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While I absolutely do believe people can change, I don't feel all people are capable of change. You've been together since high school. He's 35. I doubt he's going to change. (View Post)

Two points: 1- you went to the visitation. That's really enough for someone who is so removed from you. Really, it is. Regardless of everything else, that's enough. 2- be careful about maki… (View Post)

I'd move to ignore and even change the topic. Every.single.time. Don't engage her - at ALL - on this issue. And if pushed on "why are you ignoring me?", I'd just say "No… (View Post)

So, what bothers me are these two sentences: We have what I would consider a semi-happy marriage (not amazing, but not bad enough to leave) The reason I am here now is because I am contemplating divo… (View Post)

Sigh. I understand you don't want to drop her as a friend "because" of her issues, but at the same time, you can't fix her. You can't make her get help. She needs to want to … (View Post)