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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Stop being an idiot and DTMF. Seriously?!? You are setting yourself up for misery.
And I'll also say this again - he's actually given you some reasons TO be jealous. So, really, this isn't all YOUR fault. But that seems to be his trend - everything is the exes fault, and now everything is your fault.
Because he sees women as objects - there to serve him. Not the other way around.~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
And that's exactly how he wants you to feel. He chose you not because he thinks you're an amazing person and the world is a better place because of your existence, but because there are very few women who would tolerate being treated the way he treats you. Doesn't that bother you?
*nodding emphatically*
Guess I have some thinking to do ladies..I greatly appreciate all the advice.
I don't have family to talk to about this. Thanks again. Will update you soon.
Good luck! And if you should feel scared or sad or hesitant, just remember that this guy is single:
I am to that point now. I have slowly started doing my own thing. Not boyfriend wise, but I have started talking to who ever when ever. I am now on the board at our athletic park. He isn't happy about that but oh well. He wonders why we don't have sex more often, well it's kind of hard when all I think about is what he was saying to the other women.
At times I feel like when he says he isn't good enough, I feel like that's a cop out to divert the attention to something else.
never thought about that! :-)
I do think this is inappropriate. If she is just truly a friend, then he would include you in his dinner plans.
You do not have trust issues. I hate it when women say they have to work on their jealousy when their husband/boyfriends sext, call other women, go alone to dinner with another woman, ect... If a guy does these things, he is a problem, not you. However, if you feel he's a great guy and that you just need to work on this part of the relationship, why don't you create guide lines for appropriate behavior that you will both agree to follow? For example, sit down with him and say let's promise to never to...
1. be alone a dinner with the opposite sex. I should come or groups of 3 if I'm not there.
2. sext another person (although this should have already been known before)
3. Ect.. think of other things that make you uncomfortable that you both agree to follow.
That said, I'd keep my eye on this one. He sounds a little sketchy. I'd start thinking about moving on if I were you - just a suggestion.
I can't name the lats time any thread here had 70+ replies.
And a wowza it is...
I can't see how you'd even talk to a guy who is still involved with another woman.
Heh.
He's buying a car but he can't do it all in cash in one lump payment. What a cheapskate.
Oh hun. I know I hadn't said anything before now, but I can't not any longer.
Mommy and Daddy. That is what this situation feels like. To him, you're his dream mommy; doing everything he needs/wants without question, and a happiness and readiness to do so. To you, he's almost (sounding) like a father figure; telling you what he's doing and treating you like a child. I'm not saying that he's your daddy in your mind, but maybe he's acting like that in his?
3 billion. Just sayin.
No, you finally have your life back. If this isn't MUD you will be very grateful that this relationship did not make it to marriage or children. For the record you don't have jealousy issues, your ex-boyfriend violated your trust and b/c of that should have been 100% transparent for as long as it took to rebuild that trust. Look into counseling to figure out why you accepted this treatment for so long and how to prevent another relationship like this one.
Baby Boy loved for 15 weeks, 5/31/11
Baby Girl loved for 16.5 weeks. 3/1/12
No it isn't! It's just starting! There are now 2,999,999,999 other men who may be great options for you.
Yessssssssss. You are just starting!
Lol at piss up a rope! Truly going to use this the next time it's fitting.
OP, I am going to tell you something that I tell my single friends, my little sisters and people on this board. When it comes to picking out a person to marry, have children with, build a life with, have a future with, you must choose a person with character. A man who is loving, kind, patient, supportive, encouraging, trustworthy, hardworking and loyal. The person you choose to marry is the most important decsion you will ever make because that person can either bring you years of love and happiness or years of misery. In your two posts, your fiance is not a man of character. Not at all.
You have no idea what life has in store for you. You could lose jobs, homes, parents or like me lose a child. You might face serious injury, chronic disease, infertility, or a child with serious development delays. If your fiance couldn't be there for you and support you when it comes to seeing girlfriends or telling his parents no, do you really think he would be there when life gets really difficult? Do you think he would have stuck around if you got cancer or MS or if you have a child that might not ever speak or use the toilet ?
During my marriage we faced two job losses, a chronic disease and the worst, having to bury our first child. Throughout all of it, my husband was a source of love, support, encouragment and strength. He was there for me even when I thought I was losing my mind to grief. He is a blessing to my life and I thank God that I had to good sense to marry him. No, I didn't get lucky, I simply chose wisely. We went on to have two more children and he is such a wonderful father. He paints DD's fingernails, he has a special song for DS when he puts him to bed, he pretends to be Captain Hook when they play Peter Pan, he ran around Disneyworld like a fool because he was so excited to be there with his family. He changes diapers, he cooks, he cleans, he stays up with the kids when they are sick, and the other day he came home early because he knew I was really sick and having a hard time watching the kids. You too can have a husband like this, you just need to choose wisely. If you are smart about who you date and marry in the future, you too can have a man like my husband and you will look back on this day and Thank God that you are no longer with your fiance.
He seriously threw you out for bringing something up with him to talk about? Girlfriend, you are way better off without that in your life.
I'm so sorry you're hurting, but you'll get through it. Your life isn't over. Rather, the chapter has closed and a new one is going to be written. GL and Take care!
He has been very good to me. He has supported me through many things, and has made me his life. How can I move on from someone who would die for me?
I have a terrible job, NO friends, NO family. I had someone who wanted to marry me, and I lost it. :-(
No he hasn't. He puts his family above you and messes around with other girls. He's temperamental. He's not a good guy.
He's lied to you about his interactions with other women. Why do you assume he would die for you?
You're so focused on the fact that he wanted to marry you that you're not thinking about whether you should want to marry him.
Why don't you have any friends or family to turn to?
Ok, now I'm calling MUD. After reading all your other posts and responses, I find it interesting that he suddenly 'broke up with you' in the middle of this drama filled post. First, you end an engagement (and two months from the wedding no less) not 'break up.' Second, you have been going back and forth between FI and DH in different posts. Third, you have contradicted yourself too many times. In one post your parents are paying for you wedding, in another you are, in another you say you have no friends or family. Ok, whatever.
Thanks for the fun while it lasted.