because they got sick.

    And, in the long run, in an economic analysis, it makes sense not to fire people who are trained and invested in the company / business. 

    Absolutely makes sense, but employers do run the risk that other, well trained employees choose to quit because the FMLA employee gets special treatment.  It's probably a tough call for employers sometimes.

    Wait, what?? 

  • imagebrideymcbriderson:
    imageMrsAJL:

    Interesting. I don't think this is a problem with FMLA. I think this is a problem with management and consistent HR policy.  

    Agreed.  One company's incompetent management does not convince me that FMLA protection is, on the whole, a bad thing.

    oh..just to be clear..I wasn't saying that at all.  I think the general idea is a good one, but it seems to me that employers can let things get out of hand (ie. when they allow for more than the 12 weeks). 

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • imagemissusbee:
    image2Vermont:
    imagemominatrix:

    As for the why... it's federal law. And it was passed because the government decided that it was better for other employees to be inconvenienced a little bit, or for employers to be inconvenienced a little bit, than it was to have people be fired because they got sick.

    And, in the long run, in an economic analysis, it makes sense not to fire people who are trained and invested in the company / business. 

    Absolutely makes sense, but employers do run the risk that other, well trained employees choose to quit because the FMLA employee gets special treatment.  It's probably a tough call for employers sometimes.

    What fuckwad would quit their job because the pregnant ho in the next cube got to take a few months without pay? 

    Not to mention that it's not SPECIAL TREATMENT if it's something that is available by law to everyone.  There is no such thing as an FMLA employee - everyone at a company either gets the protection or doesn't.  If someone doesn't use it - then that's because they didn't have a medical problem or baby that year.  Which is probably what most people want most of the time.

  • image2Vermont:
    imagebrideymcbriderson:
    imageMrsAJL:

    Interesting. I don't think this is a problem with FMLA. I think this is a problem with management and consistent HR policy.  

    Agreed.  One company's incompetent management does not convince me that FMLA protection is, on the whole, a bad thing.

    oh..just to be clear..I wasn't saying that at all.  I think the general idea is a good one, but it seems to me that employers can let things get out of hand (ie. when they allow for more than the 12 weeks). 

    Well, and that point it is the employer's legal right to pursue whether or not the employment will continue to be a good fit. FMLA is a legal protection for the employee, but it has limits that protect an employer too. 
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  • image2Vermont:
    imagebrideymcbriderson:
    imageMrsAJL:

    Interesting. I don't think this is a problem with FMLA. I think this is a problem with management and consistent HR policy.  

    Agreed.  One company's incompetent management does not convince me that FMLA protection is, on the whole, a bad thing.

    oh..just to be clear..I wasn't saying that at all.  I think the general idea is a good one, but it seems to me that employers can let things get out of hand (ie. when they allow for more than the 12 weeks). 

    But then that has nothing to do with the law and everything to do with incompetent management.  Because even in the absence of the law, an employer could have done this exact same stuff.  It's not as though pre-FMLA, the employer would have been required to fire the employee.

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  • Employees who get upset because another employee is using FMLA belong in a special kind of hell. I had a CW who had breast cancer and she stopped in to say hello on a good day from chemo. Another CW said "oh, you're so lucky. You're off and can enjoy the nice summer weather.". Oh yeah-she's lucky. I'm sure she'll remember that when she's puking her guts out in the bathroom and feels like she wants to die. People are so dumb.
  • imageLittleMoxie:
    imagemissusbee:
    image2Vermont:
    imagemominatrix:

    As for the why... it's federal law. And it was passed because the government decided that it was better for other employees to be inconvenienced a little bit, or for employers to be inconvenienced a little bit, than it was to have people be fired because they got sick.

    And, in the long run, in an economic analysis, it makes sense not to fire people who are trained and invested in the company / business. 

    Absolutely makes sense, but employers do run the risk that other, well trained employees choose to quit because the FMLA employee gets special treatment.  It's probably a tough call for employers sometimes.

    What fuckwad would quit their job because the pregnant ho in the next cube got to take a few months without pay? 

    Not to mention that it's not SPECIAL TREATMENT if it's something that is available by law to everyone.  There is no such thing as an FMLA employee - everyone at a company either gets the protection or doesn't.  If someone doesn't use it - then that's because they didn't have a medical problem or baby that year.  Which is probably what most people want most of the time.

