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When did you tell your parents?
I haven't told my parents yet that we are TTC. Last night I was at dinner with them and we had a conversation about being TTC. Because of some of the things I said (talking about how things are different now than 30 years ago) they started thinking I was having trouble TTC. My mom flat out asked me today if I was having trouble. We are only on our 3rd month, so I was able to truthfully tell her that I wasn't talking about me, without actually telling her that we are trying.
I just can't decide if I should tell her that I am TTC. We talk almost everyday, but she is also the type of person who likes details. It took them 2 years to get pregnant with me, so I know she would understand and just be want to be there for me, but I don't know if I could deal with that extra pressure right now.
How long did it take you to tell your parents you were TTC?
Re: When did you tell your parents?
TTC #1 since July 2012
Cycles 1-9: BFN
Cycle 10: Surprise BFP on 10/17/2013!
EDD: June 25, 2014
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TTC since Sept. 2011
DX: MFI
IUI#1 8/2012: BFN
IUI#2 9/2012: BFN
IUI#3 10/2012: BFN
IVF#1 (2 embryos transferred) 1/2013: BFN
IVF#2 (2 embryos transferred) 5/2013: BFP!!! EDD 1/24/14
Beta 1 (5/17) - 66.8 Beta 2 (5/21) - 341 Beta 3 (5/27) - 2771
1st u/s 6/7 - measuring right on track at 7 weeks with 144 bpm!
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I was also vocal about the fact that we'd be trying to have children as soon as we got married, so I'm sure they had an idea.
I told my mom when I made my doctor appointment at the 1 year TTC mark. Now, they know more about my husband's sperm than I'm sure they ever thought they would.
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We told them around the 8th month when we really started getting tested.
I never told them or the IL's (we're on cycle #15.) It's a very personal topic for us, and things are difficult enough without other people asking about how it's going or giving unwanted "advice." Also, FIL has 5 kids, 3 of which were oops babies (including DH,) and my mom had me with no issues when she was 25. I doubt any of them would understand or really know how to be supportive.
My answer might be different if I knew that family members went through the same thing. I'm sure your mom suspects and worries that you'll have issues just because she did, and since she did have those issues, she would very likely be a great support system for you either way.
TTC 17 months. Dx: MFI (morph=2,) LPD due to poor quality of ovulation because of mildly blocked fallopian tubes. B2B IUIs with injects were pending, but we had a surprise BFP after HSG!
4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
IVF ICSI #2- (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
ER - 8/7 19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU
After 31 cycles and two losses, we've been blessed with a healthy baby girl!
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Our parents don't know we at TTC. We are only on cycle 4, and although we are charting and using OPKs, I think DH and I just want to keep it private right now. We are keeping our fingers crossed we get to share baby news soon though.
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dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
off bcp 11/11
a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
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Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz
We just started month 9 of TTC and still haven't said a word to our parents. I'll be having a "Where do we go from here?" appointment with my doc in September. DH and I decided that if my doc just wants me on Clomid for a cycle or two, we will still keep our parents in the dark. If we learn things are going to be a bit more difficult, we'll talk with our parents and siblings.
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This is true of us too. I had kind of talked around it, but never told anyone stright out that we were ttc. After my sister got dx with PCOS and I found out I had it I told my family. A month later, when DH's s/a came back terrible and we were told IVF was our only option, I shared because I needed support. I'm glad I did. Everyone knows we're in a holding pattern and they don't bug us about it. When we start treatments, I know they'll all be there for us. Well, minus DH's *** sister, but that's another story...
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermWe were not vocal with either set of parents until we reached the 18 month mark. After that, I was very vocal with my parents about our testings, diagnosis, and future steps. I left it up to DH if he wanted to tell his parents and he decided not to say anything to them. He did say something to his sister, which ended up getting back to his parents during a conversation SIL and I had after we found out I was pregnant.
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We have no plans to tell them unless we are lucky enough to get a BFP. If that day doesn't come and we need to get more stuff done (not just medications) then we'd probably tell them.
My family never asks about it but DH's does and we just say "We'll have a baby when/if we are supposed to. Right now we're having fun being young and married." and they usually drop it.
My family knew pretty early (I'm sure I told my little sister the day DH decided he wanted to try - we tentatively set a February start date and then DH told me in december he'd like to start then....I was all about it). They knew because 1) I'm really close with them and 2) I can't keep a secret for shiit!
DH's parents didn't know until we got pregnant with Addie. They knew about our m/c in January and then DH JUST told them about this baby after our NT scan. After our losses, I'm sure they knew we were TTC, but we certainly didn't talk about it like we (I) do with my family.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
We are not that close with either side of the family. We're not estranged or anything, it's just that we don't share intimate things like that with them. Regardless, one side of the family has been "harassing" us for 5 years about having children despite our kind and then not-so-kind pleas to mind their own business.
We know when we'd like to start trying. We won't tell them. We won't even be telling them we're pregnant until we're at least 3 months along, if not more.
My husband and I are TTC, even though we've only been married since july. Well, my mother says she'd like to see us wait a year so we can enjoy being newlyweds. I can kind of see where she's coming from, but at the same time we know we're ready anytime.. and it will take some time.. so why not start trying now? We are close and If I tell her we're TTC, knowing her, she may just shake her head and brush it off and be happy about it. The ONLY reason I haven't told her is because it's really none of her, or anyone else's business what my husband and I decide to do unless we decide to let someone in on it. So, I do sort of know what you're going through, as do many others. Good luck to you, Girl.