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CP about hair
Yesterday's post about the list of most beautiful women (or sexiest women, or whatever it was) turning into a hair discussion made me think. Some people mentioned that most women chemically treat or process their hair somehow, regardless of race or ethnicity, and I was wondering if that's true.
For my part, I am damned lazy. I used to get my hair cut and colored every 6 weeks and spent quite a bit of time every morning getting it to do something besides just sit there. I had a cabinet full of products. For special occasions, I would literally spend half a day at a salon. I would sleep in hot curlers and accidentally burned my scalp on more than one occasion. There was a constant battle to get my hair to hold a style, and because it is very limp and fine, I would often lose this battle midway through the day after spending a lot of time getting it to do what I wanted. At some point I went, "f*ck that sh*t!" and got an easy haircut, stopped coloring it, and reduced my morning routine to "comb it and throw in a clip or ribbon." It's not worth the hours it takes to get my hair to hold a wave or curl, plus if I even just blow dry it for a change, everyone is like, "What did you do with your hair? It looks great!" because it doesn't look flat and dead for once.
So, it surprises me that allegedly, most women are chemically treating or processing their hair, even women whose hair already fits mainstream society's expectations and don't have to make it less kinky or less flat to resemble fashion magazine hair. It's just such a pain in the @ss!
Also, thank you to the posters who introduced us uneducated white ladies to the term "kitchen." I have black friends who would sometimes talk about this, and I thought they didn't like the actual room of the house. I thought it was maybe something to do with feminism or something. Um, do I feel silly.
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After an unfortunate dye job when I was about 20, I decided not to color my hair anymore until I go gray. I'm 29 now and love my hair color; it's fairly dark brown, with lots of natural highlights. I've pulled 4 grays since last June. I know I'll start dyeing it in the next few years; I'm just not ready to be gray.
I'm also fortunate in that my hair is quite straight; always has been. No chemical straighteners or curlers for me. I do wash it every day though, or it gets greasy. But my hair routine is so easy: wash, condition, towel dry, blow dry (5 minutes), quick once over with a flat iron (2 minutes), done.
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I wash my hair once a week. After the wash I put in the cream to hold my curls. My daily "styling" consists of adding mostiurizer and puting on a clip or headband to keep it out of my face. I spent a lot more time on my hair when I was chemically straightening it.
I did the "Big Chop" last September. In the black hair world which means I cut off all of my chemically relaxed hair. I LOVE IT!!! Like your post, I just got tired of sitting all muthaeffin' day in the beauty shop. I'd get there at 9-9:30am and then not leave until 3 or 4pm. Adding that to the cost, I just decided to hell with it all.
Another factor is that I have two girls. My oldest daughter HATED getting her hair pressed, and I wasn't happy at the thought of getting her hair relaxed. With the birth of daughter number 2, I decided I had a problem with the thought of shelling out money for the three of us to get our hair done every week.
My routine is all of 10 minutes. I wet my hair in the shower. Apply my products (Shea Moisture Curl & Style Milk, Curl Smoothie, Curl Souffle, and the Aveda Brilliant Humectant), comb and then brush my TWA (teeny weenie afro).
I seriously should have done this a lot sooner.
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I should clarify that when black women say they're wearing their hair natural, this excluded for the most part hair color.
I probably should have picked special snowflake. I do usually wear my hair curly but every other month or so, I'll spend all damned day flat ironing it. Usually, it's just to see how long it's gotten. I also flat iron it before I get it cut. I get a better cut that way since I go to a white lady and not a black hair salon.
I go to a white folks hair salon for the same reasons I go to a white folks church. I don't want to be there all damned day.
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I stopped dying my hair after my wedding b/c I wanted to see what the actual color was after years of coloring. Turns out I like my natural color (save for a few gray patches that I pluck).
I have very thick, curly Italian hair & over the years have thought about various straightening treatments but always chickened out. I straighten it myself when I want to but am pretty much resigned to it being its wild, curly self. On the upside it's really easy for me to do the pretty waves that are now in style. But I remember the 90's when Gwyneth Paltrow's pin straight hair was all the rage & I had serious hair envy.
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This, except I don't even use henna. I also spend about an hour or two each week conditioning.
I am anti chemicals for my hair. I have no plans to color as my my hair goes gray.
Daily wash and blow dry is all I need for my short pixie hairstyle that is trimmed/cut monthly. About as easy as it gets.
LOL, thank you!! with a little bit of luck it will be any day now. the woman who sits in the cube next to mine is starting to get nervous.
I big chopped last Saturday and so far this week I have spent probably a half hour total on my hair. I cannot begin to tell you the joy this brings me. My routine since Saturday has been to get in the shower, wet it, put in my products, hop out, finger style and go. Easy peasy LEMON SQUEEZY!
My hair is colored and will be colored for the rest of my life unless it becomes a health hazard or something, in which case I will switch to wearing wigs.
