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Re: Check Ins
Wow sensitive. That's straight up ***. Thanks.
And fwiw kernel put it exactly what I was trying to say out there in a full blown way. I was using my family as comparison that you aren't a failure if you change lifestyles people still work hard and don't make tons of money. I mention eating out as an example of things we did but we did do other things that made our lifestyle change but made us happier in the end.
I am down to less than 2 weeks til my scheduled c-section, but really don't think I'm making it til the 24th...so I have bags packed and ready just in case, and in the meantime am working like hell to get this house in order for everything.
We are trying to figure out what my deal is gonna be after this baby in terms of work- do I go back, if so how many hours do I commit to, etc. All of this is complicated by news that my supervisor is being transferred- and the new one begins the day of my c-section. Of course. So now I can't even take the opportunity to try to speak with my supervisor prior to going out about what expectations would be, etc.
Other than that, I had Aisling mostly potty trained and was so proud...but then she just kinda quit on me. BIL scared the crap out of her a week and a half ago and now she's afraid of everything, including the potty. She thinks there's a moose living in it (long story). Thanks, BIL. Real nice of you to do that and erase all my hard work.
HW --- I had to skim some previous posts, but I'm sorry about your situation. Keep your eyes out for a new job...you never know what will happen. I like to think that time=money...since you're putting in so many hours, your hourly rate isn't as high (does that make sense?). I don't know...I know it's so hard.
oodsie -- congrats!
jamie --- good luck with the c-section, and I hope you post some baby pics on here afterwards!
Oliver is 2 and really cute right now. I love this age!
I'm about 24 wks pregnant with baby boy #2. I posted an update the other week, but we found out at the 20 week ultrasound that he has a serious heart defect and will need open heart surgery right after he's born (and probably other surgeries as he grows). Not at all what we expected, but we're dealing with it and will do our best to give this kid the best life possible. Some drs said I could get an amnio to see if there's a chromosomal issue (one that goes along with heart defects) but we decided against it. They can test for it at birth, and I don't want to do an invasive procedure just so I know ahead of time. I wouldn't forgive myself if something went wrong. We'll deal with it, if/when the time comes.
Other than that major stress/worry, we're doing ok.
Oodsie- Congrats and I hope things are going well.
Jamie- Good luck!
Things are good. The fall hits and life gets busier...
Ran my first 50K race with my husband over Labor Day weekend and we are signed up for our next one in October.
We had our first party in the new place over the weekend, it was fun despite the rain. I went overboard on the food prep, which ticks off the husband, but all was tasty. Work will be very busy until the end of 2012.
HW: I would like to echo esyn's sentiments of time=money. When we first married, my husband was in a job that required him to work 60-70 hours per week, no work/life balance, but paid well. However, b/c of the hours, we made the same hourly rate. What forced us to inventory our life was his layoff from the high-paying job. He switched careers and moved into construction management, which was sailing along well until 2008--no shocker, he was laid off. He now works in municipal government. It was a serious paycut from his construction job (however, he was unemployed when he applied), but his commute is walkable, he has great work/life balance. We've been able to do more things b/c we have the time to do them. Good luck!
I get what you are saying now but it's not as cut and dry as getting rid of cable and not eating at the Olive Garden. There's so much more to it than just cutting things out of a budget. I wouldn't be on the verge of a breakdown if that were the case.
Thank you to everyone for your input and letting me vent. I know it's annoying so I appreciate you gals reading and being my free counselor for the day.
