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cheating or no?
whats everyone view on porn sites that allow you to upload pics of ur private parts and communicate with others throught messages?
would you consider this cheating if your husband did it?
Re: cheating or no?
I think that when you're seriously considering where the line is between cheating and just grossly inappropriate, then you're already doing marriage all wrong and should call it a day.
Send him back to live with his mother while you keep the house.
oh FFS
Without my permission? At the very least, I would be considering separation with divorce on the horizon.
I would be extremely hurt and I would think the next step would be cheating if my husband did this.
as for everyone elses responses, I thought these boards were used for advice...which I know you're giving, but you dont have to be so damn cruel.
*head tilt*
What, exactly, was cruel here? Is there some confusion over what thread you're in, or what the word "cruel" means?
Bless your heart.
That's cheating.
If we're both in these naked pictures, then I need to call a lawyer because I've murdered his ass.
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating
Your mommy is calling Brittnay. Time to collect your dolls and go on home.
Is this supposed to make it better? because I am pretty sure I would be LIVID if someone put my picture on a porn site without my permission.
And yes, this is cheating.
Yup
Click me, click me!
It's cheating.
You don't need his or anyone else's permission to stand up for yourself and stand up against disrespectful mistreatment, you know.
Omg yes. Even putting a non-nude picture of me on a porn site might even be worse than the cheating in the first place.
If you want to believe that this is not cheating, then that's your...right(?), but I think, at the very least, you should realize that this was the first step towards physical cheating with a real, live person.
As far as the picture of you...is he trying to tell you that he was looking for someone for a threesome? I think that's icky, and couldn't do it. I would not be cool with it if my H was doing that. Sex is very personal to me, and I would feel violated and taken advantage of if my H suggested that.
To me: Self portrait would be second degree felony cheating. If DW did this it would warant many discussions as to WTF is going on with us and WTFlyingF was she thinking. This is assuming there was no physical contact, which is a huge if. Adding my photo to the mix is second degree felony with a big dose of weird. If my face is recognizable, we got a tremendous effing problem. I may contact a copyright attorney.
To many others: Capitol crime punishable by death to marriage and/or spouse
To you: Up to you to decide.
btw, Dealing with this while living in MIL's house would be above and beyond interesting.
It's surprising how many people come along here to whom there is no discernable difference.
Then again, after all these years, maybe it's no longer that surprising.
Yes it is cheating.
A happily married man stays away from porn sites like that. He's got no business doing what he is doing.
Show him the door. YOu need him like a fish needs a bike.
Wait- back up. So you're telling us that he not only put pictures of himself and his personal business on the interwebz but also put a photo of you on this site?
And your biggest question is whether or not this is cheating? Um, yes. Yes it is.
Your next question should be on a local board asking for the name of a very good lawyer so that you can take him to the cleaners.
I wouldn't even bother asking if this is cheating. I'd be out the door so fast his head would spin.
Completely inappropriate and gross.
This. Though first I would be sure I got a screen-shot/printout of the pictures he posted of me for my divorce files.
What a creep.