Before then I went to the salon every Saturday. Now, my stylist wasn't one that kept you in there all day -- I would be in and out in two hours, including sitting under dryer time -- but I paid a LOT for that convenience. My hair was relaxed and colored, but I learned early how to sleep on my hand and in other ways that didn't muss it up after the stylist did it so that I could use as little heat on it as possible.
this is me but i only color mine every couple of months because i am too lazy to be bothered.
i believe i am the definition of "letting myself go". lol.
i get my hair cut and colored...twice a year because i am lazy and cheap. i'm at the point now where i have so much grey that i really need to get it colored more than that, but again, i am really lazy...so i have roots. most people say they look like highlights...yeah right.
my hair is light brown so i can sort of get away with it, but not really.
my daily styling routine consists of combing it and putting in some product to keep the flyaways down. that's it. for a night out - i might be tempted to actually blow it dry and curl it, but probably not.
my mother cut all her hair off in her 30's because she figured she was getting older and needed to do that. she spends a good 45 minutes+ on her hair every day and has for the past 30 years. not worth my time. i'm very glad that the old "mom-do" is no longer something women feel they have to have as they age. i don't intend on cutting my hair off.
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I'm AA with natural hair. I just did a big chop for the umpteenth time. If it proves that this bare spot in my scalp will always be there, I will likely stay short. If the dermatologist says it can grow, I will work towards growing sister locks.
It doesn't take me long to do my hair at all. I either wash or wet and put some leave-in-conditioner in, wet it some more and then put in some type of styling product (lately. Kera care natural textures defining custard). I did buy this product called nudred (essentially a sponge) www.nudred.com that twists your hair into little coils but haven't mastered it yet, but when I do it'll probably take 5-10 minutes.
I always fought with my thick, frizzy hair...even once thought a perm would be a good idea, it wasn't. I was so ridiculously happy when a few years ago I finally figured out how to deal with it (hair is mid-back, moderately curly) I wash with conditioner, throw in a little gel and don't touch it and it is fine for a couple days. However, I did finally get so damn frustrated with hairstylists that I started cutting it myself, that has been an adventure.
The fanciest thing I do with my hair is shampoo it once a week and use a curling iron on the ends for special occasions. I've been cutting it myself for nearly 15 years so it doesn't have any special shape or layers, otherwise I'd skip the curling iron, too. Most days my styling decisions are: to comb or not to comb? And high or low ponytail?
I'm happy with it. It's healthy, shiny, thick and cleans up nicely
I can't imagine spending any more time or money on it... who would care.
I have never dyed my hair but have had highlights once. I don't like the idea of all that maintenance with a dye job since that can get super expensive.
Like the pp, I was obsessed with the 90s craze to straighten my naturally curly hair so I had been straightening for years since then. Last September I decided to go au natural now that I know how to make my curly hair not look so flat and frizzy. I still straight it from time to time but now I'm back to wearing it curly more often now that I finally figured out how to detangle my curls without having to brush my hair and thus ruin the curls.
<a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Home DI don't color my hair, and I never have. It's very dark brown and I like the color. I wash it every other day. I let it air dry, and every now and then I'll actually style it. I'm in a lazy phase of life where I just pull it back when I'm home with the kids.
I've also gotten so cheap that I've started cutting my hair. If I start looking like Kid Rock, I watch a hair cutting youtube video, then chop away in the bathroom.
I wash my hair, throw a towel in it and then either comb it or just use my fingers with some mousse and scrunch. I have a 2 minute policy with regards to styling.
I get it cut about once every 6 - 9 months. I do spend time plucking grays though.
I color/highlight my hair. I have thought about letting it grow out to my natural color, but from what I believe my natural color is, I don't think I'm a big fan.
Thankfully, my stylist just quit to be a SAHM, but she's keeping a select number of clients and doing hair from her house. I made that list, which means it's going to be cheaper. I go about once every 4 months for cut/color/highlights (she's amazing at doing a color/highlight that grows out really well). In the salon I was paying $90 for all of that...now I'm guessing it will be less. I can handle that.
At home, I wash it, blow dry and go. Takes less than 10 minutes. I have never mastered styling products, curling irons or flat irons.
I have thick curly hair. I usually wash it every couple of days, condition it everyday. I use the Herbel Essence Curly hair line for washing, conditioning and styling because Im cheap.
I will go to the beauty parlor to straighten it maybe twice a month, mostly because I like to swim in the mornings and that is a no-go with straight hair.. Its takes about an 1.5 at the 'doobie spot'. Its great.
LOL! Is it really as long as Bernie Mac made it out to be in the church episode of his show? I think that was one of the funnier episodes even though I almost never go to any church at all myself.
Other: regularly (every 10 weeks give or take) I get highlights but don't spend any daily time on fixing it. Im a blonde but naturally my hair has darkened a bit over time to a dishwaterish shade... got worse with pg. A partial brightens it up and looks pretty natural... looks kinda like it did in HS now.
I wash my hair every 3 days or so, towel and air dry. I comb through some argan oil to detangle. Thats it. I usually tie it in a messy bun. I use either hot rollers or flatiron it for occasions. I can't use a curling iron properly though I love that look.