August 2006 Weddings
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Re: "That's not sexist, that's traditional..."
Emily Post has been modernized over the years. I had a decade-old version of her Wedding Guide, and I compared it to a friend's version. There are many things that people deem acceptable now that were not, even ten years ago. Ex. "Mrs. Jane Doe", Post notes, is acceptable nowadays... meaning it wasn't years ago. Meaning there will be more than one answer, depending on whom you ask.
My "source", as you call it, is my "perfectly schooled in all manner of social graces and etiquette" grandmother who grew up in Philadephia Society, was the wife of a prominent minister, and hosted large formal social gatherings regularly. Sorry it's not a link I can send you to, but I trust her more than any book you can find on amazon or source you can find on the web.
I didn't demand you quote a source; why are you so insistent to prove me wrong? It's really not that big a deal to agree to disagree. Just let it go.
I totally agree with you, gtown. If I were sending you a formal shower invitation, and I knew you preferred not to be addressed that way, I certainly wouldn't send your invitation in that manner.
I didn't change my name either, and I get stuff addressed to me incorrectly all the time. It's actually amusing. Some people write all three names; some hyphenate, some just write <soprano> <hislast>. It's just bizarre, esp given I send out Christmas cards with address labels clearly showing I didn't change my name -- nor has my email changed.
I don't get angry, unless it's people whom I've explicitly told I haven't changed it, and they insist on doing it anyway. Thankfully my in-laws are not that way -- it's one of their few bright spots ;-)
I'm not trying to prove you wrong. I honestly just curious. I just got upset when you dismissed me.
I am an etiquette geek. Hence why I was curious when you said that your version was proper etiquette. I was interested in what version you followed, since the technical etiquette I've always seen did not say that. I am constantly trying to find more info on etiquette.
The only reason I questioned you so hard was because you made it sound like your view was the one accepted by etiquette "gurus" and the undebatable correct version
Where on earth did I dismiss you?
You're reading a lot into my posts, Irish. I have read a lot of etiquette as well. There are rules, but they are, of course, subject to interpretation. And it seems you and I are from different schools, which is fine.
It sounds like you're very proud of what you've studied and learned and deem to be correct. I'm the same way. A lot of geekiness went into ensuring our formal wedding invitations were unimpeachable as far as etiquette goes. It could have been the Washington "green book" where we saw that, or it could have been what my grandmother taught my mother that was passed down, or it could have been the Emily Post book. I don't recall.
So let's just recognize that this is not a math equation and there can be more than one correct/acceptable answer... and move along.