Any Christian Wives (All denominations!)?

xoMissJasminexo

Hello everyone! I am a newlywed newbie here. My DH and I have been together for 7 years and just got married at the beginning of this month! I wouldn't consider myself to be a super religious "bible thumper" type of person. I was not raised in a Christian household. However, I started exploring and learning more about faith as an adult when my DH came into my life. Our relationship (and now marriage) has been built on a very strong Christian foundation. I understand that not everyone here may be into that stuff but I would love to connect with other open-minded (and especially other Christian) wives! I'm definitely not here to try to push my views on anyone, but would love to connect with similar people and gain some good wisdom that I feel would come from speaking to other Christian wives who have been in the boat much longer than me! Either way, I look forward to getting to know you all and and be a part of the community here

lisa2008boo

My husband and I have been married 3 years we are strong Christians who are very active in our local church. We very much agree on the principals of Christian marriage, and raising of children. If you have any questions at all or need some great resources feel free to message me. =]

arhayden1

I could echo your entire post. I have just been married over 4 years and while I grew up in a Christian home was not active and serious about it until 5 years ago when I found a church that changed my life. I met my husband there and the rest is history. I do find that it is difficult to find advie from Christian wives outside of my own circle of friends a few on here but I really wish there were enough on here fore a Christian wives board.

Onceinalovetime

Right here How are you all?

hadelaney

Yep! Same here! Hi everybody!

MommyLiberty5013

Hello! Welcome! DH and I have been married for 7 years and have 3 kids under 3 1/2. We are in our early/mid 30's.

 

GilliC

I'm just curious what kind of issues are specific to Christian wives, especially in a non-denominational sense?

Aside from blending our church preferences and devotional habits, I can't think of any specific of our marriage that were specific to our general Christian belief system.

aimindahouse

Hey there:) Me love Jesus too!

Kimbus22

Hello.  I'm not a Christian but I have a degree in religion and find this stuff fascinating.

Mother of 1, soon to be 2, married 8 years, with DH for 12 by the way.

Chocoholic21

My husband and I are both Christian (though of different denominations). We have been trying to make our beliefs a better part of our marriage and "reinvigorate" our beliefs, if that makes any sense, and apply those to our relationship. 

Any friendly exchanges, advice, or conversations would be greatly appreciated.

CowgirlK39

Here!!! Glad to see others on here. We do not have a set denomination but I consider myself a traditional wife with a desire to build stronger Christian roots

arhayden1

I don't so much think the issues are different as opposed to how they are handled. 

Sillygirl45

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

TattieSoup

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

Conflict resolution might be different in Christian marriage since the Bible sets out specific  roles for men and women in marriage, eg the husband being the head of the household. And there could be practical issues related to religion like morality of using contraception or paying church dues when money is tight.

Even where some issues are the same you might want a Christian viewpoint, for example if you don't want your child being taught about evolution in school - anyone can disagree with their child's curriculum but in that case someone might feel another Christian would better understand why it is so important to them.

Have any Christian wives on here watched the Marriage Retreat?
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1684558/

kc727

Hi everyone! My husband and I have been married for 3 months...still newlyweds! We are both active in our church as well. Nice to meet everyone!

MommyLiberty5013

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

Good, fair question.

Well, the Bible gives guidelines for marriage, child raising, giving, conflict resolution, working and basically everything, so if a person wants to live, or try to live as best s/he can, an entirely Christian life, s/he would follow Scripture over popular culture or ideas for how to live.

lisa2008boo

MommyLiberty5013 said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

Good, fair question.

Well, the Bible gives guidelines for marriage, child raising, giving, conflict resolution, working and basically everything, so if a person wants to live, or try to live as best s/he can, an entirely Christian life, s/he would follow Scripture over popular culture or ideas for how to live.

Totally agree with these comments we do things differently than the mainstream. We usually take heat for it. But this is another reason why marrying in the same religion is also very important you don't want to butt heads on everything especially not the big things like how to raise you children solve problems ect. Religion and seeing eye to eye on it and practice it is very important for marriage.

Sillygirl45

MommyLiberty5013 said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

Good, fair question.

Well, the Bible gives guidelines for marriage, child raising, giving, conflict resolution, working and basically everything, so if a person wants to live, or try to live as best s/he can, an entirely Christian life, s/he would follow Scripture over popular culture or ideas for how to live.

Totally agree with these comments we do things differently than the mainstream. We usually take heat for it. But this is another reason why marrying in the same religion is also very important you don't want to butt heads on everything especially not the big things like how to raise you children solve problems ect. Religion and seeing eye to eye on it and practice it is very important for marriage.

