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Preschoolers and Friends/Possibly Flameful
DD's friend from school lives across the street from us and is being raised by her single dad. They typically stop over when we're outside playing and the girls will play together, and we'll talk.
He's a nice guy and all, but when DD asked about going over there to play it makes me nervous to say yes so I always have an excuse. I'm not sure if it's because she's never gone to play at a friend's house without me or if it's because there isn't a mom in the picture. Which I guess is potentially flameful that I may be sexist with regards to this topic.
Do you let your 4 year old go to friend's/neighbor's houses alone? If not, what age would you think it's acceptable? Does mom or dad make a difference to you?
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Re: Preschoolers and Friends/Possibly Flameful
Heather has a friend from daycare who lives in our neighborhood. She and Nick get along great and we really like his parents. We've hung out on the playground, at parties and at daycare events. The first few times that we did play dates, a parent would stick around to help watch the kids. After a few times it became clear that the kids played great together with limited supervision and it was silly for a patent to stay (unless we wanted to hang out). I think the kids were four when we did the first drop-off play date.
Sometimes only mom is home and sometimes only dad is home. I have no concerns about Heather's safety.
Unless a man gave me a bad feeling in my gut, there is no reason to assume the worst or to not let your kid be around him. Most people in the world are good and don't want to harm kids. There is no reason to assume the worst.
My kids play at my neighbors house without me some times. Usually the mom is there, but honestly, we're close friends with the parents so I would let them go over if just the dad was home.
I see where you are coming from. How well do you know that dad? I think my decisions are based on how well I know the parents. If I am really close friends with the parents I would send my kids over. If I don't really have a relationship with the parents I wouldn't let my kids go without me.
Adam would play next door before our neighbors moved all the time since he was like 2...Funny thing was we saw it more as a Babysitting situation. She would watch him if DH had to go and I was running late, or one week he had a big job that required him to work while I was working and we actually paid her to watch him. The kids did get along really well and loved to play together.
he has also gone to our other neighbors and their son has come here ( he is a year younger) more so for needing a sitter as well.
Once Preschool started he did pair up with a boy whose Father also happens to be home with him in the morning. Dh has gone with him on several playdates, one day he told me he left him there to run an errand. I felt kinda funny about that. Apparently the Father told Dh that if he had anything he needed to do he could go ahead they kids could play. so he took him up on it...
I guess everything was fine, but it still doesnt' sit right with me for some reason...since I did not spend a ton of time with anyone or anything pertaining to preschool, I don't know if it is because I don't know them as well- or because it is the dad??? Hard to say
I do however Know a ton of people and friends personally, that I wouldn't hesitate to leave him with either parent.
Married, September 23, 2006
Joseph Henry was born at home on March 9, 2009
Nora Mae was born at home on October 30, 2011