Any Christian Wives (All denominations!)?

aimindahouse

Sillygirl45 oh no worries, there's no need to apologize:) I can totally relate. I have also had my fair share of being treated unfairly and misunderstood for one reason or another...it's a natural response to protect ourselves to any hint of that stuff. You're sweet and I appreciate your kind words. Hope you have a fab weekend!

rayraex

What are some resources for establishing and maintaining a good Christian marriage?

lisa2008boo

rayraex said:

What are some resources for establishing and maintaining a good Christian marriage?

My husband and I love Pastor Mark Driscoll his teaching is awesome and very easy to follow. His wife Grace and him wrote Real Marriage as well as did a video series on it. My husband and I went through it together it was awesome and really helped our marriage. 

Here is the book it also has a study guide….

http://www.amazon.com/Real-Marriage-Truth-Friendship-Together/dp/1400205387/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1389260632&sr=8-1&keywords=real+marriage

Here is the video series it is free online to watch together so even if you don't get the book you can watch these….

http://marshill.com/search/results?q=real+marriage

He also has another series called the Peasant Princess it is all about marriage roles and goes through the Song of Solomon we really enjoyed it as well…. All these videos are free…

http://marshill.com/search/results?q=peasant+princess

TattieSoup

Before we got married my husband and I did the pre-marriage counselling version of this course and loved it, we agreed at the time we would love to do the marriage one when we had been married a while, maybe when we start thinking about kids.

http://www.relationshipcentral.org/marriage-course

WendyGR

rayraex said:

What are some resources for establishing and maintaining a good Christian marriage?

the 5 Love Languages really helped DH and me understand each other.

formerlyGDaisy09

This is a facinating discussion! DH and I were both raised in the church (abiet different denominations) He grew up in an evangelical church, while I grew up in a methodist/UCC community church. We live in the same area where DH grew up, and attended his church while we were dating. However, when we were planning our wedding the pastor at his church basically told us that we could not get married in his church nor would he perform the ceremony.  This was because we were living together.  And I completely understand that this went against the teachings of his church. Being raised in a church that took a more liberal view on things this was not my belief. Our decision to move in together had been one more of economic-reasons, and financially, finding a new place for one of us to live in the 8-9 months leading up to our wedding was impractical.

 Later the pastor, in a private conversation with DH, asked him if he was sure he wanted to marry me, said that it seemed I had loose morals and had corrupted DH.  Long story short this lead DH to break with his church, we found a wonderful church that is about 45 minutes from our house where we attended regularly leading up to our wedding, got married there and continued to attend on a regular baisis after the wedding.  However, the 45 minute drive has gotten to be too much, DH works Tuesday-Saturday and I work Mon-Fri, so spending the majority of sunday traveling to, attending, and traveling home from church was too much of a burden on our home life.  

We've been struggling to find a new church closer to our home.  I felt like I had such strong ties to my childhood church and we both really enjoy the pastor at the church where we got married (we'll still drive there occasionally).  I also have a hard tome when MIL calls me and says she'd really like for me to go to church with her, I feel unwelcome there.

There are a lot of issues religion, not just christianity, can raise in a marriage.  

GilliC

rayraex said:

What are some resources for establishing and maintaining a good Christian marriage?

@rayraex We also had a great experience with The Five Love Languages. However, while it does have a very Christian perspective, it's not really specific to Christian marriages, and I've often recommended it to couples of other faiths.

Perhaps if you could explain what particular qualities you consider to make a "good Christian marriage" we might be able to suggest something more specific.

benozzy31

Jumping on to say hi on this thread :-) I grew up in a traditional church but husband and I go to a nondenominational church and did so together before getting married. The pastor that married us and an intern at the church gave us pre marital counseling. Its nice to find other people on the board who identify as Christians too.

NoeK

Christian wife here. Funny thing I haven't posted in a long time but I came on here specifically looking to see if a Christian faith based group had been established yet. Great thread!

NoeK

rayraex said:

What are some resources for establishing and maintaining a good Christian marriage?

I have found ALOT of helpful articles and books here. http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/couples-parents/

They are also free to download so its a win win for me

GilliC

NoeK said:

rayraex said:

What are some resources for establishing and maintaining a good Christian marriage?

I have found ALOT of helpful articles and books here. http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/couples-parents/

They are also free to download so its a win win for me

KevinsTinyDancer

I've been looking for a message board that interested me. I am a Christian wife and we've been married going on 4 months (been together for 6 years). I was happy to come across this Christian group. 

KevinsTinyDancer

I know this is a silly question, but can someone tell me how to add the countdown ticker to my signature in the forum? I did it when I was on the Knot, but it's been so long, I can't remember how I did it. I tried the hyperlink, but it just puts the code up and not the ticker. Any help is appreciated. Thanks  :-/

November42

Like you, I wasn't brought up in a Christian household. I started going to church after we got engaged, and really got into it. I have anxiety and depression, and when I'm low church and God's love keeps me going (sounds cheesy but it's true! I get so much peace from going to church). I wish I'd started going earlier, but at least I've got there now. 

Unfortunately my husband doesn't have any religious beliefs, he respects mine but he doesn't come to church. Going to church isn't really a part of everyday life in our community - it's usually just the same people every week, with a few extras if it's Easter or Christmas or a special event. I'd love for my husband to get involved, and am slowly trying to bring him round to the idea of accompanying me to church. He'll come if I'm singing (I'm in the choir) as the choir teacher sometimes gets me to do a solo, or if it's Christmas etc. Of course I don't want to force it on him, so we're taking it slowly. 

It would be great to have a board for like minded people, I agree with the other person who posted that!

KatieCutie05

I'm a Newbie here and DH and I are both Christian, though he is new and still learning. We both attend a couples small group through our church once a week. We are non denominational and we believe in solely what's written in the bible as interpreted for ourselves so there's very little religious practices since many are made up by people years ago and are not solely biblically based. Simply put we try to put God first in our lives and our relationship. As I'm discovering a Christian marriage is extremely different then a non Christian one. But the way I see it God created marriage and he created it to last a lifetime...so I will follow his ways because  Gods a lot smarter then me and he knows what he's doing..... So with the divorce rate nowadays.... I'd rather not listen to society. 

tiffielynn91

Hello, 

My Hubby and I have been married for just over a year and are both active in our church. Mainly with the youth  being group leaders, we also have a small young adults group that meets a few times a year for a big get together. I would love to get to know more wives that help build their marriages around their faith. And have advice for a newbe like me

benozzy31

Having a hard time today.  I don't really have any Christ following married friends nearby, but I am going to a small group tomorrow that just started in December.  Would appreciate prayer for both of us today if anyone sees this.  Thanks.