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Re: Please help: Being sued
I have worked for the IRS and for the courts. Your gong to jail just accept this and start working on a plan with DH while you will be gone. Where was your grandma when you thought it was ok to not respond to the courts. She should have slapped some brains into you. This is stuff you learn in High school. Great you told the other side what they needed to hear to move forward with an arrest. I mean come on why would you tell them there is no way they will see a dime? DUMB! Your DH needs to wise up, it is joint debt. Best thing for him is to divorce you ASAP. Honestly stop posting everywhere if you have made up your mind about staying a helpless, weak, brainless women. Your a joke to women who have worked hard to show you don't need a man to carry you. I can tell you if I pulled this crap, ( Though I am no an idiot.) my DH would straight up Divorce me and join the other side in hopes of not getting screwed himself.
Do you even care about your child? Your DH? Do you even feel bad that you are causing so much pain and struggle for a MAN you once cared for? Just cause he is an EX doesn't mean he is a bad person. The only evil one is you. The one thing I can compliment you on is you make for some great entertainment.
So while I agree 100% with the get a job advice, I do also question whether you can go to jail for defaulting on a financial obligation as part of a divorce settlement.
i know you can go to jail in some states for failure to pay child support, but we don't have debtor prisons anymore. If its truly a civil judgment for money, then I don't see how you go to jail.
Also, did you have an attorney in this suit? Because if so it's totally unethical for your ex's attorney to contact you directly. (I'm a general civil attorney in New York)
If this is a civil judgment for money, your car can get repossessed, you can have lien put on your property, your wages will be garnished, until the entire judgment is paid, plus interest. At least in New York.
I did not/do not have a lawyer, I am (now) representing myself. And while I KNOW I can't got to prison for not paying, the reason they are seeking a bench warrant for my arrest is my failure to comply with two (2) court orders. I have had a few friends be taken to jail for not paying traffic tickets and not appearing in court, so I know it can happen...I'm just astounded they would do so even when I am a SAHM to my son!
Bottom line: I was ordered to appear, I didn't, the judgement was in favor of my ex. It went back to court after I didn't pay again, the judgement was in favor of my ex. I wrote a letter to the court that they did not consider because I didn't prepare a proper response and was late with it.
Luckily, my Facebook and Instagram are private and they can't see the places I've been and what my lifestyle it like because I'm afraid they will try to go after my husband or something...my money comes from him, I have accounts that are in my name with ONLY my name on them, and his accounts do NOT have my name on them.
Again, I don't plan on working, so they can't garnish my wages. I'm not all that scared after talking to my grandmother (who is in her 80s and been through alot). You can't get water from a rock and if I don't work, they can't get money. So I don't see how I'm supposed to pay when there is NO money to pay with. If I ever do purchase anything, it will be in my husband's name. Problem solved.
wow, based on this post alone, you are a real piece of shiiit.
Just a question, according to the linked post about you and PPD, you say something about going back to work. So... ???
All your ex hub has to to do is name your new husband on the lawsuit and go after you both for the amount owed PLUS damages. That's what I would do if I were him...
on a side note. You're Facebook being private is just stoopid. How do you think police and FBI track people?!?! Remember you chose to give out that info!!
This. I was sued for money in the past. For a huge medical bill that my insurance didn't cover when I was 19. I got the summons six years later, literally the day before I moved out of state. I didn't go because they were going to get their judgement either way and I was sick, unemployed, and couldn't pay anything.Years went by without so much as a letter or phone call.
The thing is, it will come back and bite you in the butt some day unless you never plan to work again in your life. In my case the moment I started getting a living wage again they drained my bank account leaving me unable to pay rent or other bills. My name had changed, I was living in another state. They still found me. I got zero notice that it was going to happen.
They did it on a Friday at the end of the day so I couldn't even talk to a lawyer until Monday, or pay for anything as I had no credit cards. She said they could basically tap my accounts forever until it was paid off. I was able to file for bankruptcy (I had another 12K in medical debt besides the judgement) and get that money back some six months later. But it was a horrible scary mess, and you're not even going to have that option. If there had been any way for me to pay off my bills to prevent this from happening I sure as hell would have. I don't think you can go to jail for this either, but you are putting your future in serious jeopardy.
I kind of agree that the OP's ex is being a ***. He's obviously not suffering or destitute if he can afford to keep filing suits against her. I wouldn't do that to my ex, and I hate his guts. I have no desire to ruin him financially, and I went through some pretty hard times after we split up, so it's not like the money wouldn't have helped. I think OP is being pretty immature about this too though. They both need to grow up and move on.