Never Should Have Asked...

Knottie45547263

Not normal at all. 

thesummersky

Mrs.Rad888 said:

The only people who get to weigh in about what's allowed within your marriage are you and your H. Since you are new to sex, it may take a while to figure out where you stand on certain things. But, it the only reason you are against something is because someone else told you that you should be, it's time to re-evaluate. It's OK to masturbate, normal even. Sometimes when DH and I are being lazy, we find it easier to mutually masturbate rather than get all hot and sticky with the usual lovemaking. And sometimes I masturbate when I'm having trouble falling asleep at night. Sometimes I watch porn and use that to get off, but I know that not everyone is OK with porn.

What I'm trying to say is that no one except you gets to dictate what your limits are, sex-wise. One of these days you may even find yourself in an open marriage, or polyamoury. Not everyone's cup of tea, but it just has to work for you and your H.

Yes!

Every couple is so different. My husband and I are devout Christians and have had many debates about the place of masturbation in our marriage before even getting married. For us, it should never be something that we desire more than sex with one another (though that won't ever be  a problem ), but it's definitely helped us both to learn more about what pleases the other, and it honestly, I think it's great to do so together, especially if one of us isn't feeling up to the whole shabang.

OP, I truly do understand how you feel, and it is truly between your husband and yourself to decide what the standard will be for you. Also, I greatly admire your self-control and commitment to purity to wait until marriage. Kudos!