It may be important for you to marry someone from your religion, but many make it work just fine otherwise. I'm glad you've found what works for you. From your other posts, you certainly deserve happiness and have worked hard to get where you are. I can relate.

I find it a little funny that you say you get heat for sticking to your principles. Being non-religious isn't something you can advertise. I do get what you're saying though. It depends on how religious you are. There's an acceptable level, and while you and I would think we're at odds, we're just at different ends of the same argument...I'm not religious enough and you're probably too religious...in general.

I find religion fascinating. I'm a naturally a very logical person and have a hard time reconciling all the hypocrisy. I'm very interested to hear everyone's point of view though. 

GilliC

TattieSoup said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

Conflict resolution might be different in Christian marriage since the Bible sets out specific  roles for men and women in marriage, eg the husband being the head of the household. And there could be practical issues related to religion like morality of using contraception or paying church dues when money is tight.

Even where some issues are the same you might want a Christian viewpoint, for example if you don't want your child being taught about evolution in school - anyone can disagree with their child's curriculum but in that case someone might feel another Christian would better understand why it is so important to them.

Have any Christian wives on here watched the Marriage Retreat?
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1684558/

But wouldn't that be denomination-specific? Views on gender roles, contraception, alcohol consumption, etc all vary extremely by denomination.

Since this post was specifically denomination-agnostic, I was curious what the non-denominational yet still specifically-Christian issues would be.

I think the only one that came up in our marriage was divorce. We both saw it as a non-option given our religious beliefs, and it took us years to reconcile those beliefs with the reality of our unhappiness. However, there are also plenty of non-Christian couples who have similar views on divorce, so again I don't really see it as a Christian-specific issue.

MommyLiberty5013

GilliC said:

TattieSoup said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

Conflict resolution might be different in Christian marriage since the Bible sets out specific  roles for men and women in marriage, eg the husband being the head of the household. And there could be practical issues related to religion like morality of using contraception or paying church dues when money is tight.

Even where some issues are the same you might want a Christian viewpoint, for example if you don't want your child being taught about evolution in school - anyone can disagree with their child's curriculum but in that case someone might feel another Christian would better understand why it is so important to them.

Have any Christian wives on here watched the Marriage Retreat?
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1684558/

But wouldn't that be denomination-specific? Views on gender roles, contraception, alcohol consumption, etc all vary extremely by denomination.

Since this post was specifically denomination-agnostic, I was curious what the non-denominational yet still specifically-Christian issues would be.

I think the only one that came up in our marriage was divorce. We both saw it as a non-option given our religious beliefs, and it took us years to reconcile those beliefs with the reality of our unhappiness. However, there are also plenty of non-Christian couples who have similar views on divorce, so again I don't really see it as a Christian-specific issue.

The bolded is an interesting point. Yes, it's true, much varies by denomination.

I am a member of a specific denomination, but the Bible doesn't actually have any denominations and it specifically denounces them as creations of man and not what Jesus intended for His church. The problem is sinful humankind wanting to "own" something and make it to suit their own needs (whatever those needs are). So, denominations are humankind's mark on Christianity. Whether it's religion or something else, we humans have a way of taking it and wanting to control it and manage it.

In God's eyes, there would be no denominations - just people who follow Christ and those who don't.

This is actually something I really wrestle with. If God doesn't want denominations, why then, do I attend a specific one instead of going to a non-denominational church? What I have found is that many (not all) non-denominational churches, while they don't subscribe to a specific doctrine, are just all over the place and in some ways do not model Scripture properly anyway as God intends it. So, I figure my denomination that I do attend is the "least worst" possibility. It is errant in some ways, and is errant just because it exists, but I don't find and cannot find one that I think holds closer to the Truth.

Also, an interesting point is that denominations are truly a problem of the West. The Church in the Middle East, Asia, and Africa is EXPLODING from growth and from what I have read, it isn't denomination-specific. It's just Christian. But, I live here in the West, so I have to make an informed choice - based on Scripture.

 

Disneygeek77

I'm a Chrisitan wife.  We have been married for almost 10 years and have two living children.  Our first passed away when she was four months old and I did have a miscarriage in April. 

GilliC

MommyLiberty5013 said:

Also, an interesting point is that denominations are truly a problem of the West. The Church in the Middle East, Asia, and Africa is EXPLODING from growth and from what I have read, it isn't denomination-specific. It's just Christian. But, I live here in the West, so I have to make an informed choice - based on Scripture.

My XH was from India, and he had no idea about denominations. Beyond Catholic and Protestant, they don't really address it. His family's church is very close to Anglican or Church of England, but there are definitely some other churches that are more similar to other denominations.

