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Knitty · May 2012

I haven't read the thread yet, I hope you've realised that your parents aren't going to do a 180 turn in their parenting just because it's been a while. Leaving your kids with them alone without some serious change is going to mean you're leaving them to be beated the way you were.

LucyHoneychrrch · May 2012

UsedToBeGoldie:
IrishBrideND:

It was not how everyone parented. Spanking was more the norm, yes. But breaking objects over their children was not how EVERYONE parented back then. Yes, I'm younger than 40, but even my parents were not hitobjects. They are far far far from crunchy parents and my grandparents were not either. So let's not excuse it with broad generalizations that everyone did it. So unless this "everyone" thing happened in between generations, the board generalizations are not true. The only people I know IRL who were hit with objects so hard they broke consider it abuse...and maybe half are my age but half are older.

i don't think anyone said EVERYONE parented that way... that would be silly to say. But it WAS very common to use spanking, etc - and was not looked down on by society then the way it is now - that is true, no matter what you want to think. The principal with the paddle expample explains that pretty well - if that was OK and there were no law suits- there you go- people in general thought it was OK.

i think you are taking this very personally to assume that any of us said that EVERY PARENT hit their kids back in the day.

You didn't say EVERY, but you did say "most," and I'm not sure that's even true. I think in terms of social norms, spanking and corporal punishment for children was much more widely accepted. I would venture a guess that more parents then used corporal punishment, but I think it's a stretch and possibly totally inaccurate to say "most."

I don't see anyone taking anything personally.

OP, I sort of like that your mom laid down the groundrules, but if she went over the line into criticizing your parenting to your children, yeah, that sucks. Thank your lucky stars it's only for a few weeks, and if it's that concerning, don't have your parents watch your children from now on. It's probably pretty unlikely they'll change their habits at this point.

Sorry you're dealing with this.

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