We are back to craziness in the Del household, not sure if we ever really left though. T1 started sixth grade and we are starting to think about high school already which is nuts to me. His teacher this year is a hard ass and I like it, he needs the push. He is also playing roller and ice hockey this fall/winter he has given up on baseball since he is like Smalls from The Sandlot, poor kid. T2 has started full time pre school as of yesterday, past two mornings he wasn't feeling it but I am sure he will get over it soon. He is not a morning person at all so that doesn't help the situation. We wanted to sign him up for soccer but he is not interested, he rather build train tracks and rollercoasters and I am okay with that. T3 is my maniac now. ::sigh:: she is a complete nutball and all boy, we call her Icebox from the Little Giants. At hockey practice the other night, she tackled a two year old boy for his hockey stick (meanwhile JD was pushing around her doll stroller). Her newest thing is climbing on the chairs and onto the table, even did the bar stools and countertop yesterday- the boys never did stuff like this, I have no idea how to make her stop! And she can houdini escape the straps of her highchair and carseat too, another thing the boys never tried.
As for me, I am working four days a week now and the balance is a struggle but I like having the time to myself at work, I feel like I appreciate the time with the kids and hubby so much more. Housework and errands take longer to get done but I am learning to accet that it gets done when it gets done. I am also down 13 pounds and 10 away from my goal weight, woot woot! People are starting to notice and it feels so good. this is the first time I have ever done something for me and stuck to it, I am pretty damn proud. DH is also down about 25 lbs so doing it together makes it so much easier and as cheesy as it sounds, is bringing us closer as a couple. I am also running about 2.5-3.5 miles three times a week so that is going well also, I love the time I get to myself to clear my head and just run.
And now for my AW, DH signed us both up for a 5k in Disney in January so we are going for a long weekend WITHOUT the kids as part of my anniversary/30th birthday present, I am so beyond excited. We made reservations at some of the nicer places, are doing the Keys to the kIngdom tour that takes you behind the scenes, and are planning a drunkfest in Epcot with my other family that will be there. We also leave for our first family only, meaning just the five of us, vacay to Disney in ten days! OMG
Jonathan Dean 4.5.08
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^^^^ Whelp, you kind of made my point
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Also, what Kernal said compared to your post is really like apples to oranges honestly. Not everyone wants to cut things, and enjoys what they have, so what, what does that have to do with anyone else's ideologies or beliefs? You're really the straight up *** here.
Oodies- Congrats on the baby! I was thinking about you the other day. Glad to hear you and the baby are healthy!
Jamie- I can't believe you are due in 2 weeks, that's crazy! I forgot what are you having?
Nomorebooze- I'm glad too, that you and the baby are doing well. It was pretty cool that now, in retrospect, you can't believe you never wanted kids! Having your own is truly different than looking at others, it can't be compared to IMO.
I know I'm forgetting someone but I can't believe all the babies on this board now, what a difference from a year or two ago!
HW--I can relate to your professional disenchantment, wonky work/life balance, concern for adding chaos and instability into your life with a new career, and fear that a possible necessary lifestyle change will make you just as unhappy as the current boat youre rowing. Obviously its a very personal and complicated decision so I dont have any advice persay, but I hope you find a way to change something about your situation so its a little better for you and your family. Please dont accept it as it is...make a change.
My update: I am so over being pregnant. This pregnancy has been a lot harder--physically-- than my last one and Im salivating at the chance for a day off of work, even if it includes burning nipples, spit up, and 3 hours of sleep.
DD is helping to prepare me for having a newborn by being supremely difficult to get to bed each night and waking up at night for hours at a time...Im so baffled by this change in behavior and at my wits end trying to manage it. Other than bedtime drama she is amazing and adorable and cracks me up constantly.
I am incredibly grateful that DHs new job came with a considerable pay raise so we now have a house cleaning person again (whats the PC term for that?!) which could not have come at a better time because Im so exhausted all the time and Id really like to spend more time with DD before the baby comes so not having to clean on the regular is so nice.
Kel this is all awesome! Good for you and dh on losing that weight. It must feel so good!
We haven't found out...I am feeling like it's a boy, and all the "old wives tales" signs indicate boy too- low heart rate, carrying all in front and very low, etc. But we shall see! Luckily, we hadn't found out with Aisling either so we have all gender-neutral baby equipment.