In China, there was pretty much just one big Protestant church, because dealing with the government was too big a hassle to divide any more than necessary. Basically everyone just shows up to one huge service with their passport (to prove that they're not Chinese nationals, since it's illegal for the locals to attend a religious service that isn't government sanctioned.

aimindahouse

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

It's interesting to see everyone's answer to this question. I love hearing how everyone incorporates their beliefs in their relationships. 

Sillygirl45 I think it is a great question you've asked. My husband and I understand the purpose of guidelines and we truly appreciate how the bible informs us how to live, however, the focus is less on the guidelines and more on the guide. 

I have not had a child yet, but everyone I know says they never experienced love like the kind they have for their child. My God has shown this kind of love to me and I (my husband as well) am so caught up in it. It is a love like no other, beautifully full of mercy, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and I could go on and on. He gives this love to me and also teaches me how to give it. So the love my husband and I share comes from what we learn from the best teacher ever!

This is just the experience of a girl who's been loved by God:) not very logical but it's all I have...when dealing with our issues, we deal with them from the foundation of love and with the guidance of the one who loves even the most unloveable.

Louser2be

Hi! I was born and raised in church and up until about 9 months to a year ago I attended church every weekend... I've been married almost 6 months. Life has changed and I'm not sure why. My husband says I dont communicate with him but I thought I did...

Sillygirl45

aimindahouse said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

It's interesting to see everyone's answer to this question. I love hearing how everyone incorporates their beliefs in their relationships. 

Sillygirl45 I think it is a great question you've asked. My husband and I understand the purpose of guidelines and we truly appreciate how the bible informs us how to live, however, the focus is less on the guidelines and more on the guide. 

I have not had a child yet, but everyone I know says they never experienced love like the kind they have for their child. My God has shown this kind of love to me and I (my husband as well) am so caught up in it. It is a love like no other, beautifully full of mercy, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and I could go on and on. He gives this love to me and also teaches me how to give it. So the love my husband and I share comes from what we learn from the best teacher ever!

This is just the experience of a girl who's been loved by God:) not very logical but it's all I have...when dealing with our issues, we deal with them from the foundation of love and with the guidance of the one who loves even the most unloveable.

So, I promise to leave your thread after this...but...I feel soooo much hypocracy here. So, are you telling me I'm not loved by God since I don't "feel it"?

Kimbus22

aimindahouse said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

It's interesting to see everyone's answer to this question. I love hearing how everyone incorporates their beliefs in their relationships. 

Sillygirl45 I think it is a great question you've asked. My husband and I understand the purpose of guidelines and we truly appreciate how the bible informs us how to live, however, the focus is less on the guidelines and more on the guide. 

I have not had a child yet, but everyone I know says they never experienced love like the kind they have for their child. My God has shown this kind of love to me and I (my husband as well) am so caught up in it. It is a love like no other, beautifully full of mercy, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and I could go on and on. He gives this love to me and also teaches me how to give it. So the love my husband and I share comes from what we learn from the best teacher ever!

This is just the experience of a girl who's been loved by God:) not very logical but it's all I have...when dealing with our issues, we deal with them from the foundation of love and with the guidance of the one who loves even the most unloveable.

Nope.  Not even remotely the same thing.

aimindahouse

Sillygirl45 no not at all. My words weren't to tell you what you feel! I haven't a clue what you feel about God:0) and what right would I have to say something like that to anyone. Your question about God and dealing with the issues, made me ask myself how we deal with ours. My comment was purely how my husband and I deal with our issues. 

This thread was created to encourage one another, not to bash or even judged one another's comments. I hope you don't leave and I really hope my comment did not make you feel judged or hurt.

MommyLiberty5013

Sillygirl45 said:

aimindahouse said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

It's interesting to see everyone's answer to this question. I love hearing how everyone incorporates their beliefs in their relationships. 

Sillygirl45 I think it is a great question you've asked. My husband and I understand the purpose of guidelines and we truly appreciate how the bible informs us how to live, however, the focus is less on the guidelines and more on the guide. 

I have not had a child yet, but everyone I know says they never experienced love like the kind they have for their child. My God has shown this kind of love to me and I (my husband as well) am so caught up in it. It is a love like no other, beautifully full of mercy, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and I could go on and on. He gives this love to me and also teaches me how to give it. So the love my husband and I share comes from what we learn from the best teacher ever!

This is just the experience of a girl who's been loved by God:) not very logical but it's all I have...when dealing with our issues, we deal with them from the foundation of love and with the guidance of the one who loves even the most unloveable.

So, I promise to leave your thread after this...but...I feel soooo much hypocracy here. So, are you telling me I'm not loved by God since I don't "feel it"?

It does not look like she is referring to anybody except her and her husband here. I don't understand your word use of "hypocrisy" in the context of the PPs post. To what is it referring in the PPs post?