    Again, read my other post.  I agree that FMLA is not special treatment; however, I do think that certain employer decisions to extend, etc that cause extra work for fellow employees can come off as special treatment to said employees.  It makes for a lot of conflict.

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • imagemissusbee:
    imageSou Desafinado:

    imageringstrue:
    Apparently certain states also have their own leave. I've heard that in certain states you can get up to 6 months unpaid leave using both the fed and state packages.

    This is true based on what has happened with my employer, which is D.C.-based. 

    Again, D.C. allows for 16 weeks of FMLA

    http://www.dcbar.org/for_lawyers/sections/labor_and_employment_law/fmla01.cfm

    It's not FMLA if its a state law.  FMLA refers only to the provisions allowed by the federal family medical leave act. State laws have their own names.

    Not to be a detail whore, but like bridey says, misinformation abounds. 2V is way better off going straight to the DOL website, where everything is pretty explicitly laid out. States often have their own equivalent websites with FAQs to clearly lay out the intersection of federal and state leave laws. 

    Not living in a state here (TAXATION WITHOUT REPRESENTATION) but the law here is called -- wait for it -- The D.C. Family and Medical Leave Act. Different and yet, the same somehow. 

    In any case, I thought 2V was asking generally and was just sharing what happens here in D.C. and with my employer.

    I think the issue you describe 2V is not a FMLA issue and more a poor management issue. Maybe they fear firing the sick employee could result in some sort of backlash or lawsuit.

  • image2Vermont:

    Employers do run the risk that other, well trained employees choose to quit because the FMLA employee gets special treatment.  It's probably a tough call for employers sometimes.

    Ditto pp - it doesn't matter if it's an inconvenience for others, FMLA still protects people for 12 weeks (and as momi explained, it can be intermittent too) as long as their illness or whatever meets the criteria for FMLA. If people want to be angry, then be angry at the federal government for this.

    Plus, those same a-holes who get pissy about other people could end up needing FMLA themselves at some point, so I don't get the anger.

  • Maybe they fear firing the sick employee could result in some sort of backlash or lawsuit.

    Ahhh.  Yes, I think this could be what is going on...

    However, if the employer is not bound by FMLA law to give more than 12 weeks, then why would a lawsuit be a concern?

     

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • imageflygirl18:
    Employees who get upset because another employee is using FMLA belong in a special kind of hell. I had a CW who had breast cancer and she stopped in to say hello on a good day from chemo. Another CW said "oh, you're so lucky. You're off and can enjoy the nice summer weather.". Oh yeah-she's lucky. I'm sure she'll remember that when she's puking her guts out in the bathroom and feels like she wants to die. People are so dumb.

    *jawdrop* 

  • image2Vermont:

    Maybe they fear firing the sick employee could result in some sort of backlash or lawsuit.

    Ahhh.  Yes, I think this could be what is going on...

    However, if the employer is not bound by FMLA law to give more than 12 weeks, then why would a lawsuit be a concern?

     

    Or, maybe she's a valued employee - moreso than the whiner - and they are hoping she'll be able to come back on board full time once her illness is over. 

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  • FMLA is the minimum requirements that must be met by certain employers. If those employers want to go above and beyond FMLA requirements (which are actually pretty damn week) to support their employees with medical needs, why on earth are we complaining?

    Jeesh.

    How dare the boss man give employee X extra time for chemo treatments! Where's my extra time for chemo treatments!?

    Eff that noise.

     

  • imageJaylea:
    image2Vermont:

    Maybe they fear firing the sick employee could result in some sort of backlash or lawsuit.

    Ahhh.  Yes, I think this could be what is going on...

    However, if the employer is not bound by FMLA law to give more than 12 weeks, then why would a lawsuit be a concern?

    Or, maybe she's a valued employee - moreso than the whiner - and they are hoping she'll be able to come back on board full time once her illness is over. 

    Exactly!  There are so many possibilities to this situation - and I actually really do give pause to the person who b1tches and moans because a SICK coworker isn't losing their job! 

     

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  • image2Vermont:
    imagebrideymcbriderson:
    imageMrsAJL:

    Interesting. I don't think this is a problem with FMLA. I think this is a problem with management and consistent HR policy.  

    Agreed.  One company's incompetent management does not convince me that FMLA protection is, on the whole, a bad thing.

    oh..just to be clear..I wasn't saying that at all.  I think the general idea is a good one, but it seems to me that employers can let things get out of hand (ie. when they allow for more than the 12 weeks). 

