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Saw a therapist today

...And I loved her. I am actually handling this 3T thing pretty well; she gave me a lot of advice that I've already been trying to follow. We're going to work on my anxiety in social situations (I live in fear of the "We're pregnant!" announcements), and we're going to work through some of the issues I have with ILs and their lack of support, especially since SIL is pregnant.

One of the things I found most helpful is that I'm not being a biitch when I tell people, "We're going through a really rough time, and I'd appreciate it if we didn't talk about pregnancy right now." She told me that I can't worry about everyone else's feelings, and really, I'm saving them from saying hurtful things, especially because they don't mean to hurt my feelings.

Highlights from our conversation:
-Any IF diagnosis is devastating and life-altering. Don't diminish your feelings, even if you're in the beginning stages of treatment.
-You go through grief every month.
-Consider advocating for IVF soon. It's something I've been thinking about, as this is my 4th round of Clomid. She suggested that I start thinking about what to do if this cycle fails, even though it would only be our 2nd IUI. 3T is mentally and emotionally exhausting, and IVF has better success rates with unexplained.


TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
3T<3

Re: Saw a therapist today

  • I'm glad it was successful for you!
  • I'm glad your appointment went well, poppies!
  • I'm glad that you had such a good appointment and I hope that this helps you moving forward. ((Poppies))

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  • I'm happy to hear that your appointment helped you get through some emotional items that have been bothering you.  Sounds like it was very successful.

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • Sounds like you had a great appointment! So happy you found it helpful.
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • I am so glad you found the appointment helpful!
    Congrats to my TTC buddy Madeline! Cheering for all the strong 3T ladies! 

    TTC since March 2012; DX: PCOS 4/2013 
    BFP 7/6/2013; EDD 3/6/2014 
    Diagnosed with Pre-E: 2/15/201
    Emergency induction: 2/16/2014
    Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz



  • I'm so glad that it was helpful to you! Sounds like you have a great therapist who is very understanding!

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    TTC #1 since July 2012

    Cycles 1-9: BFN
    Cycle 10: Surprise BFP on 10/17/2013!
    EDD: June 25, 2014
    Baby Girl born via induction June 26, 2014

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  • I'm glad that everything went well!
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    TTC #1 since 9/12
  • Sounds like she is a really great therapist.  I am so happy you found her!
    Diagnosed with Severe DOR at 31 years old (AMH .14 FSH 9.8) 
    D & L are here at 34 weeks 4 days by vaginal and breech delivery on 11/19/2013

  • Sooooo happy for a great therapist and successful first appt! It sounds like you both covered a lot of really good stuff.
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    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • That sounds like a great appointment!





    dx:  Unexplained IF (mild MFI)

     TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN

    IVF #1 (May 2013):  Antagonist Protocol: 
    24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
    IVF #2 (August 2013):  Lupron Stop Protocol: 
    28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
    EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
    FET #1 (April 2014):  transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP

    C.J. born 01/09/15

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  • Yay! I'm excited you found someone you can really open up to and who actually knows what shes talking about. That's excellent.

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           Me: All Normal DH: .5% Morph
    Cycles 1-14 (Natural) all BFN
                                  Starting IUI#1 procedures Nov '13
                          IUI Cxl'd due to surprise natural BFP 11/1/13
            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • So glad you found it helpful and you had a good experience!
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  • Thanks, everyone! I've been feeling lately like I'm not strong enough to deal with this because I cry, a lot. Like, a lot. And I feel that whenever I change the subject or decline a baby shower invitation or tell someone I don't want to talk about pregnancy, I'm being a huge biitch. 

    But my therapist told me it's totally normal, and I have to protect myself. Maybe I am strong enough to see this through to the end after all...
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • I'm so glad you had a great appointment and went away feeling validated. You deserve it.

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    "You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss

    TTC #1 August 2014. BFP 9/26! EDD 6/9/15
    Baby A born 6/17/2015
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