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When Did You Start Feeling "Married"?
My husband and I have not been married very long, but people keep asking us "does it feel any different now that you are married"? We moved out of the country together before we got engaged and have had a joint checking account for a while. We have cats and had lived together for two years previously..
I think when I imagined our wedding in my head, there was supposed to be some sort of life altering change after we exchanged rings. However, right after our ceremony both of us agreed that there wasn't any change and that we are still just us.
We keep using "husband" and "wife" when addressing each other at home to be cute, but there still doesn't seem to be any difference in our relationship. A co-worker of his said that is a good thing since we are already so close.
When did you and your spouse start feeling married instead of together? Was it after a certain amount of time? After a certain life event?
Re: When Did You Start Feeling "Married"?
To me it feels like BEFORE we were engaged since I was so stressed during our short engagement with planning the wedding! Glad to hear we aren't just an odd pair!
Congrats!
We've always said we didn't expect anything to change when we got married - we were living together like PPs. So I'm not confused or disappointed that I don't feel any more "married" than before. I think if anything, it's a good sign - if a couple gets married hoping something fundamental will change they are likely to be disappointed, and if they make changes when they get married, will they really last?
On the other hand, I'm still waiting for the "I can't believe we got married" and "I can't believe it's already been x amount of time" thoughts to go away. Maybe I'll have to wait until a new title overshadows "wife/Mrs." in my mind - mom? Dr.? I'm sure one of those will do it, if time doesn't get to me first.
Side note: I think just now was the first time it has really hit me that I'm Mrs. LastName. I have just been calling myself FirstName LastName since the wedding. Mrs? EEK!
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. SeussThis is what gets to me too! I'm a Mrs!!
My husband and I did not live together before we got married, so it hit me that I was married when I moved into the apartment with him.**6.30.12** I have found the one whom my soul loves.
Yep. This. When it occurred to me I'd need to hire a lawyer if I wanted to throw him out
But for real, not until 6 years into marriage and 10 years into the relationship when we had a baby. Now I really feel married.
Same here
People treated us like we were married long before we actually got married, so I guess I actually felt like I was married before the wedding!
I think it's good that the wedding didn't change us - we already functioned well together and we're just continuing to do the same.
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Hubby and I were living together for 5 yrs and we've been married for 8 months, so nothing really feels different except for being called Mrs.____ and calling him my husband. I kinda do feel "married" since we are working on creating a will, merging accounts, and filing for taxes together this year, but it's really not a bad thing...just hard to adjust in that way...
DH and I did not live together before we got married but we never did start feeling "married." I think that feeling does not exist. We have been married 1 year and 4 months and I don't think I felt "married" yet.
There has been times where I feel like we bicker like an old married couple. lol.
H and I did not live together before we got married, so when we moved into our house, that was a big change.
I don't think I really felt "married" until I changed my name, which was about a month after the wedding.
Ditto to this!
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Just like most of the PPs, DH and I lived together, shared bills, bought a house and have pets together. Our relationship hasn't really changed. We are both 25 but I feel like people take us both more seriously now that we are married. Then there is the whole name change weirdness.
Before our wedding one of my bridesmaids said "From now on everyone you meet will know you as FirstName NewLastName instead of FirstName MaidenName! " I had always known I was getting rid of my maiden name. It was one of those last names you grow up excited that one day you will get married and get rid of it. (I had quite a few people growing up who would get embarrassed or avoid saying it at all.) I guess it was just the way she said it but it really hit home. As much my maiden name had been a problem, the struggles I went through because of it are a big part of me.
I recently started a new job. Everyone there knows me by my married name. I still have to think when I introduce myself, sign anything or respond when someone calls my name. I have this new identity that was created by our marriage. I guess that means I can say I've started to "feel married".
We have been married for over a year but since his work as a consultant keeps him away 90% of the time and he hasn't actually moved in I don't feel married.
I also am keeping my maiden name at work and haven't bothered to legally change it yet. But well I am partial to it.....So probably when the consulting gig is up and we live together.
There certainly have been moments but mostly it's been the signing mr and mrs on the 4 wedding guest books since.