    If they let it get out of hand, then the employer suffers by losing a presumably good employee and/or allowing the one constantly sick to abuse the policy. 

    I can see how it can get old to watch someone constantly be out, but I can't imagine being so annoyed by it that I would quit.  I mean, even if the employer allows it to continue, I'd assume they notice when it comes time for bonuses, raises, promotions, etc.   

  • imageLittleMoxie:

    If they let it get out of hand, then the employer suffers by losing a presumably good employee and/or allowing the one constantly sick to abuse the policy. 

    I can see how it can get old to watch someone constantly be out, but I can't imagine being so annoyed by it that I would quit.  I mean, even if the employer allows it to continue, I'd assume they notice when it comes time for bonuses, raises, promotions, etc.   

    See, I think I am usually just sad for the coworker who is so sick they are unable to function and who are accumulating massive medical bills, while having to worry about whether they will lose their job, while trying to beat whatever illness they have that has taken them out of work unexpectedly.  And relieved that I am not in that boat.

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  • imageJaylea:
    image2Vermont:

    Maybe they fear firing the sick employee could result in some sort of backlash or lawsuit.

    Ahhh.  Yes, I think this could be what is going on...

    However, if the employer is not bound by FMLA law to give more than 12 weeks, then why would a lawsuit be a concern?

     

    Or, maybe she's a valued employee - moreso than the whiner - and they are hoping she'll be able to come back on board full time once her illness is over. 

    True.  However, this illness is chronic and isn't going away.  I think the "whiner" questions whether the other employee takes advantage of her ability to take time off. 

    I see both sides ....the "whiner's" and the "valued employee's".

    I do think this is a management issue. Perhaps the employer should have on-call coverage.

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • Yes, i think that an employee who is upset about a coworker's frequent absences due to serious illness ought to indeed quit and instead find a job at a place that doesn't allow anyone time off for serious illness. Surely they would be much happier at a place that fires people for taking too much time off for chemo or dialysis.
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  • image2Vermont:

    True.  However, this illness is chronic and isn't going away.  I think the "whiner" questions whether the other employee takes advantage of her ability to take time off. 

    I see both sides ....the "whiner's" and the "valued employee's".

    I do think this is a management issue. Perhaps the employer should have on-call coverage.

    See, I think FMLA has a self-regulating mechanism to prevent this from happening. It's unpaid time. Granted, there are going to be people for whom this is no concern, but for most of the working population, the very fact that this is medically necessary, unpaid time is a deterrent to abuse. 

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  • I cannot fathom the wanton and self entitled douchbaggery that would lead a person to whine about a fellow employee's, shoot a fellow human being felled by illness and availing themselves of legal time off.

     

    Red Hot ***, that person. 

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  • Please show me the person who wants to take unpaid time off in order to get chemo treatments.
  • imagemissusbee:
    image2Vermont:

    True.  However, this illness is chronic and isn't going away.  I think the "whiner" questions whether the other employee takes advantage of her ability to take time off. 

    I see both sides ....the "whiner's" and the "valued employee's".

    I do think this is a management issue. Perhaps the employer should have on-call coverage.

    See, I think FMLA has a self-regulating mechanism to prevent this from happening. It's unpaid time. Granted, there are going to be people for whom this is no concern, but for most of the working population, the very fact that this is medically necessary, unpaid time is a deterrent to abuse. 

    The thing is is that I'm not so sure that this is unpaid time.  I think I read somewhere in one of these links that if the employer extends (beyond the 12 weeks), employee uses accrued time off (ie. paid time off.)

    And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this Rock I will build my Church, and the gates of Hell shall not prevail against it.
  • image2Vermont:
    imagemissusbee:
    image2Vermont:

    True.  However, this illness is chronic and isn't going away.  I think the "whiner" questions whether the other employee takes advantage of her ability to take time off. 

    I see both sides ....the "whiner's" and the "valued employee's".

    I do think this is a management issue. Perhaps the employer should have on-call coverage.

    See, I think FMLA has a self-regulating mechanism to prevent this from happening. It's unpaid time. Granted, there are going to be people for whom this is no concern, but for most of the working population, the very fact that this is medically necessary, unpaid time is a deterrent to abuse. 

    The thing is is that I'm not so sure that this is unpaid time.  I think I read somewhere in one of these links that if the employer extends (beyond the 12 weeks), employee uses accrued time off (ie. paid time off.)

