The Marriage, The Mistress, and The Mania-UPDATE

Re: The Marriage, The Mistress, and The Mania-UPDATE

• ateal2490

  June 2012

  EmilyK1116:

  I am so sorry. I can't imagine how angry you must be.  The fact is, it's his fault, but it's also the other woman's fault.  A previous poster said she gets annoyed when people blame it on the other woman, but it takes two to tango.  She is just as wrong as he is.  I think there is nothing wrong with letting your grandpa know how you feel.  It may not be your business, but you care for your grandma and everyone is entitled to their opinion.  If it can help you feel better to let him know how you feel, I think you should tell him.

  I hope that, even if your gma can't go to the wedding, you will.  I agree that you should make that the most uncomfortable event that bimbo and your grandfather have ever been to.  It might be cathartic for you, and it would certainly get the point across that you are not condoning their actions, and no one wants them around. 

  TBH, it surprises me that more people are going the "MYOB" route.  Not that it's wrong, just that this situation is one of the very few that it seems more appropriate not to mind your own business.  Be proud that you have much more self control than I do. 

  I don't. I thought I did....until she got the terminal diagnosis. I wrote him an email explaining that, if at any point and time in his life, he wanted an opportunity to slightly dull the effects of his selfish actions, this would be the time. He read it but never wrote back. He's also trying to use my grandmother's terminal diagnosis for his own good; threatening to postpone the settlement (which would mean she would probably pass before they met in court) unless she agreed to a hugely reduced financial agreement.

  Its not a MOYB matter, you're absolutely right, and I am so grateful that you acknowledge that. In my eyes, at this moment, there's nothing to lose because she's already leaving us. I won't have many more chances to stand up for her, so I'm damn well planning on doing it while I still can.

  Thank you so much for your response.  

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