Sillygirl45

MommyLiberty5013 said:

Sillygirl45 said:

aimindahouse said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

It's interesting to see everyone's answer to this question. I love hearing how everyone incorporates their beliefs in their relationships. 

Sillygirl45 I think it is a great question you've asked. My husband and I understand the purpose of guidelines and we truly appreciate how the bible informs us how to live, however, the focus is less on the guidelines and more on the guide. 

I have not had a child yet, but everyone I know says they never experienced love like the kind they have for their child. My God has shown this kind of love to me and I (my husband as well) am so caught up in it. It is a love like no other, beautifully full of mercy, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and I could go on and on. He gives this love to me and also teaches me how to give it. So the love my husband and I share comes from what we learn from the best teacher ever!

This is just the experience of a girl who's been loved by God:) not very logical but it's all I have...when dealing with our issues, we deal with them from the foundation of love and with the guidance of the one who loves even the most unloveable.

So, I promise to leave your thread after this...but...I feel soooo much hypocracy here. So, are you telling me I'm not loved by God since I don't "feel it"?

It does not look like she is referring to anybody except her and her husband here. I don't understand your word use of "hypocrisy" in the context of the PPs post. To what is it referring in the PPs post?

Fair enough. I can admit when I am wrong. Hypocrisy isn't the right word in this situation. I have been to religious services where you are made to feel bad if you're not feeling the spirit in you. I was being unnecessarily defensive.

I probably shouldn't have even piped in on this thread, but I really have enjoyed reading everyone's responses and am glad I posed the question. 

I really find religion very interesting and enjoy hearing everyone's point of view.

Sillygirl45

aimindahouse said:

Sillygirl45 no not at all. My words weren't to tell you what you feel! I haven't a clue what you feel about God:0) and what right would I have to say something like that to anyone. Your question about God and dealing with the issues, made me ask myself how we deal with ours. My comment was purely how my husband and I deal with our issues. 

This thread was created to encourage one another, not to bash or even judged one another's comments. I hope you don't leave and I really hope my comment did not make you feel judged or hurt.

You seem like a lovely person and I really find religion so fascinating. I am so happy for you and how you feel. I was being unfair to you due to previous experiences and I apologize. Your posts show you are a true and lovely person. Though I may not agree with you 100%, I appreciate your consideration and enjoy your perspective. 

MommyLiberty5013

Sillygirl45 said:

MommyLiberty5013 said:

Sillygirl45 said:

aimindahouse said:

Sillygirl45 said:

What would religion have to do with how issues are handled? Not trying to be snarky, it's a real question.

It's interesting to see everyone's answer to this question. I love hearing how everyone incorporates their beliefs in their relationships. 

Sillygirl45 I think it is a great question you've asked. My husband and I understand the purpose of guidelines and we truly appreciate how the bible informs us how to live, however, the focus is less on the guidelines and more on the guide. 

I have not had a child yet, but everyone I know says they never experienced love like the kind they have for their child. My God has shown this kind of love to me and I (my husband as well) am so caught up in it. It is a love like no other, beautifully full of mercy, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and I could go on and on. He gives this love to me and also teaches me how to give it. So the love my husband and I share comes from what we learn from the best teacher ever!

This is just the experience of a girl who's been loved by God:) not very logical but it's all I have...when dealing with our issues, we deal with them from the foundation of love and with the guidance of the one who loves even the most unloveable.

So, I promise to leave your thread after this...but...I feel soooo much hypocracy here. So, are you telling me I'm not loved by God since I don't "feel it"?

It does not look like she is referring to anybody except her and her husband here. I don't understand your word use of "hypocrisy" in the context of the PPs post. To what is it referring in the PPs post?

Fair enough. I can admit when I am wrong. Hypocrisy isn't the right word in this situation. I have been to religious services where you are made to feel bad if you're not feeling the spirit in you. I was being unnecessarily defensive.

I probably shouldn't have even piped in on this thread, but I really have enjoyed reading everyone's responses and am glad I posed the question. 

I really find religion very interesting and enjoy hearing everyone's point of view.

I think your comment that I bolded is very interesting. I think that since God made us humans with emotions as part of our beings and natures, that emotion and feeling DO have a place in a worship setting since we come to Him with our whole selves - creations worshipping a Creator. However, I also think that one should not be solely led by ones emotions in things including faith and/or the outward expression of faith. To say or think that one isn't close to God, because one didn't have an exciting time in church is not a Scriptural. God speaks through all fashions of worship services, wherever two or more are gathered in His name. A Christian should be able to enter any Christian church and observe God's presence regardless of the music, the sermon, and the format of the service. He is present in all times and ways of worship from the most traditional hymn to the most rock-concert like song.