    How is that an FMLA issue, then? Don't employees have the right to use accrued PTO, with or without the involvement of FMLA? FMLA only ensures that employees can have their jobs back after 12 weeks of unpaid qualified leave. Anything above and beyond that is the employer's discretion. Again, a management issue. 

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  • image2Vermont:

    Maybe they fear firing the sick employee could result in some sort of backlash or lawsuit.

    Ahhh.  Yes, I think this could be what is going on...

    However, if the employer is not bound by FMLA law to give more than 12 weeks, then why would a lawsuit be a concern?

     

    Actually I think it is decent of an employer to be understanding when one of their employees has a serious illness.  Whatever illness she has probably didn't get the memo it should have run its course within 12 weeks.  I honestly would think less of an employer who would fire an employee when they are dealing with an illness and then leave them to deal with not only the illness but the stress of not having a job during what is presumably already a rough time.  At my place of employment we have quite a few people who have taken longer than 12 weeks for medical reasons.  It is part of the reason why I stay.  Even in my own situation I took time for maternity leave and when I got back to work my dad was dying.  I think between emergency "he is on his deathbed trips" and time for the funeral, etc. I took another 2 weeks.  I would have been extremely upset if I had been told, forget your dad's funeral your maternity leave took up all your FMLA. 

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  • image2Vermont:

    The thing is is that I'm not so sure that this is unpaid time.  I think I read somewhere in one of these links that if the employer extends (beyond the 12 weeks), employee uses accrued time off (ie. paid time off.)

    This is entirely up to the employer. At my employer, I had to use my PTO/sick time and FMLA concurrently, meaning that the first 4 weeks of FMLA time were paid with my PTO, and when that ran out the last 8 weeks were unpaid.

    If an employer wants to offer paid time off, that's their right. But legally, they are only required to give 12 weeks of unpaid leave.

    I honestly cannot believe that someone is upset that their employer is going above and beyond for an ill employee. I bet she would feel differently if she were the sick one.

  • image2Vermont:
    imagemissusbee:
    image2Vermont:

    True.  However, this illness is chronic and isn't going away.  I think the "whiner" questions whether the other employee takes advantage of her ability to take time off. 

    I see both sides ....the "whiner's" and the "valued employee's".

    I do think this is a management issue. Perhaps the employer should have on-call coverage.

    See, I think FMLA has a self-regulating mechanism to prevent this from happening. It's unpaid time. Granted, there are going to be people for whom this is no concern, but for most of the working population, the very fact that this is medically necessary, unpaid time is a deterrent to abuse. 

    The thing is is that I'm not so sure that this is unpaid time.  I think I read somewhere in one of these links that if the employer extends (beyond the 12 weeks), employee uses accrued time off (ie. paid time off.)

    In my scenario, when I came back to work I did begin accruing time so I had some hours that I could use to offset the additional unpaid leave.  I am not sure why this matters given she has been coming into work for part of that time. 

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  • image2Vermont:
    imagemsmerymac:
    image2Vermont:
    [Absolutely makes sense, but employers do run the risk that other, well trained employees choose to quit because the FMLA employee gets special treatment.  It's probably a tough call for employers sometimes.

    I don't see how it would be "special treatment" if everyone at the company is eligible for the same type of provisions.

    I know of someone who is looking to quit because the other employee has made things more difficult on her.  The "FMLA" employee continues to get extensions, doesn't work a full week, leaves work early because she doesn't feel well on the regular.

    The person quitting may be eligible for the same provisions, but doesn't use them.  I can most certainly get how this would get old after awhile.  At what point is the sick employee just not capable of doing the job?

    Um, yeah, my company once had an employee who never worked a full week and only worked here for maybe 3-5 months. She would call out or come in late or go home early because she was hung over (she would actually say this) or not feeling well, or really tired from going out at night. She was rear-ended and stayed home for 5 days because she was "really sore." If you call out sick 3 days in a row, you need to bring a doctor's note with you on your return per company policy. She did not see the doctor and therefore, as a matter of company policy, she was terminated. FMLA did not extend to that situation.

    If the other employee has some kind of agreement or notice with the employer that she needs the unpaid time off, she might be covered under FMLA. If she uses more than 12 weeks/year, that's the company's problem to address. Perhaps this woman has chronic fatigue syndrome or another medical issue that makes it hard to work full time. If that's the case, the company could drop her to part time or hire another part time or full time employee to pick up the slack. But your friend really needs to address that. 

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