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Re: Dealing with Porn Addictions
This is all well and good OP. But please, make sure you are doing this for the right reasons. Last time you posted about this you said you had sex with him a few times a day just to try and satisfy him... that you felt dirty and used. Please do not make the same mistake as last time.
Assuming this is the not the case though... sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. You need to explore your sexuality. I get the feeling that for you, there is a lot of shame involving sex? Know that there is nothing wrong with pornography, masturbation, having an orgasm, feeling good, etc. So LOSE YOUR INHIBITIONS! If you are toying with the idea of watching porn with your husband, start with soft-core (no penetration, no "money shot"). If you like it and are comfortable with it, then work your way up to "couples" porn. If you and your husband have a satisfying sex life, and you are less rigid when it comes to sex, he very well might tone down (if not completely eliminate) the frequency of watching porn without you.
Despite this OP - I still implore you to seek the help of a therapist. Sexual exploration and a higher level of satisfaction in this department will not erase all the other bad stuff (immaturity, poor communication, jealousy, distrust, empty promises, depression... there's a laundry list of issues here). Don't be discouraged though, ok? You have an obligation to yourself as well as to your marriage to work on this. Imagine a relationship with your husband that is mature, healthy, evolved, flourishing - where you guys are able to communicate without hesitation. Sounds nice, doesn't it? Research it - TODAY!! I'm telling you OP, if you guys don't get yourselves into therapy, dollars to donuts, we will be hearing from you again in the very near future! (Not being mean, just being realistic). Good luck.
Am I the only one thinking MUD? Or is it normal to go from depressed religious anti-porn to "....i just orderd some intersting toys hoping to spice it up haha ha..." and "it suck lol i need more sex lol evendently..." in the span of 30 seconds?
Also, I know I'm being an ass in pointing it out, but OP - the way you write does matter in how people respond to you. You don't need to have perfect grammar or spelling but if you type like a dyslexic bear banging on a keyboard it's kind of hard to take you all that seriously.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
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Exactly what I was thinking! Really?! Seems very strange and a flip of the switch attitude change. Above all else, please seek some help, there is a lot going on here!
OP, as I said in my previous post, you need counseling. Depending on your husband to say things to lift you from your depression is unhealthy.
NO ONE ELSE CAN FIX YOU. I mean that -- no one. The people around you can provide a supportive environment for your healing, but they can not fix you. YOU have to do the hard work -- talking to a professional, taking medication if necessary, making lifestyle changes -- to change your mental state.
Get help. Drive over to the next town if you are worried about using a counselor in your own area.
Your "suicidal" because your husband watches porn?
You should probably seek counseling FAST!