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Hate My Job
It's normal for everyone to hate their job right? But I feel like my job puts me in a state of depression.
This is the only job I've had, and I started when I was 16 (I'm 22 now). I've advance within the company and am now an associate manager, and am working at a movie theater.
I don't know if it's because it's the only job I've had, but man am I getting down to forcing myself to work everyday. I can't even enjoy a single day of my job, I dread gong to work and countdown until I can leave. I love the people that I work with, for the most part, and usually don't mind the customers.
I was talking to an employee the other day, we both think it's because it's dark in our theater and our particular one is inside a mall, so no windows!
Do you hate your job? Tell me why!
Re: Hate My Job
Are you looking for other jobs now? I was miserable in my previous job- also my first full time job out of school. In retrospect, I really wish I'd brushed up my resume and started job hunting sooner. I kept thinking that I wouldn't be able to find another job because the job market was so bad, or that the level of unhappiness I had was normal to feel about work, or that I might get a job that was even worse and be sorry I left. I let things get really bad at my job before I started looking seriously.
It did take me several months to find another job, and there were some trade-offs: I make less money, the benefits are still good (but not as good as the last place), and I miss my old co-workers. But this job has more advancement opportunities, a more professional environment, and has a wider range of experience. I'm not skipping and whistling when I go off to work every day, but I smile a lot more, have a ton more energy, and feel like my life is moving forward instead of stuck.
I also noticed this- while I was still at my last job, it made a big difference in my mood when I started looking and applying elsewhere. Like I said, it took me a while to find a new position- but instead of feeling "I'm stuck in this place," I was feeling "I'm stuck in this place... for now."
I left a job of 5.5 years yesterday because I dreaded it but loved the people. At the end of the day I held on as long as I could because I loved my 9-5 family. I decided to leave because my heart just wasn't there, and there was a HUGE laundry list of reasons why I should/wanted to go.
I connected with a CEO of a staffing agency in my city and told her everything that was happening to me and to the people in my company, and I was 100% completely honest with her. She told me some of the BEST advice that I have ever had anyone offer me. She told me that I was clearly depressed and the job was sucking the life out of me, and that from the outside looking in, it appeared that I was in fight or flight response mode. She asked me to honestly answer if she thought I could find my dream job in that mind set/mode. My answer to that was absolutely no. Even I wouldn't hire me...So she recommended that IF it was financially feasible for me to leave (by this point I actually already submitted resignation), that I should take a week or two and just breathe and reflect on my professional life as well as my personal life and see where I wanted to take things. I have a side business that is growing quickly, but making very, very, very little money at this point- so I need a job in the interim. However she suggested that I seriously consider taking small/short temp assignments in other industries just to see what I like, so I don't commit myself to health insurance or another industries and be miserable for another half decade.
I would say that having a job in the same industry and even same company from being an adolescent to being a very young grown adult for as long as you have, and feeling the way that you do, is a sign that it's your time to go. There's nothing wrong with leaving, you've clearly been there a while. It's just not your thing, or your place. If you have the ability to step back and evaluate where you want to be and what you want, take it.
At the end of the day, life is much to short, to spend your days hating what you do and resenting your employer and beating yourself up. Follow your heart and the money will follow. Follow your heart and you will never work a day in your life!!
I have no idea if this even helped or what, but I just wanted to let you know I have empathy for someone in a position such as yours.
I think it is normal to have rough days and to dislike aspects of your job, but I do not believe that it is normal to truly hate your job. Now, in this economy, I think it is more common than not to dislike or feel stuck in a position or at a company. But making a switch, if possible, would probalby be best.
I love my job, although between May and September, every day is crazy, hellish and sometimes I stronlgy dislike aspects of it (it's our peak season). But otherwise, I genuinely love what I do and my values align with my organization's mission. I have always wanted to and currently work in the nonprofit sector. Many people told me that you cannot make a good salary in the sector and that you will be underpaid and overworked. Now, there are situations like that, but I have been fortunate to find a job that has the right balance of a good salary, lots of time off (60+ days a year) and a mission that I love.....I do marketing for a public, charter school, so it is a fairly rare position. But anyway, my point is that I looked for a job I wanted to do first and worried about salary later, and it worked out really well.
Hopefully things work out for your soon!
I don't think it's unusual, but it's not normal, either. I love my job! My previous job was absolutely miserable, so I get hating your job. It did take a while to find a new position, but when it gets that bad it's time to look around.
What makes it so awful for you? There are some univerals (every job will have a jerky coworker or two), so more detail would help. Know what you hate will also help you know what else to pursue. What else is going on in your life? Coping with job misery is exacerbated if there is other misery/drama to deal with.
I think a lot of people do hate their jobs- but I think if you do you need to start doing something about it! It always makes me feel better to have a plan, thinking about what I hate the most about the job and what could make it better.
I hated my company a few years ago but now I love it and look forward to everyday. It is mostly because my responsibilities, manager, and people have since changed- but I was able to find happiness at the same company. I had to ask for it though and make my frustrations known in a positive way to try to initiate change and it took a very long time to happen.
I feel like if you hate it everyday though and dread going to work that you should look for something new